Two days ago, when I visited the bookstore, there was an area in the store where the books were all celebrities' family letters: "Zhu Zi Family Training", "Yan Family Training", "Qian Family Training", "Zeng Guofan Family Book"...
It is undeniable that the reason why many large families can produce talents has a lot to do with their good tutoring style, and vice versa!
For example, the Qian family, which is known as the "thousand-year-old famous family and the first family of the two Zhejiang Provinces".
His ancestor Qian Wei was awarded the "Golden Book Iron Coupon" by Emperor Zhaozong of Tang, that is, the gold medal for avoiding death, sparing himself nine deaths and his descendants three deaths.
This seemed to be the supreme glory at the time, but Qian Wei saw the crisis, so he formulated a number of family rules, requiring future generations not to be pampered and arrogant.
It is this kind of educational concept that the Qian family has gone through thousands of years, generations of talented people, and in the modern era, it is a burst of talents.
The Chinese culture master Qian Mu, the literary master Qian Zhongshu, and the scientific world's titans Qian Sanqiang, Qian Xuesen, Qian Weichang and others are all from this family.
According to incomplete statistics, there are more than 100 Qian celebrities in contemporary China.
Having said all this, in fact, it is for the late Qing Dynasty famous minister Zeng Guofan to pave the way, on the family rules of tutoring, Zeng Guofan is not worse than any family in history, and there are many reasons for doing things in his letters with his children and family members.
Among the many truths, I most appreciate a sentence:
Mediocre people lose to "laziness", and talented people lose to "pride".
This is the most profound summary of a person's behavior, objectively speaking, those who can achieve great things often never do two things.
01?
Don't be lazy
About Zeng Guofan, there is such a small story:
One night, a thief came to Zeng Guofan's house, hiding on the beam of the house, waiting for Zeng Guofan to steal something after reading and going to bed.
But he waited for a long time, and Zeng Guofan just didn't go to sleep, because an article was memorized many times, but he still couldn't memorize it.
In the end, this hair thief really couldn't wait any longer, so he jumped off the beam of the room very angrily and said to Zeng Guofan, Are you so stupid and still study? I've listened to it several times and can already memorize it.
Immediately, he recited the article from beginning to end and went away.
Zeng Guofan, whose talent was so mediocre, could later become one of the four famous ministers of the late Qing Dynasty, and his evaluation in history was also quite high, and such a counterattack was inseparable from the word "diligence".
Although his talent is not high, he works hard enough, and in the era of reading, he insists on getting up early every day to read books and reading books late at night.
After entering the dynasty as an official, Zeng Guofan was still desperate for Sanlang. According to historical records, Zeng Guofan ranked first in the diligent ranking of Qing officials, and he had processed more than 40,000 volumes of documents in half a year.
Diligence can stand up, and failure is born of inertia.
None of those who can finally achieve things are not diligent, who are not working hard.
More precisely, how hard a person works, how bright and how much he can achieve.
In turn, a large part of the reasons for the many failures and unsatisfactory lives are caused by laziness.
It is worth mentioning that
There are two types of "laziness":
1. Lazy to act;
2. Too lazy to think.
A lot of people always shout confused, but in fact they are not really confused, because they often know how to make themselves better.
They are just lazy, lazy to act, just thinking and not doing, just talking and not practicing, staying forever in the stage of imagination and planning, and not putting into action.
And there are some people, although they seem to be working hard, busy, self-moved to the point of not being able to do it, but they are actually a lazy person, because they are lazy to think.
Therefore, many times, these people are often busy, inefficient or even ineffective efforts.
In fact, those who can really achieve great things will never allow themselves to be a slacker, and they are diligent enough in their actions and thinking and judgment.
It's also the best way to do things.
02
Don't be proud
Friends familiar with "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" should know that Guan Yu is a very "proud" person, and many people can't get into his eyes, such as his colleague Lu Fang, old rival Sun Quan...
Once, Sun Quan sent Zhuge Liang's eldest brother Zhuge Jin to Jingzhou to propose to Guan Yu's daughter for his son.
Guan Yu was furious and scolded, WuHu's daughter Anken married a dog!
After Sun Quan knew, he was so angry that he stomped his feet, he looked down on people too much, since you were so rude, don't blame me for being ruthless, and then gathered his subordinates and began to discuss how to take Jingzhou.
As for his colleague Lu Fang, although he is the brother-in-law of the eldest brother Liu Bei, Guan Yu is all kinds of disdain, resulting in a relatively poor relationship between the two.
These factors laid the groundwork for Lü Meng's sneak attack on Jingzhou in the future, Lu Fang opened the door to surrender, Guan Yu was attacked on his stomach and back, and finally he was captured and killed.
Zeng Guofan said that talented people are defeated by pride.
When you think about it, it is.
Many talented and capable people, the reason why they have not achieved heights and achievements that match their abilities, often have a lot to do with their personality.
Most of these people are arrogant and arrogant, because of their excellent ability, they look down on some people, and they disdain some mundane things.
And these will invisibly lead to the deterioration of their interpersonal relationships, do things with a lot of resistance, often lose a lot of opportunities, easy to be suppressed.
In fact, those who really have the ability to achieve great things are often very online in emotional intelligence, know how to respect others, and be humble and easy-going.
This is also the highest state of being a human being, talented and virtuous.
People lose because they are lazy, and everything that fails is because they are proud.
I hope you can remember this sentence, if you have it, you will change it, and if you don't, you will encourage it!
About the author: Uncle Ha, a young best-selling author, author of "What determines your success is not emotional intelligence, it is reverse quotient", good at deconstructing the workplace with history, the text is grounded, concise and incisive, and is deeply liked by contemporary young workers.