In "Know It or Not", Mo Lan tried her best to marry into Gaomen, and she worked hard to finally marry into the Duke's Palace and married Liang Liulang Liang Han. In order to get the position of duchess, she even disregarded the honor and mixed with Liang Liulang in the temple without any marriage contract with Liang Liulang. After being discovered by Sheng Xuan, he returned home, and the eldest lady came forward to propose to him, and finally married the "residual flowers and willows" himself.
On the surface, Mo Lan is painstakingly marrying into the high door, which is equivalent to selling himself for a good price, and outsiders see her as very beautiful. How glorious is it to be a six-pin petty official's daughter of the Shengfu to be able to marry into the Duke's Palace? In the future, it will not be an endless life of wealth!
This is also what Lin Xiaoniang planned for her daughter so much, she really had no way to make a decision, and even did not hesitate to gamble with her daughter's honor, so that she could become a duke and mother-in-law. As everyone knows, this is harming their own daughter, what is the use of outsiders looking at how beautiful it is? After all, life is for yourself.
Just like many gold-worshiping girls in reality, they want to marry into the rich, they want to meet the second generation of the rich, and they try their best to climb the relationship with the rich brother, even if they finally marry into it, there are very few who have been happy, and some are disliked by the in-laws, suffered from snubs and grievances, and it is better to find a husband who loves himself and hurts himself for a lifetime.
It is still a better situation to be snubbed, and even more so to be cheated by the "negative second generation" to get more than to lose.
When marriage is seen as a transaction, or as a shortcut to getting rich overnight, the starting point is wrong in itself, and since it is wrong, it must suffer possible consequences.
After Mo Lan and Liang Liulang stole fun in the grass hut for the first time, in order to make Liang Liulang admire herself, she had an affair with Liang Liulang every three to five minutes, during which she always said to Liang Liulang, "I gave you the first time of my daughter's family, you have to be responsible for me", so as to ask Liang Liulang to marry her.
Stealing joy in the grass hut, no name and no points, such an environment Mo Lan can accept, how can people believe that she is from the Book Xiang Mendi? How can such a self-respecting girl believe that she will keep her virginity after marriage, and meet someone more powerful than her husband and not climb the dragon and attach the phoenix? Mo Lan's behavior seems to have "tied up" Liang Liulang, but in fact, he is self-contemptuous and self-deprecating, which makes people look down on him.
Of course, all of Mo Lan's fornication scenes are under Minglan's "calculation", but if Mo Lan can keep his original intention and be able to respect himself, Minglan cannot calculate to her.
Remember that although Minglan was happy with Little Grandpa, how did she get along with Little Grandpa?
Almost never meet with the little grandfather in private, even if they do, they will be far apart, very concerned about distance. In front of people, Minglan talked to the little grandfather through the curtain to avoid suspicion.
Although the heart is happy, it does not exceed the rules. Minglan can still treat people who are happy with his heart, how self-loving and self-respecting he is! Minglan knows how to keep a good distance from men, and this behavior also makes others have more respect for her.
Moreover, Minglan, as a concubine, could not have married into the Marquis's Palace, but Gu Tingye just valued Minglan's quality and knew that Minglan was a good girl, even if Minglan liked the little grandfather at the beginning, but the two never had physical contact, because of Minglan's self-respect and self-love, Gu Tingye admired her, and cherished her, and was willing to marry her.
When Minglan wanted to marry Xiao Gongye as a concubine, in fact, it was also considered a high marriage, and Minglan really liked Xiao Gongye, which girl did not think about Spring? Of course, Minglan wanted to contact Xiao Gongye, but she didn't, she kept herself. Gu Tingye knew Minglan's personality, so he was willing to marry Minglan.
If Minglan was also like Mo Lan, anxious to deliver himself to Xiao Gongye, so that Xiao Gongye would definitely do his best, and even save his life to save Minglan, but even if he used this way to let Minglan marry Xiao Gongye, would Xiao Gongye's mother, that is, the county lord, be able to look up to Minglan in the future? Minglan was afraid that he would not be able to stand up for the rest of his life.
Therefore, it can be seen from the marriage of several daughters of the Sheng family in "Knowing or Not" that the fate of women is often determined by themselves.
Like RuLan, in fact, is very happy, although married people are very poor, but fortunately in the harmonious relationship between husband and wife, life after marriage is very happy, from some points of view, Rulan is actually happier than Minglan, she does not have to live so tired, can act arbitrarily.
Although Minglan is also very happy to marry Gu Tingye, Gu Tingye spoils her and protects her, but the Gu family is really not a place to live in peace, if it were not for Minglan's delicate mind and understanding of planning, he might have been secretly calculated and died several times. Although Minglan was able to marry into the Marquis Mansion as a concubine, it was Minglan's wisdom that attracted Gu Tingye, and being able to keep this happiness and live a truly pampered life was Minglan's great wisdom.
From the starting point, Mo Lan lost, perhaps from the time she wanted to compete and compare herself with the other daughters of the Sheng family, "who married well"; and from the time she decided to dedicate herself to fornicating with Liang Liulang, she had already lost completely.
After reading "Know It or Not", I feel that I understand that the fate of a woman is never in the hands of anyone, but always needs self-control to obtain true freedom, and if you can't hold it, you can only be at the mercy of others.