Too hard to get along with autistic children? It may be related to these few misunderstandings

Many parents will inevitably encounter such troubles in the process of getting along with autistic children:

Children always lose their temper, scream, and throw things unknowingly; a simple thing is said and done several times, but the child still can't understand and can't learn; can't sit quietly for a while, often making abnormal behavior in public places to disturb others...

These "incomprehensible" behaviors of autistic children have caused parents to fall into a collapse for a while: it is too difficult to get along with autistic children!

Too hard to get along with autistic children? It may be related to these few misunderstandings!

Myth 1: Unequal treatment

Many autistic parents subconsciously believe that autistic children have cognitive, language and other obstacles, so they need to be treated differently and carefully. But for children with autism, although they think differently and behave differently from ordinary people, they are not sick, and they may prefer to be treated equally by everyone, rather than the world seeing them as "outliers".

Myth two: over-intervention

In the subconscious of most parents, autism is a group that needs special care, so at any time, parents want to take care of their children and intervene in all aspects of their children's lives.

Although the parents' starting point is good, the full involvement of the parents may also make the children unable to exert their ability to do things, produce a sense of powerlessness, and then produce anxiety. In addition, if you never let your child do anything independently, your child may never be able to learn to overcome difficulties, and you will never be able to learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant.

Myth three: there is no bottom line to change the rules set

Originally agreed, when eating, you should sit quietly on the table, after eating can play with toys, but the child just ate two bites of the toy with the toy running around, several times preaching and not listening, parents are afraid of children hungry, had to give up the principle of chasing and feeding.

In fact, by blindly compromising and satisfying children, children will feel that their "tricking" has been successful, and they will challenge parents again and again in this way, and "insist" again and again.

The above points of misunderstanding, so that autistic children's emotions, behavior, etc. become more and more strange, excessive, etc., and these manifestations in the eyes of parents have become unreasonable and difficult to get along with.

However, for parents with such troubles, here we also give a few simple and effective good ways, hurry up and get up!

01. Constrain behavior with rules

For autistic children who always like to lose their temper and throw things away, parents can restrain their children by formulating some rules, of course, parents should also be the object of restraint and should play an exemplary role.

02. Simplified instructions

Sometimes parents talk about a big call to their children, but because the content contains too much information, it is undoubtedly a book of heaven for autistic children who do not have strong comprehension ability, so they will simply not listen and not learn.

In the face of this situation, the most important thing for parents is to simplify the instructions and try to grasp the main points when talking to their children. For example, we say to the child: "Help the mother to take the bag", if the child is not strong in understanding, he may not be able to grasp the focus of this instruction, and then "Mom let me help her?" Or take the bag? So sometimes when we give instructions to our children, we may as well say "take the bag" directly. The method of simplifying instructions is used in learning activities and can also reduce the anxiety of star children.

03. Give timely assistance

If parents find that xiaoxing children often forget after learning in the learning process, or lack motivation for learning content, it is recommended that parents need to strengthen it in time. Reinforcement can not only effectively stimulate the learning enthusiasm of children with autism, but also effectively maintain children's good learning habits.

04, do a good job of guiding role

Sometimes the child will lose his temper for no reason, have some excessive behavior, or it may be because he does not understand what to do next. For this situation, parents can use the information display method of text or pictures to arrange their children's itinerary, solve the child's "what do I want to do (task)", "how long or how much I want to do" and "what I want to do next" and other issues, providing clear guidance for children, which plays an important role in stabilizing children's emotions.

In fact, a large part of the difficulty in getting along with autistic children is related to their unique way of thinking. But parents only need to master the way of thinking, whether it is in teaching interventions or daily communication, it will be much easier.