A male colleague in my unit, divorced for more than ten years, the work is tepid, there has been no shortage of girlfriends around, but "who to marry in the end" has not been determined, and I met two favorite women when I was about to be 50 years old.
One is unmarried, young and beautiful, but because of the family changes when he was young, his psychology was hurt, he reluctantly read a secondary school, talked about multiple boyfriends, personality and work and instability.
The other is a college teacher, divorced with a child, neither young nor beautiful, temper is not very good, but kind, three views, self-discipline, but also on the road to growth to struggle.
He spent more than half a year thinking about the measurement, and finally chose the latter.
After the male colleague married this university teacher, only half a year later, he successfully quit drinking, worked out, studied, and ignited a higher hope and confidence in life, and he found a high-paying job that he could play his expertise and love. Of course, there are inevitably bumps in life with his wife, but under the guidance of his wife's correct outlook on life and the careful management of the family, he has changed his casual and careless attitude towards life that has lasted for many years, cynicism and irresponsibility of life. Start taking every aspect of your life seriously.
And the young girl has not worked so far, nibbling at home.
The correct choice of the remarried wife made the male colleague's parents, family and colleagues happy for him, praising him for finally having a perfect home in life, and everyone said that the wife he chose had "Wangfu Xiang".
Men who remarry have to choose the "right" wife.
They have experienced a choice of marriage "failure", the choice of remarriage determines the quality of life of men in the future, and even how to face the impending aging and death, determines the tranquility of the man's family and the good inheritance of future generations.
The famous Hong Kong actor Wu Qihua, personable, elegant temperament, today's young people may feel strange to him, but the classic works he starred in that year, such as "Magic Hands and Benevolent Heart" and "Yitian Slaughtering Dragon", etc., have left us with deep memories.
After the failure of the first marriage, Wu Qihua chose the 21-year-old young and beautiful third-line actor Shi Yangzi when he remarried at the age of half a hundred, and Shi Yangzi did not work again after marriage, but he spent a lot of money and loved vanity. Wu Yangzi lost Wu Qihua's hundreds of millions of family property in seven years after marriage, and after a crisis in family life, Shi Yangzi actually chose to leave Wu Qihua and his daughter.
After the divorce, Wu Qihua took care of his daughter alone, living in a difficult life, living in a dangerous building.
It can be said that it is Shi Yangzi's vanity that makes Wu Qihua become what he is now.
As the old saying goes, marrying a wife is not a virtuous three generations.
Last year, I followed my husband back to my hometown and heard about one thing, the neighbor Lao Huang had no father since he was a child, and when he grew up, he was hard-working and had a bright mind, opened a chicken farm, and married a young daughter-in-law after divorce. But gradually, everyone found that his family began to decline. When their daughter was in junior high school, Lao Huang's wife went to the city to accompany her, and she was obsessed with gambling and had no intention of taking care of her children. She gambled more and more, and soon the family made her lose enough. Losing money is not addictive, but also hitched to the same good bet card friends, in and out like a husband and wife. She also scolded Lao Huang every day for not being able to make a lot of money.
Old Huang could not stop the women from making noise, he was desperate to take risks, and he was arrested for robbing the grave and breaking the law. The daughter watched her mother run away with the man, did not have the heart to study, there was also a kind of learning, she did not finish junior high school and dropped out of school, and she followed the little at the age of 18. This family was ruined by this wife.
Women are a man's lifeblood, and they all have a reshaping effect on men and their families.
For Lao Huang, his wrong choice took him and his family into an endless abyss.
Jiang Wen's acting career is wonderful and legendary, but his emotional life has been talked about by netizens.
When he was young, he first lived with Liu Xiaoqing for three years.
In 1997, the 34-year-old Jiang Wen married a female sinologist from France, the generous and intellectual Sandrine, and after marriage gave birth to a daughter, Sandrin returned to France to study and the two began to separate.
After many years of separation, Jiang Wen met Zhou Yun when filming the movie "Heroes of Heaven and Earth", and the two went out of the same door without talking, and quickly became "confidants". In 2005, the 42-year-old Jiang Wen resolutely divorced Sandrin and married Zhou Yun.
Zhou Yun, whether in Jiang Wen's career or in all aspects of the family, has given Jiang Wen the greatest understanding and help, Jiang Wen's career is getting better and better, step by step to become a front-line guide, people around him have praised: Jiang Wen's greatest blessing is to marry Zhou Yun as a wife.
Zhou Yun also gave birth to two sons for Jiang Wen in 2006 and 2008.
Zhou Yun took into account the three identities of the actor and his wife and mother to perfection.
Today, Jiang Wen and Zhou Yun have been married for 16 years, the couple is still happy and loving, and almost every movie of Jiang Wen has zhou Yun's beautiful figure blessing.
They live out the best of love and marriage.
On happiness, Jiang Wen may not be able to pursue more.
How do you choose a "right" wife when you remarry?
1, first of all, a good marriage should be mutual achievement, nourish each other. The "right" wife is Kenuchisuke.
When you get married for the second time, you can't blindly covet each other's young beauty. But in the future wind and rain life, walk together, work together to hold up an umbrella, for the other party is also for themselves to cover those wind and rain, in order to foam each other, white head to old age. Choose to ask a few more whys, such as why the other person wants to marry you, what are your strengths that attract her, and what strengths of hers attract you? What is the basis of your being together?
2, secondly, when choosing a woman, to see if the other party can have stable emotions, the so-called emotional stability here actually means to have the ability to perceive and manage emotions, can be aware of control, can control can manage the family energy field.
Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology, said:
Women's emotional energy is far greater than that of men, wives are the soul of the family, wives are happy and the whole family is happy, and wives are anxious and the whole family is anxious.
3, to see if the woman you are looking for is consistent with your three views, the three views refer to the world view, the outlook on life and values, the three views are consistent is a high degree of compatibility with the soul, there is a common language, such as you like to read, she likes to play games, this is the chicken with the duck, playing the piano to the cow, completely in a different channel, in your life and career to play a helping role, just as Zhou Yun to Jiang Wen.
Of course, the three views are not the same as requiring both sides to be exactly the same no matter what, for example, if you like to eat steak in a Western restaurant, she likes to skewer the food stalls, which is not called the three views are not compatible. Rather, they can seek common ground while reserving differences, and know how to tolerate and appreciate each other.
Otherwise, you share happiness with her, she thinks you are showing, you talk to her sad, she thinks you are pretentious.
For remarried men, the second half of life, fighting for the wife, this is not exaggerated at all.
Your parents determine your starting point, and your wife determines your end.
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