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You never know which tomorrow or the accident will come first, unless one day you actually lie in your hospital bed and really feel the accident.
At that moment, you will regret that you have not loved yourself well for so much time in the past. I will regret not being nice to myself, regretting that there are many things that have not been done, regretting that the people I want to meet have not yet met, and what I want to say has not been said.
You will have a fear from the depths of your heart, a fear of death, and the fear will disappear into the world without a trace.
Many things in life have become less important, and many truths have suddenly been understood, and you will say to yourself over and over again: you must carry it, you must survive.
If you can survive, you will love yourself and live well.
Some readers left messages telling me that they were suffering from cancer in their forties, and when they found out, it was in the middle stage, and there was room for redemption, and the doctor said that as long as they cooperated with the treatment, the probability of recovery was very large.
But even so, she still suffered a lot of sins, and the money spent a lot.
In the past, she was the most reluctant to spend money, saving money and frugality, and only wanted to make her family live better. But unexpectedly, during the hospitalization period, rather than worrying about her physical condition, the family was more concerned about how much money was spent.
This was the point that made her feel most chilled.
Her husband, in particular, was always wondering when he would be reimbursed and said that he would save so much money for many years.
She felt that her heart was very painful, but she didn't know how to say it, and could only go along with it: "Yes, we are not rich, it is an ordinary family, so much money, it is really painful." ”
She said she was a housewife who usually didn't have a job, and taking care of the family was all that work. The husband didn't say anything excessive on his lips, but in his heart, he must be uncomfortable.
He will feel that the money spent is his own money.
This serious illness made her completely understand that there is only one thing that is really worth doing in this life, that is, to love herself. Only when you know how to think for yourself, only by relying on yourself for everything, and knowing how to be responsible for your own life, you don't have to look at anyone's face, and you don't have to live so bottomlessly.
Although I have reached middle age, as long as I can still move around, I have to do something, a little bit of a source of income. In this way, you can let the later life have a bit of dominance.
One: Love yourself, do these three words, life will win
Many people know the importance of loving themselves, but how to love themselves is rarely thought about too much.
In my opinion, loving yourself is not a slogan, not to buy yourself expensive clothes, how beautiful jewelry, or how delicious food to eat, but to know what you want and then try to live the life you want. To live according to one's own ideas and wishes is to truly succeed in living one's own life.
If you don't have your own ideas, you can only passively follow the requirements of others, or you obviously have ideas, but you don't have the ability and courage to implement them, you can only look at other people's faces and obey other people's arrangements for everything.
Then such a life is not the life you want, and naturally it is not a happy life in the true sense.
Two: People who know how to love themselves will not live too badly
Hao Scarlett in the world famous book "Gone with the Wind" is a person who knows how to love herself, and her self-love is mainly reflected in living soberly and transparently, knowing what she wants and how to get it.
After the outbreak of the Civil War, it became a question of whether she could even survive.
When there was nothing she could do, she chose to use her marriage as a bet and chip, which was an extremely sober move, but it was not understood and criticized by many people.
In the eyes of some, she has desecrated the sanctity of marriage, against her own will, and is an extremely selfish woman. But Scarlett Hao didn't think so, she only hoped that this marriage would help her through the chaos.
Sure enough, Scarlett's life got better and better, she has always been a woman with a clear goal, living for herself all her life.
In real life, many women are very selfless, dedicating themselves to their parents, dedicating themselves to their husbands, and dedicating themselves to their children, thinking that the family tree they have watered with all their strength will grow lush and can bring themselves a little protection.
As the saying goes, relying on everyone to run, relying on trees to fall, the only one who can rely on yourself is yourself.
Women still have to learn to be selfish, like Scarlett Hao, to put their lives first, rather than always considering the needs of others and ignoring themselves.
Many of the girls who grew up with Hao Sijia married wives and godsons after they became adults, and from that moment on, they lost their lives.
At that time, women's status was quite humble, they received the education instilled by their parents, and they also married into a good family as soon as possible.
As a result, many women regard finding a good destination as the ultimate goal of life, and have never thought that there is another possibility in their lives.
But Hao Sijia never thought so, she bravely pursued her true love, and like those warriors, she also took up the war gun, more like a man in the business field, and finally, turned her marriage into a powerful weapon to help herself.
As said in the movie "Big Fish and Begonias", in this short life, you may as well be bold, to love someone, to climb a mountain.
Everyone may be living the life in front of them, but it does not lose the courage to look for the possibility of another ninety-nine lives.
I hope that every woman can understand the meaning of loving herself, can love herself from the bottom of her heart, and live herself.
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