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Jiao Manting
Jiao Manting is the eldest daughter of well-known actress Jiao Enjun and makeup artist Huang Wanlin, born in September 1995 in Taipei, Taiwan Province, China.
When Jiao Manting was ten years old, she witnessed her father and mother divorce, and she once divorced them because she did not understand them.
The father-daughter relationship with dad was not close at all, and he hadn't even seen each other for 7 years.
But with the increase of age, Jiao Manting was touched by her father's love a little, and the father-daughter relationship gradually broke the ice.
Now that she herself has entered the industry as an actor, she understands her father's difficulties at the beginning, and thus becomes intimate.
01 Happiness is broken
Jiao Manting originally had a happy and happy family, and her father Jiao Enjun was a well-known actor and a "costume male god" in everyone's mind.
Many of the classic roles he has created are deeply loved by the audience, such as the dashing and handsome Zhan Zhao in "Seven Heroes and Five Righteousness", the amorous prodigal son Li Xunhuan in "Little Li Flying Knife", and the "beautiful man" Erlang God in "Baolian Lantern", which are all the audience's favorites.
More importantly, she is the love crystallization of her father Jiao Manting and her mother Huang Wanlin, and they both love her into the heart.
Unfortunately, all this came to an abrupt end when she was ten years old.
Jiao Manting's father and mother met at work, her father Jiao Enjun is an actor, and her mother Huang Wanlin is a makeup artist.
The two of them fell in love at the best age, and eight years later they entered the palace of marriage, and soon after, the eldest daughter Jiao Manting was born.
Jiao Enjun and Huang Wanlin were immersed in the joy of parenthood, and two years later they welcomed their second daughter, officially upgrading from a family of three to a happy family of four.
Jiao Enjun faced the arrival of these two daughters, he was extremely happy, regarded them as treasures like their mothers, and worked harder to make them worry-free.
Happy family of four
At that time, Jiao Enjun and Huang Wanlin supported and understood each other, and were recognized as a model couple in the circle.
Jiao Manting and her sister Jiao Yizhen under the careful care of their mother, from the swaddling baby to a little girl, the sisters have inherited the excellent genes of their parents, and they look beautiful and outstanding.
Every time Jiao Enjun came home from filming, opened the door, and a pair of daughters ran toward him, delicately shouting "Daddy" and "Daddy", he held them in his arms, and the tiredness of filming instantly disappeared.
Whenever Huang Wanlin saw this scene, a happy smile would appear on his face, how beautiful they were at that time, the daughters were their careful livers, and Jiao Enjun had pushed away a lot of film contracts in order to accompany them more.
Unfortunately, these were in vain in a divorce agreement of their mother.
One day in March 2005, Jiao Enjun was filming "Baolian Lantern", when he was suddenly told by his assistant that his wife Huang Wanlin had called.
Jiao Enjun was full of joy and was touched by his wife's loving phone call, but when he happily picked up the phone without saying two words, the smile on his face froze.
It turned out that what came from the other end of the phone was not love, but a few words from his wife: "Let's divorce, I have filed a divorce application with the court, you can come back and sign it as soon as possible!" ”
Still
These words were like a thunderbolt on a sunny day to Jiao Enjun, and he didn't know what he had done wrong?
In addition to desperate work, he did not do anything else to be sorry for his wife.
And for so many years, they have gotten along with each other like this,
It was formed by the two of them running into each other, and he would spend as much time as possible with his wife and daughter.
There may be some misunderstanding between this, and he was stunned and stunned, and he flew back to Taiwan with the crew for leave overnight to try to save it.
Jiao Enjun with the eldest daughter
02 Irretrievable
But when he rushed home and appeared in front of Huang Wanlin with a haggard face,
She was no longer the smiling face that used to look at him happy, but coldly pointed to the divorce agreement on the table and asked him to sign it.
Jiao Enjun's heart suddenly fell to the bottom, he knew that there was no way to recover it, but he still didn't understand, he asked Huang Wanlin in a trembling voice:
"Why is that? Man Ting is only ten years old, Yun Ru (later changed to Jiao Yihao) is also only eight years old, they are still so young, can you bear to let them lack a father and a mother? ”
Jiao Enjun and his youngest daughter
Huang Wanlin was unmoved,
She made this decision, which she had deliberately and caused a long period of separation, only to see her expressionlessly say:
I can't stand this kind of life of gathering less and leaving more anymore!
Jiao Enjun saw that Huang Wanlin had a resolute attitude, he also knew her character, once he made up his mind, he would not be soft-hearted, and finally he had to agree to divorce.
However, for the custody of his two daughters, he resolutely refused, because he had worked hard to shoot dramas for so many years to provide a better life for his two little princesses;
Jiao Enjun and the eldest daughter Jiao Manting
But as a mother, Huang Wanlin does not want to give up the custody of her daughter.
They were also her careful livers, the flesh that fell from her body, and she raised them with a handful of and a handful of urine.
Regarding the custody of the two daughters, neither of them will give up half a step.
For the two daughters, they definitely did not want their parents to be separated, and Jiao Manting, who was already sensible at that time, thought that her parents' divorce was the reason for her father, because he was not at home for many years, and it was her mother who took care of her and her sister.
