Today, the three East Asian countries, Japan, South Korea and China have a common development problem, that is, the number of births is getting smaller and smaller, and at the end of 2020, our country counts about 12 million births a year. This year's data has not yet come out, many people estimate that it may not exceed 10 million people, because the birth population is too small, it is possible that in 2022, China will begin to reduce its population, which is really a phenomenon that has never been seen in the past few decades.
However, such a phenomenon has long been common in Japan and South Korea, where 200,000 to 300,000 people are born in South Korea in a year, less than a million people are born in Japan a year, and the rapid population shrinkage of Japan and South Korea has long appeared. So many people think it's a little strange, although the number of eugenics is like this all over the world, even India's birth rate is not very high today, and in the past we have studied that the more economically developed the region, the more people are reluctant to have children, and the later people get married.
But compared with the very developed regions of Europe and the United States, the birth rate in those places seems to be higher than that of the three East Asian countries, why is the birth rate in these two places so low? Not long ago, Japan's Ministry of Internal Affairs and Communications released the results of the recent 2020 census, which has a very interesting indicator, that is, the proportion of men and women has undergone a major change.
In the past, we knew that for most countries, the proportion of male and female babies born was always a little more than male babies, which may be 101 to 100 or 103 to 100, but considering that the overall life expectancy of men is less than that of women, the proportion of men and women in most countries is relatively coordinated, basically in a state of half and half. However, Japan's census shows that the proportion of men and women in Japan's large and small cities has changed polarized, and the more large cities like Tokyo and Osaka, the more women are more women than men, and the more they go to small villages and small towns, the number of women is less than men.
Some Japanese even lament that in many small cities, you can hardly see young girls, and many people wonder where young women are going, of course, in big cities like Tokyo and Osaka. And this polarization trend will lead to a further decline in Japan's marriage rate and fewer births, for the simple reason that it will be increasingly difficult for young people to get married, both in large cities and small towns.
In the past, we often said that metropolises have a siphon effect, metropolises have developed economies, many company headquarters are in them, on the one hand, metropolises can provide a lot of high-paying positions, on the other hand, metropolises can also provide us with a lot of amateur cultural life needs, in other words, can make many young people open their eyes. Therefore, every year from the first to the graduation season, many young people from small villages and small urban areas have to go to big cities to break through, of course, including many college graduates who have studied in big cities for 4 years, and the first choice is to stay in this city instead of returning to their hometown.
China is like this, South Korea is like this, Japan is also like this, especially Japan and South Korea because of the small population of the country, so the siphon effect of the capital is greater, japan's more than 100 million people about a third of the population lives in the Tokyo metropolitan area, South Korea's 50 million people are more than half of the people living in the Seoul metropolitan area, but a closer look will find that the attraction of large cities to young men and women is not the same.
It is not accurate to say that attraction is the same attraction, but the possibility of young men and women being able to stay in the big city is not the same, because fundamentally speaking, our society is still a patriarchal society or our society is still a society that gives men more pressure. Today, although china is doing the best job on the issue of global equality between men and women, most men and women always say that when they are dating, falling in love, and getting married, they always say that the man is responsible for buying a house, and the woman can at most pay for a decoration and a car.
Even in many places, today we still have such a bad habit as a bride price, otherwise why give birth to a boy we call it Construction Bank, give birth to a girl we call it China Merchants Bank, if a couple gives birth to a girl, relatives and friends will help him breathe a sigh of relief, saying that girls do not need to invest too much money and energy, parents can be considered worry-free.
And once you have a boy, when you are very young, you have to help him save money, not only to be responsible for his lifelong growth, but also to prepare money for him to buy a house, otherwise he is afraid that he will not be able to get a wife. It is our society's requirements for men and women are not the same, so the same young people break into the metropolis of the north, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, and the possibility of women staying is much higher than that of men, for the simple reason that society's requirements for both sexes are different.
As a penniless young man, even if you have a high degree and can find a job in Beijing with a monthly salary of tens of thousands of yuan, you think that you will always have to buy a house when you get married and have children in the future, otherwise your mother-in-law will not do it. But today's Beijing housing prices are so high, even if you buy a fifty or sixty-one square, buy a fifty-sixty-one, then it will cost millions of yuan, after emptying your family bottom, most of your monthly salary will have to be used to repay the loan.
Of course, there are many young men who may meet those more reasonable women, willing to fight with the man, with two salary repayment pressure is lighter, a small couple can take root in Beijing. However, for many male compatriots, what they are worried about is that women require men to at least afford to buy a house, at least they can afford to repay the loan, but how many young men can afford to buy a house in the north, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen today?
