Comfort the crying baby, I have not failed with this trick! (including practical experience)

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Mom @Shuozai Mom from the Lilac Mom App "Parent-Child Education" planet shared her tips on coping with her baby's crying.

This method is currently effective for one year old and nine months of simple communication of children in Shuo boy, specially to share.

Background of your baby's physical and mental development

At present, the one-year-old and nine-month-old Children of Shuo boy are beginning to gradually develop towards the "terrible" two-year-old and awaken their self-awareness. What used to say and do, now say "don't don't don't don't don't don't don Need to spend more time communicating with him. The baby's language development is that he can say some words that he uses every day and can communicate easily.

Intrinsic logic

At this stage, the baby begins to have the concept of "me", has a certain sense of order with self-centeredness, and at the same time, the imagination ability begins to become stronger. There is often a violent emotional reaction to things that do not go as expected by themselves. What we need to do is to accompany him to sort out what he wants to do, brainstorm in the brain, simulate what he wants to do and the scene, the more detailed the language description, the better the baby's sense of experience, the easier it is to appease, and the better it will be discussed.

Practical examples

Scene: Late at night, I'm going out to play!

Before the age of one and a half years, Shuo Boy has always had good work and rest habits, going to bed at half past eight, falling asleep around nine o'clock, and can sleep all the time. In the last half a month, I often start crying and going out before I am about to fall asleep.

Sleep at ten o'clock in the evening...

Baby: (crying and screaming) Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Mom: How did the baby cry? (Hold in your arms to give you a sense of security, gently pat your back) Can you tell your mother why you are so sad? Does the baby tell the mother what he wants to do, and how can the mother do it to help you?

Baby: Go out ~~Go out and play~~

Mom: Oh, the baby wants to go out and play, what does the baby want to go out and play?

Baby: Play ball ball, play ball ball ~~

Mom: The baby wants to play balls, what kind of balls to play, do we go to play basketball or football? (Guide your thinking, start drawing the pie).

Baby: Play soccer, play soccer~~

Mom: Oh, the baby wants to play football, did the baby go out to play football during the day today? (Start guiding kick memories, linked to real-life scenes).

Baby: No

Mom: Oh, the baby didn't mention the ball today, is it a pity, kicking the ball is fun isn't it, let's play with Grandpa on the weekend, right? (Negative answer leads to recalling the real scene again).

Baby: Grandma, Grandpa, playing football (he began to think back, at this time it was over and the crying began to recall the pleasant experience in his mind).

Mom: Oh, and Grandma, the baby kicks the ball to Grandma, Grandma kicks the ball to Grandpa, Grandpa kicks the ball to you, do you have a good time playing together (reinforcing the pleasurable experience), is the baby and Grandma happy to play football?

Baby: Happy. (Confirm forward feedback).

Mom: Wow, it's so much fun to play football, no wonder the baby wants to go out and play. (Definitely positive mood) You see it's getting dark now, right, Grandpa is asleep, the children upstairs and downstairs are also asleep, The Bear Bunny (his good friend of the comfort toy) is also asleep, or the baby will sleep, we sleep well, tomorrow morning get up and have the energy, let's find Grandma to play football, you get up to eat breakfast, immediately tell Grandpa to go down and play football (guide the next day's expectations, let him first imagine what he wants to do in his head, the more specific the better). Do you want to play the red soccer ball or the black and white soccer ball?

Baby: Red.

Mom: Oh, the baby likes the red ball, tomorrow morning we have breakfast (emphasize tomorrow to do it) take your red ball, go downstairs with grandma and grandpa, and then we take the ball to the square downstairs, we may meet the little guitar sister (his good friend) and sister playing football with the sister in the next building. So let's sleep now and go to my sister tomorrow, and now lie down and tell you the story of the little snail (his favorite bedtime story)?

Baby: Good, good (after the excitement eased, he was already very sleepy, and he fell down and began to be confused).

Successfully fall asleep in the process of storytelling!!!

summary

In addition to being used to coax sleep, it is also generally applicable to the mother to temporarily leave the transition separation anxiety (guide the baby to imagine what the mother will play together after she returns), suddenly want to play with a toy that is not at hand and other things that you want to do but cannot achieve temporarily, usually after the children cry, they can get good results through guidance, that is, some highly sensitive babies need the family to have great patience to slowly communicate and comb the details, and slowly soothe (Shuozai classmates start at least an hour, and the old mother has a dry mouth every day T_T).

Let's be gentle and determined parents together, and become better selves in the process of educating our children!!

Audit expert Ye Zhuang

He is a member of the Chinese Psychological Society

Member of the American Association of Psychological Sciences (APS).

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