As everyone knows, her father Jiao Enjun finally came out of the house for her and her sister.
He gave all the property he had acquired since his debut filming at the age of 18 to their mother in exchange for their custody.
Jiao Enjun, who has nothing, in order to let his two daughters continue their carefree childhood, in order to provide them with a better life, he has to desperately take over the drama one after another.
But in this way, he had no time to accompany and take care of his daughters, and in desperation, he had to entrust his two daughters to the care of his brother Jiao Enhong.
03 The misunderstanding is even deeper
Originally, Jiao Manting could not forgive her father and mother's divorce, but now he not only could not accompany himself and his sister, but also entrusted them to the care of his uncle.
Giving them a feeling of being sent under the fence, Jiao Manting's misunderstanding of her father deepened.
In the early years, Jiao Manting's grandfather was very strict with his father and uncle, so that the Jiao family always had a family style of "eating without speaking, sleeping without speaking, eating and picking vegetables, not confronting the words of elders, and performing the ritual of kneeling and worshiping every New Year's Festival".
These etiquettes have benefited Jiao Enjun and Jiao Enhong, especially Jiao Enhong, who is a teacher, and has perfectly inherited such a family style, so it is inevitable that he will not use these to the younger generations.
As an uncle, Jiao Enhong really treats his little nieces as his daughters and treats them very harshly.
One day in 2007, he was confronted while instructing Jiao Manting in his homework, and in a fit of rage, he hit Jiao Manting with a broomstick.
Afterwards, Jiao Manting told her mother Huang Wanlin about this matter, and Huang Wanlin immediately took her daughter to do an injury appraisal and took back the custody of the two daughters on this ground.
Jiao Enjun was very broken, lost his marriage, and lost two daughters, what made him more painful was that it was difficult to even see his daughters after that, every time he went to see them, Huang Wanlin refused to see his father and daughter on the grounds that they were not at home.
Jiao Enjun and his daughters
And Jiao Manting and her sister, who are with their mothers, are often taught by their mother not to spend the night with strange boys.
In their understanding, including their father is a strange man, Jiao Enjun is very sad.
Maybe at that time, in the impression of the daughters, it was the father who did not do it right, it was he who was sorry for his mother, it was he who could not accompany them and handed them over to others to take care of.
In fact, for their father, that time was really difficult: in order to give his family a better life, he worked hard and finally the family broke up; after the marriage failed, he adjusted his expression of love and wanted to spend more time with his daughter.
Penniless, he had no shelter, and even when he went back to visit them, he lived in a friend's house, and he had to earn money in a short period of time to support himself and his daughter.
But these daughters do not understand, they want to be very simple, but he can not give.
04 Father's love is like a mountain
For a while, Jiao Enjun could not contact his ex-wife, nor could he contact his daughters, he returned to Taiwan for the New Year after filming, wanted to see his daughters, only to find that the door was closed, Huang Wanlin's phone could not be called, and he searched for the places where his daughters went every day, and there was no trace.
As the days passed, Jiao Enjun still had no news of his ex-wife and daughters, and his thoughts had nowhere to rest, so he published a blog post on the Internet called "Letter to Two Daughters".
Jiao Enjun blog
In his letter, he expressed his thoughts and love for his two daughters,
Finally, he also hoped that some well-meaning person would see the letter and help him tell his daughters that he loved them, or that someone could tell him that they were doing well.
In this short letter, all that was seen was the father's deep love for his daughters, and the staff next to Jiao Enjun saw that he was increasingly haggard and distressed.
At that time, Jiao Enjun's agent asked him if he needed to contact a lawyer to file a lawsuit, because as the father of the child, he had the right to visit, and Jiao Enjun's words also made people tearful.
He said, "No. With an ex-wife on one side and a daughter on the other, I don't want to use legal means to solve the problem.
That would hurt them. I don't want to force it, I just want my daughter to be free to do what they love to do. ”
In this way, Jiao Enjun hid his love for his daughters in one blog post after another.
I always recall the scene when my daughters were just born, the scenes with them in my childhood...
He felt extremely happy and sad, but fortunately, the kung fu paid off, and his love for his daughters finally had a glimmer of response.
It turned out that during that period of time without any news, it was not Huang Wanlin who hid his two daughters.
It was only because they went on vacation during that time that they turned off their mobile phones and could not be contacted.
Although it is still difficult to contact the daughters once and meet them once, fortunately, it is a new beginning, and Jiao Enjun continues to express his love for his daughters on the Internet.
In 2010, he wrote an article on his blog called "New Beginnings" to express his thoughts on his daughters, and told them that "Dad has the ability to buy a house, he has the ability to give you a warm home, and Dad is working hard for you." ”
He still prays every day for the day he meets his daughters.
Finally, one day in May 2011, he received an email from his youngest daughter that read, "Dad, I miss you, in a few months during the summer vacation, will I go to Beijing to see you?" ”
A short sentence made Jiao Enjun happy for a long time, it turned out that the "letter" he wrote did not sink into the sea, and his thoughts and love for his daughters were felt by them.