So many boys after a few years of stumbling, feel that it is not easy to live in Beijing, I still go back to some second- and third-tier cities or even third- and fourth-tier cities, where you may earn a little less, but the pressure of life is less, and the house price is lower. However, girls are relatively less stressed, after all, most people will not ask the woman to provide real estate when they are married, so a large number of girls floating in Beijing, Shanghai, Shenzhen, and Guangzhou still have a small wish, that is, the money I earn can support myself.
As long as I am responsible for being beautiful every day, then one day I can meet a golden turtle son-in-law, regardless of whether the other party is a local indigenous or an excellent young man who has stayed and worked hard and can afford to buy a house, as long as I find such a golden turtle son-in-law, I will naturally take root in the big city. I don't need to have the ability to buy a house, I just need to be able to find the ability of young men who have a house.
Especially over the years, the society for older women is more and more tolerant, in the past may not be able to find a partner at the age of 25, the old family will say that the girl is old and difficult to find, and now in many big cities 30 years old, 35 years old to start dating marriage, which is commonplace. So it is relatively easier for women to stay in big cities, because the money they earn is enough to maintain a life without buying a house, and as long as they can find a man in the future, and that man just happens to have the ability to buy a house, she can completely take root in the big city.
So after more than ten or twenty years of development, the siphon effect of big cities has a little deviation, that is, the difficulty of men staying in big cities is getting bigger and bigger, and many men choose to flee from the north to Guangzhou, while women stay in big cities in a large area, because they feel that as long as I am still staying in the north, I have hope to find such a golden turtle son-in-law in the future.
And back to the hometown, to be honest in Beijing can not find such a golden boyfriend, back to the hometown you can not find, we know from thrift into luxury from luxury into thrifty, especially to enjoy the life of the big city paper drunk gold fans, for many women to return to their hometown is really unwilling, so this has caused the phenomenon of the simultaneous existence of older leftover women and single sticks in recent years.
It's just that they exist in different regions, for example, in the north, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, a variety of blind date networks, blind date clubs must be far more women than men, many blind date mentors will advise these women, your vision must not be too high, to know that the number of women competing with you at the same time is very large.
And in the big city can really take root to have a house, earn more, still good looks, good temper of men that are rare, more important is that every year the big city will be like a tide of a large number of fresh young girls, just graduated college students hope to come to the big city to break in the foreigners.
For them, it is not difficult to find a job in Beijing for a few thousand yuan and rent a house to live in, so the siphon effect of big cities is more and more to attract young women and exclude young men, which makes the problem of older leftover women in China's large cities, including The metropolises of Japan and South Korea, is simply insoluble, because the men in this city are becoming increasingly rare, especially the number of golden turtle sons and daughters in the eyes of older leftover women is getting smaller and smaller, and the number of women is growing.
On the other hand, small and medium-sized cities, especially small villages and small towns, are really like Japanese researchers said, how can almost no young girls be seen on the street, people are in the metropolis, so today in China's rural areas blind date is exactly the opposite of the metropolis.
Rural blind dates now still rely on matchmakers, in the words of many matchmakers, young girls in rural areas are really too expensive, sometimes that girl to go on blind date a day can arrange more than a dozen households, like a marquee one by one to see, too many girls and too few boys, and even some matchmakers say that even if they are newly divorced women in the countryside, as long as you do not bring a baby age, it is very sought-after.
A lot of young men of little age don't care if you have ever been married, because rural areas are really more men and women, not only in our country, but also in Japan and South Korea, and the siphon effect of deviation makes it more difficult for young people to marry, and young people are burdened with a lot of pressure so that everyone dare not fall in love, dare not get married, and dare not have children.
At the same time, there are more and more girls in the metropolis, far more than men, more and more men in small cities than women, and these two groups of people obviously can't meet at all, so of course they can't get married, can't fall in love, and can't have children. So last year there was a marriage and childbirth expert put forward a very absurd idea, now listen to the obedience is not rough, there is a little bit of reasonable meaning, he said you see on the one hand, the number of elderly leftover women in China's cities is particularly large, on the other hand, the number of single sticks in rural areas of our country is also particularly large, is it possible that the government organization to let these elderly leftover women and rural single sticks paired, chat, and combine to solve the problem of insufficient fertility in our population.
Of course, we know that the older leftover women may be able to look up to the rural bare sticks, which is completely out of the blue, but think carefully if we let the siphon effect of deviation continue to occur, is our population birth rate further declining?
So on the other hand, things are not without a solution, for many girls who are still in the big city, I think you can really do a plan, if you can find your lover in the metropolis, live together, rooted in the metropolis is good, but before you do life planning, it is best to look around and do a comparison, estimate that this possibility is not big, after all, staying in the metropolis to find a golden turtle son-in-law is probably going to face a lot of competitors.
On the other hand, if you do not stay in the bustling life of the big city, and retreat to the second-tier cities and third-tier cities, is it possible that because of the scarcity of girls, there will be a more competitive life, and this is also a good thing for our entire country and the whole nation.