There is a saying that goes: character determines destiny! Children develop these three bad diseases, and their future development is certainly limited. Life is the best training camp, parents are the best psychologists for children, come and help children correct it.
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Parents say whatever they want
Is such a child too lacking in opinion?
Example: Mom asked Dongdong where to go to play, gave a lot of choices, waited for half a day, and the result was that Dongdong said: "You decide, you take me wherever I go." ”
The school teacher also reflected that the answer to the question in class, Dongdong's answer was originally correct, but because the classmate said other answers, he immediately changed his original answer to the wrong answer.
Expert analysis: Children lack "opinion", no matter how you inspire, children or only promises, do you feel particularly frustrated?
Children 3-8 years old this stage is very important, to focus on cultivating children's independent thinking, self-learning ability, otherwise, when parents are making decisions for their children.
After the child is also accustomed to this decision, he will lose more and more the independence of thinking and the ability to think actively, which is very unfavorable to the child's future growth.
Advice to parents: Cultivate children's independence, starting from small things, from helping mothers take slippers, to helping families buy vegetables, take your time, and let children complete some tasks independently.
Help children enhance self-confidence, each child has their own advantages, consciously boast, give children the opportunity to perform and positive expectations, help children correctly understand their own shortcomings.
In addition, parents should be less aggressive and give their children more space to express their opinions.
2
"I don't know, it's none of my business!"
Children who like to shirk responsibility are big problems
Example: Chenchen broke the vase at home and was found by his mother, but he did not say that it was made by his little brother who came to the house yesterday.
Expert analysis: the sense of responsibility is the basis of the child's sound personality, is based on the foundation of society, the child is unwilling to take responsibility, a large part of the reason is to avoid punishment.
Advice to parents: Children's sense of responsibility does not appear suddenly, but needs to be constantly cultivated.
For children aged 3-4, tell him in simple and accurate language to "do your own thing", such as: "The car should be put back in the garage" "The brush and the cap are good friends, don't let them separate".
For children aged 5-6 years, don't use the command sentence pattern "You're best..." "You should..." instead use the "I feel..." This respectful sentence pattern to arouse the child's sense of responsibility.
A larger child can take the child to participate in family labor and collective activities, encourage the child to participate in public welfare activities, etc., which is conducive to the cultivation of a sense of responsibility.
3
Children do things halfway
Three minutes of heat, lack of concentration
Example: Rong Rong always reads a few pages every time she reads a book, and she can't help but look around and distract herself. Her mother wanted her to go to interest classes, and she always went to school for a few days and made a lot of noise and didn't like to go.
Expert analysis: Concentration is originally a natural instinct in the process of children's growth, why is it gradually lost?
There are 3 main reasons:
Acquired influences, family disturbances, such as parents and grandparents' inconsistent views on education, can lead to cognitive confusion and lack of concentration;
Personality, personality jumping, creative children are not as focused as "well-behaved" children;
The lack of parental education is not the child's lack of patience, but the parents often interrupt the child's observation. The child's attention is still on the previous toy, but you use the other toy to divert his attention, and over time, the habit of inattention will develop.
Advice to parents: When the child is young, it is necessary to prepare the child with toys that can arouse his curiosity and exploration spirit, so as to exercise his concentration.
Parents can also use their children's interests and emotions to cultivate their children's attention, and his attention will definitely increase for things that interest them. It is also important to create an undisturbed environment for your child.
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