Professor Li Meijin believes that there is no innate personality, there is a personality, but this personality is cultivated, and there is no innate personality.
She said: "What is the most similar phenomenon of personality? It is particularly similar to speech, no one is born to speak, you can say whatever you are born in, the same is true of personality, and what kind of family you are born into will form an approximate character."
Generally speaking, 3-6 years old is the most critical stage of children's personality development, and data show that nearly 90% of children's personality and habits are formed in these years.
Therefore, if you want to have a child with good personality and habits, you need to pay more attention during this period, if the child has the next 3 small problems, parents must correct it in advance.
1, too shy
Shyness is a human nature, and moderate shyness is an act of self-preservation. But if children are too shy, causing them to withdraw and stagnate, it will hinder their physical and mental health development.
In addition, such children are more likely than ordinary children to have inferiority complexes, and once they encounter difficulties, they will have self-doubt and need to be improved in time.
Parents should do this: don't be too harsh on the child, shy children are not much different from other children, they just need more time to get into the state.
Be careful not to deliberately push them in front of people, although these children also like to hang out, but do not want to be watched by too many people; let them understand that at some point they should seize their rights and not lose opportunities because of shyness.
The most important thing to help children overcome shyness is to be patient, can not rush to achieve, in the face of shy children, office mothers should be patient to understand, patient help, step by step, guide them to gradually bid farewell to shyness, towards self-confidence and generosity.
2. Weak ability to be frustrated
As children grow up, they will not only encounter happy things, but also encounter various setbacks. In life, some children can quickly adjust from setbacks, while others cannot. For example, the same accidental fall, some children quickly climb up on their own, while some children wait for adults to help.
In fact, this is the difference in children's ability to resist setbacks. Every setback a child experiences can become an important life experience in the future. The right amount of frustration has a positive effect on all aspects of a child's growth.
To cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks, the most critical is to correctly handle their emotions, guide and correctly explain setbacks in the initial stage of 2-4-year-old babies starting to encounter setbacks; at the same time, parents should also pay attention to cultivating children's independence, self-confidence, and problem-solving ability in their usual upbringing, so that children feel that they are a capable, brave and persistent person, and they can resist setbacks when they grow up.
3. Sloppy and lazy
Hygiene can reflect the spirit of a person, a society, and even a country. In particular, the child's health status not only shows an external image, but also reflects the level of family upbringing.
Do not like to brush teeth, do not love to wash hands, do not change clothes frequently, these are all manifestations of unhygienic.
And once this bad disease is cultivated, it will be accompanied by a lifetime to a large extent and difficult to change. Therefore, we must let children take care of themselves and take care of their own lives from primary school, even if they are not beautiful by nature, generous and clean appearance can win a lot of extra points.
We must find out our own problems and correct ourselves through the children's problems, because all the problems of the children are our own problems, and we are the root of all problems.
Everything the child does is not wrong, the fault is that the parents are not well educated, every child is a blank piece of paper, and the first person to draw on it is the parent!