With the maturity of children's thinking, in the process of growing up, there will always be contact with problems related to "sex", although it is no longer the era of "talking about sexual discoloration", but some conservative parents are still very sensitive to sexual issues.
Adolescent children are full of curiosity about "sex", and the way parents deal with it at this time is crucial, which not only determines the child's correct cognition of "sex", but also determines the child's future life development.
The daughter secretly "pinched her legs" was discovered, and the different practices of the three mothers created three different lives for the daughter
First, the mother pretends that nothing happens, creating an "open girl"
Ms. Wang has a more conservative personality, usually has very strict requirements for her daughter, and almost does not allow contact with boys, perhaps under this pressure to stimulate her daughter's curiosity.
One night, Ms. Wang went to the toilet and found that her daughter was secretly pinching her legs in the room, and Ms. Wang, who felt embarrassed and indecent, blushed and walked away, as if she did not see it.
The attentive daughter knew that this kind of thing had been discovered by her mother, thinking that she would come back the next day to scold herself. However, Ms. Wang always deliberately avoided her daughter, and the daughter thought that her mother had acquiesced to this behavior, and her boldness was getting bigger and bigger.
Not only did she start falling in love, but sometimes she also watched bad videos, and when Ms. Wang found out about this situation, she just sighed.
Second, the mother split her head and covered her face to accuse, creating a "cowardly girl"
Ms. Liu also encountered the same situation as Ms. Wang, whose 15-year-old daughter is in the third year of junior high school and only returns home once every two weeks, and Ms. Wang wants to take her daughter out on the weekend to relax and relieve the pressure of study.
Ms. Liu just pushed open the door, the daughter sat up from the bed in a panic, her face was red, Ms. Liu thought that her daughter had a fever, but when she looked at her daughter's body again, she understood what was going on.
Ms. Liu, who has always been high, was angry on the spot, ignored her daughter's embarrassment, and began to count her daughters: she was so shameless at a young age! You'll get it when you grow up!
The daughter knew that she was wrong and did not respond, but since then, the daughter, who has always been lively and lovely, has begun to alienate others, her personality has become isolated, and people have become more and more inferior and timid.
Third, the mother actively and correctly guides to create a "confident girl"
Ms. He, as a teacher, did not encounter this situation like the first two mothers. When she accidentally bumped into her daughter's legs, her daughter acted overwhelmed, and Ms. He hurriedly reassured her daughter, waited for her daughter to stabilize her mood, and told her daughter that this was a normal physiological phenomenon after entering puberty and did not need to be minded.
After understanding her daughter's situation, Ms. He told her daughter about some health precautions and precautions, and popularized the relevant physiological knowledge to her daughter, so that her daughter could correctly understand the matter of "sex".
After ms. He's correct guidance, her daughter has become more optimistic and cheerful, full of confidence every day, never done anything out of the ordinary, and will take the initiative to communicate with Ms. He when she encounters the troubles of adolescence.
Why do adolescent girls have leg clamping behavior?
When girls reach puberty, the body's estrogen secretion increases, prompting the reproductive organs to mature, resulting in sexual impulses, which is a normal physiological phenomenon, but everyone's expression is different, and parents should also look at this behavior rationally.
If you find that your daughter has this behavior, how to guide it correctly?
1) Be calm and don't scold
The daughter is at an ignorant age, many things do not know right or wrong, if the words to the daughter are fierce, not only can not solve the problem, but also leave a damage to her soul.
2) Teach your daughter to face it correctly
Tell your daughter that this is a normal physiological impulse, do not need to be embarrassed, teach your daughter some correct ways to cope: for example, use other things to consume energy, there will be no impulse in this regard, and finally tell your daughter to pay attention to physiological hygiene.
3) Teach your daughter to learn to protect herself
To understand sexual knowledge, we must let the daughter learn to protect herself, tell the daughter what can be done, what can not be done, and can not use adolescence as a reason to do something out of the ordinary.
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