Jiao Enjun couldn't wait, and replied to his daughter's email with tears in his eyes: "Good, good, I will help you buy a plane ticket to Beijing..."
Finally waited for the summer vacation, Jiao Enjun finally met the little daughter, only four years have not seen, she has grown into a big girl of one meter seven, looking at the little daughter in front of her, the eyebrows are clear, the long hair fluttering little daughter, the impression is still the little baby waiting to be fed.
Jiao Yizhen looked at his still handsome father and called out kindly: "Daddy", Jiao Enjun sounded familiar and strange, he suppressed the excitement in his heart, pretended to be relaxed and gave his daughter a hug, and at the same time touched the little daughter's head as before and said:
"Daughter, I'm so happy to see you, do you miss Daddy?"
Father and daughter get together, and happy times always pass quickly.
This time Jiao Yizhen could only stay in Beijing for four days, but during these four days, Jiao Enjun accompanied him the whole time, and he took his young daughter to visit the whole city of Beijing, leaving the happy laughter and photos of their father and daughter in every corner.
In fact, for so many years, her sister Manting and herself missed their father very much, and they loved him very much, because they were still young and did not understand things, and did not understand their father's hard work and efforts.
Now that they have grown up, they understand their father's difficulties.
05 Father and daughter are finally reunited
After her sister Jiao Yizhen and her father were together in Beijing for four days, she told her sister about the bits and pieces of her father's time with her father, and her sister also deeply felt her father's love for them.
In fact, with the increase of age, the heart of her sister Jiao Manting has long begun to understand her father, and she also wants to find those lost companions around her father, but later because of her studies, she rarely has the opportunity to reunite with her father.
In the Spring Festival of 2012, Jiao Enjun returned to Taiwan for the Chinese New Year, and finally ate a simple reunion dinner with his two daughters, at the dinner table, the father and daughter felt the warmth of the long-lost home, and they agreed to meet again in Beijing during the summer vacation.
The father-daughter relationship began to ease, Jiao Enjun's state returned, and at the same time, his career began to climb to a new peak.
But for Jiao Enjun at this time, nothing is more important than his daughter.
Looking back on the past, he has come all the way through the ups and downs, the original busy work is to provide a better material foundation for the family, live a better life, but in the end because of the gathering of less and more in exchange for the failure of marriage, but also did not let the daughters get happy satisfaction.
So after reuniting, he cherished every bit of his daughter and seized all the time to share the joy of the world.
At the same time, everything he does revolves around his daughters, especially their emotional companionship, and he expresses his attention and love for them to his daughters by writing letters, oral expressions, and songs, and regains the understanding and respect of their daughters.
Jiao Enjun and Lin Qianjue
When Jiao Enjun relaxed his mind, emotionally he ushered in a new spring,
In 2014, he and his old love Lin Qianjue entered into marriage and started a new life.
As a daughter, although Jiao Manting still has a certain gap with her father, she still went to his wedding to see her father regain happiness.
However, the marriage did not survive the seven-year itch after all, and it came to an end in 2021.
But in terms of intimate relationship with his daughter, he can now be said to be the happiest father, especially after Jiao Manting also embarked on the road of art, she can understand his father better.
After breaking the ice of her relationship with her father, Jiao Manting said: "In fact, we have very similar personalities, so gradually I seem to know him better." ”
However, when it comes to her identity as a "star second generation", she said that her father's aura will never change, but she does not want to rely on her father, she wants to go out of her own path through her own efforts.
However, as a father, Jiao Enjun is a "daughter slave", he can't do it completely without interfering, he once didn't want his daughter to take his own path, because it was too hard, but because he saw that she loved, he chose to respect and try to help her complete her dreams.
He would call his daughter when she was on a show or a movie, and he would be directly intimidated when others compared his daughter to a friend's daughter...
He will also let his daughters "toss" themselves, even if it is to dress him up as a "little fairy", he will try his best to cooperate, for him, there are women who are full of everything, which is also to make up for the company of their daughters when they were young.
Jiao Enjun women's clothing photo
This is probably the best look of the Father's love, who, though he does not say it, is always there; even in those days when he cannot accompany him,
He is also doing everything he can to express his attention and love for them;
And as a daughter, I also felt the deep love of my father along with the years,
And after taking the same path as his father, empathy, understanding him, supporting him, caring for him.
Now 26-year-old Jiao Manting has participated in some works as an actress, although her fame is not as good as her father, she is still growing.
Finally, to share a very touching passage for everyone, it is written in "The Shawshank Redemption":
There is no true happiness without experiencing suffering, and it is therefore necessary to endure the torment of suffering before redemption.
Deeply believed that everyone has a source of wisdom and love in their hearts,
Everyone can be their own happiness coach to save themselves.
Jiao Enjun, because of his love for his daughter, walked out of the shadow of a failed marriage, obtained rebirth, and at the same time realized his desire to love his daughter; and Jiao Manting, because after walking with his father, knew him better, knew his hardships and hardships, felt that his father had always been there, thus letting go of the impact of his divorce from his mother, and finally reconciling and meeting a better self.
Believe you, you too.
Future, bless all the best.
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