Liang Wendao once said this:
"The advantage of young people is that every young person believes that he can fly. When middle-aged people incite their wings, there are still heavy scales on both sides of the wings that cannot be shaken off. ”
Deeply.
As we get older, willfulness becomes a luxury. Everything is thought before and after, and I dare not be reckless, because the older I get, the heavier the responsibility, especially after middle age.
After middle age, most people will not have only one life, and there is a family to take care of, there are old and young, everywhere forces us to become well-behaved and sensible.
However, just making money to support our family still does not make us happy, because in life, some things cannot be measured by money.
After middle age, please be sure to cherish these three things.
01: Health
There is a question on Zhihu: "What is the most terrible thing in this world?" ”
There is a high praise below: "The most terrible thing in this world is not a lack of money, not a lack of love, but a lack of life." ”
Indeed it is. Money is a medium of material exchange, love is a higher spiritual need, and life is the root of everything.
Without health, without life, everything is nonsense. But in real life, many people see health as a wealth that will not diminish or disappear.
Don't take your body as a thing, or drink heavily, or stay up late, or overeating, etc., until the moment you lose your health, lying on a cold hospital bed, repenting, but unfortunately, it is too late.
Bacon once said, "A person can do a lot of stupid things in a lifetime, but the stupidest thing is to ignore health." ”
Whether it is to exchange your health for time, or to exchange your health for money, in the end, all the harm will be eaten back to yourself.
After middle age, please be sure to cherish your health and do not make some behaviors that hurt yourself because of a momentary impulse.
Good habits and a healthy body are the guarantee of happiness.
02: Time
After middle age, half of life is over, and time has become a more sensitive thing for us.
Mature and stable middle-aged people should know how to cherish time, but there are still many middle-aged people who do not know how to reflect on the first half of their lives, and do not know how to plan the second half of their lives, allowing time to slip away in their fingers.
It's like, ineffective socializing.
Useful social networking can bring you growth, while useless social networking will only waste your time and energy.
Know that when you are not good enough, no matter how many people you know, it will not be useful, after all, when you exchange social benefits as a tool, value will become the only criterion for others to help you.
After middle age, instead of allowing yourself to waste time on ineffective social interactions, it is better to put time on your own family and career, build a loving family, and stick to your career.
Time is not waiting for people, once you miss it, you may lose the opportunity forever, adding a sense of remorse for the rest of your life.
Therefore, after middle age, please be sure to cherish time.
03: Marriage
Roland once said: "Love does not have to be forced, but for marriage, love and marriage are two things; love is free, and marriage is morality and responsibility." ”
Love is very different from marriage. In love, when the passion and romance fade, you can not hesitate to quit each other's life, but in marriage, there are children and daughters, there will be more consideration.
After all, marriage is not a private affair of children, but a collection of responsibilities and morals, and even if a marriage ends in brokenness, it does not necessarily mean that responsibility has disappeared.
In his book The Enchanted Guide, Ziorang wrote: "Love does not make us abstain from seeing different thoughts. ”
Fidelity is only a choice in marriage, and only such a choice can bring us happiness and peace.
There is no guarantee that we will not see different thoughts, then let ourselves know more about restraint, do not indulge inappropriate desires, otherwise, when desire is wanton, when love breaks defense, when loyalty becomes a mirror flower and water moon, the happiness guarded by half a life will be completely shattered.
After middle age, please cherish marriage, resist the temptation of the outside world, and do not cross the line.
After middle age, please be sure to cherish these three things: health, time, marriage.
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