After tea and dinner, or after work, getting together with others to talk about the world seems to be an eternal hobby for women.
Women love to share their insights and ideas with others and talk about what's going on around them. East parents, west family short, is also a topic of women eight or nine inseparable from ten.
On the one hand, it's a way to promote communication with colleagues or friends around you, and on the other hand, it's a great way to pass the time, a way to vent stress or emotions.
Getting together with friends, talking about home, or telling your troubles, is nothing short of reproach. After all, everyone has freedom of speech and the right to express their opinions.
However, some women do not care about the feelings of others, talk about their own thoughts at will, and never worry about the consequences of every word they say.
As the saying goes, the speaker has no intention, and the listener intends. Good things don't go out, bad things spread far and wide.
Sometimes the words you say inadvertently will be heard by others, remembered in their hearts, pondered the meaning of them, and then fall into deep inferiority, doubts and frustration.
Or what you say is falsely spread by those who have a heart, processed into another meaning, and then conveyed to the ears of the person concerned, causing misunderstanding and estrangement between you, and seriously affecting the harmonious relationship between you.
Truly cultivated women, even in daily small talk, will know how to grasp the measure, grasp the scale, measure well in the heart, what words can be said, what words can not be said.
There are three kinds of words, and the more a woman does not say, the more noble she is.
First, a woman with a noble soul never boasts about herself
Some women, as soon as they meet acquaintances, are keen to brag about themselves to others.
They either directly show off what brand-name clothes or bags they have recently bought, or pretend to inadvertently show off the new ring on their hands, and then in the shocked eyes of others and curious questions, they constantly praise themselves for marrying her husband and how good their lives are.
Whether it is direct or indirect, it cannot hide their inner inferiority.
As Yi Shu, the author of "The First Half of My Life", said:
A truly temperamental woman, who never shows off everything she has, she never tells people what books she has read, where she has been, how many clothes she has, what jewelry she has bought, because she does not have any feelings of inferiority.
Women who love to praise and show off themselves everywhere are actually filled with a sense of inferiority. It is precisely because of the sensitivity and inferiority of the heart that it will make up for the inferiority in the heart and fill the void in the heart by obtaining the attention and praise of others.
Those truly confident and open-minded women, even if they live a life of fine clothes, never go around to show off their achievements and glory, but are humble and low-key.
Because they don't need to expel their deep inferiority by attracting the eyes of others; they don't need to please others by being high-profile.
Their souls are noble, their hearts are calm and confident, and they never need to brag and boast about themselves in order to find superiority; they do not need to demean others by elevating themselves and putting others in an embarrassing situation.
They have noble souls, have a kind heart, only want to live their lives calmly and quietly, calmly and gracefully face the ups and downs of life, and never deliberately boast about everything they have.
Second, women of high quality never discourage sarcasm against others
A woman with a kind heart has always revealed a gentle breath between her words, exuding a noble temperament. Because they are empathetic and reasonable, everything they say takes into account the feelings of others.
They will carefully consider whether their words will embarrass others and make others uncomfortable, rather than criticizing and accusing others and making sarcasm against others.
Those women who are dark and bitter in their hearts, the words they spit out, are basically suppressing and sarcastic others, trying their best to embarrass others, watching the fire from the other side and falling into the well.
There is no doubt that such a deep-minded, sinister and vicious woman, no matter where she goes, will be spurned by others, and her popularity is extremely poor.
Only those women who are friendly to others will be loved and liked everywhere they go.
They have noble qualities, good character, and never attack others or make personal attacks on others.
Third, a woman with a noble heart never stirs up dissension
There is also a kind of woman who always likes to convey the words of others and stir up the relationship between everyone.
Such a woman will only make people stay away from her, afraid of having too much intersection with her, resulting in herself also falling into the quagmire of rumors and unable to extricate herself.
Over time, women who love to provoke things will have a worse reputation, fewer and fewer friends around them, and finally be alone, even if they encounter troubles or difficulties, there is not even a person to talk to.
They can only silently digest all the negative emotions on their own and bear all the pressure alone.
And those women who are noble in their hearts have always done their duty, not manipulating right and wrong, not reversing black and white, and staying away from those who are dark in their hearts and love schadenfreude.
They know how to think differently, and they can push themselves and others to think from the perspective of others. They know very well how much trouble those words that provoke right and wrong will bring to the parties.
It is precisely because of their nobility in their hearts that they never stir up dissension, spread rumors everywhere, and damage the reputation of others. Because they are kind at heart, they always have a compassionate heart and are kind to others.
A woman who is truly noble in heart and has high moral character never boasts about herself, never attacks and satirizes others, and never provokes dissension.
Because they are kind at heart, always have an empathetic heart, and know how to think differently, they never bother to embarrass others and elevate themselves. Instead, live your own life calmly, regardless of whether others are right or wrong.