I still remember a saying: when you are young, you can't meet people who are too amazing, otherwise you won't be able to be at peace for the rest of your life.
Perhaps this is because when people are young, they will always love to be particularly devoted, and once they fall in love, they cannot extricate themselves, so after that person leaves, they can only experience the sadness and coldness of it.
Just like in the movie "I Want Us Together", the male and female protagonists fell in love at first sight from high school, loved each other for ten years, but the whole process, like a fiery cooking oil, was mixed with too much pain in the beauty.
Boys are bent on breaking out of their careers, but they are repeatedly frustrated, they can't make money, and they are rejected by the girls' families. Fortunately, the girl did not give up, and in the face of the obstruction of her family, she still resolutely wanted to be with him.
The man really loves this woman, no matter how much he has been wronged in the girl's family, no matter how much suffering he has suffered at work, he is eager to marry her home one day.
Originally, according to the routine of the movie, it should have gone through hardships, and the two people finally had a happy ending.
But the ending, on the contrary, at the end of the movie, the girl marries someone else, and the boy is likely to die. In my opinion, the main reason for this tragedy is: men are too axis, and the "axis" is too inferior.
Women have expressed more than once that they want to marry him and want to be with him. But he always thought that one day life would get better, always thinking that after getting rich and rich, let the girl's family look up to him, so that it would be complete. In the end, the girl's family is in trouble, and he can't help it, and the woman has to cling to someone who can help her.
From the beginning to the end of the whole movie, you can feel a twist, which makes people very uncomfortable.
Perhaps, they are the most amazing people for each other, and they are also the people who can't forget each other in this life. And, the strong sense of inferiority in men also makes us deeply feel the way a man looks when he really falls in love with a woman.
Because of "fear", love is inferior
There are many cases in life.
Two young people, acquainted in their youth, fell in love with each other at the most depressed and despondent age, and finally did not walk together for some reason.
And most of the reasons are because of economic reasons.
It is said that poor couples mourn, between couples, if there is a person, because of poverty has an inferiority complex, it will also let this love fall into a lament.
Only because a man likes a person, he will have a fear psychology, afraid that the woman will leave him, afraid that his ability is not enough, can not keep her, afraid that she is angry, afraid that he is not worthy of her, afraid that she will suddenly dislike himself, afraid that he can not let her live a good life.
In short, it is an inferiority complex.
Some men, he can overcome, he will make himself more motivated, more efforts to match each other, just like Xiao Bei in "Young You", in the face of the people he likes, he has never had a self-motivated heart, that line: "I am a person who has nothing, no brain, no money, and no future, but I like a person, I want to give her a good ending."
Although young and crazy, but met the people they liked, but also eager to change their lives, eager to have a good future, want to have a happy home, want to give the woman they like a "future to look forward to".
But there is also a kind of man who will choose to let go. He will be passive, lonely, evasive, the more he loves, the less brave he will be, and the more he loves, the more he wants to quit.
As a result, in life, we will find that many people say "I want to love you for a lifetime", "I want to hurt you for a lifetime"... But in the end, it turned into waving and saying goodbye.
Many people say, I want to become more mature, more stable, but in the end, I have changed the excitement of the past into not wanting to have it anymore.
There is even a kind of man who will spit on the woman's substance, but let people see his ignorance even more.
It can be seen that a man's inferiority complex is his life choice, some people become brave for love, some people become timid for love, and some people become dirty for love.
Because of "inferiority", I don't know how to cherish
There are always people who say that the most terrible love is to meet the person who wants to take care of life the most at the most powerless age.
Just like Fang Hongwei in "The Siege", Su Wenyun loves her very much, but he does not dare to love, he likes Tang Xiaofufu, but in the end they missed it, and finally chose Sun Roujia, who is similar to himself.
His inferiority complex made him miss the person who loved her the most, so that he could not get the person he liked, and finally he could only walk the rest of his life with someone who was not so loved.
It can be seen that a man's inferiority complex is very terrible, he may stick to a love, but he is more likely to give up on you at any time.
In "Later Us", Fang Xiaoxiao finally left Lin Jianqing, and when they met again ten years later, Fang Xiaoxiao cried and said to Lin Jianqing: i miss you. Lin Jianqing responded: I miss you too. Fang Xiaoxiao said: I mean I missed you.
Oh, yes! A miss, even if you have loved again, but you can no longer find the warmth that you once relied on. And their separation is not the inferiority of the male protagonist.
Women encourage him to move forward, but he always feels that he is experiencing blows, does not know how to cherish when they are together, and when they are separated, they only miss and regret.
If you love, don't let go easily because of "inferiority"
I can't remember which TV series saw a scene.
Man promises woman: One day, I will drive a luxury car and take you for a ride on this street.
Many years later, the woman in the co-pilot has changed a person.
The tunnel of time does not go back to the past; life, does not go back to the past; youth, always so short. If one day, he met the woman he had loved again, perhaps his heart would be thinking: if he had not broken up at that time, if he had enough money in his hand at that time, if they had been married... So, will they be happy now?
However, everything will be too late.
Perhaps, he who loved her at that time became self-motivated because of his inferiority complex, but in the end he also missed the woman who loved him the most because of his inferiority complex.
So, if you love, love well, love deeply, and don't let go easily.
Men, when you find that you have developed inferiority complex, it means that this woman is the woman you want to cherish for the rest of your life. Don't complain about the tricks of fate, what you have to do now is to be grateful for the gifts of fate, and then work hard to fight for your tomorrow.
In this life, people always have to become mature, stable, and sensible little by little, always have to be smoothed out a little bit of edges and corners, always have to go through some tribulations, and see some ups and downs... Then, in the gathering of causes and conditions, we can understand the true meaning of the word "cherish".
Conclusion:
In fact, the true love of two people begins with mutual dependence.
If men are always immersed in their own inferiority, it is like a dark night between dusk and dawn, and when you are together, you will never feel the joy of the dawn.
There are always people who regard the face of love as too important, but forget that true love needs peace of mind.
Men should know that if a woman has chosen to be with you, she does not look down on you poor, nor does she dislike you for not being handsome; if she recognizes you, she will not hesitate to move forward with you on the road of life in the future, and she will also want to work together with you to support your little family.
Therefore, there is no need to be inferior.
When it's time to hold hands, don't give up. Love should not be confused, but sober; love should not be sad, but should be happy.
Two people together, it is never a contest of whose family is rich, but of whose love is happier.
Good love, sentient water is full; without love, even if you live in a high-rise villa and eat the taste of mountains and seas, you may not be able to find the sweet taste in it.
So, hug the person next to you and don't let go of your hand. There is no one to come and go between you, only you and him; there is no separation between you and the mountains and the sea, only the heart and the heart.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!