Parents of little boys in the family will always have such an experience: seeing other people's daughters quiet and sensible, feeling very envious, and then looking at their own naughty boys, jumping up and down toss their own heart.
Especially in the rebellious period of adolescence, boys develop more slowly than girls, so their thinking is immature, excess energy and ignorance can always make parents headaches. But you know what? Educating boys is really not that complicated, what matters is every detail of educating children.
If you want to cultivate your child into a real man, you only need to grasp the following three things, so that the family can have a powerful little helper!
First, cultivate children's self-confidence
A person's self-confidence is the source of his most important strength to conquer the world, so in fact, both boys and girls need the support and affirmation of their parents. Children's self-confidence and long-term roots stem from the support and love of all aspects of their parents' lives.
For boys, the most important quality must be their own self-confidence and courage, only in this way, children in the face of the future life of the storm, can bravely fulfill the responsibilities and obligations that a man should assume, and truly achieve "standing on top of the sky".
Second, cultivate children to be independent and autonomous
As a man who can shield the family from the wind and rain in the future, independence is a very important quality. If we want to cultivate the quality of independence of our children, as parents, we must learn to let go and let our children do things from an early age.
For example, when the child accidentally falls down when he first learns to walk, don't be in pain at the first time, holding the child"Oh my baby, is it bad pain?" More should be to encourage children to "fall is okay, the mother believes that the baby can stand up on his own", instead of encouraging everything, cultivating a sense of responsibility for children from an early age, allowing them to learn to do housework, and also allowing them to participate in the decision-making suggestions of major matters in the family.
Of course, parents can not blindly ask their children to take responsibility, the child is still young, you can give him appropriate rewards and punishments and encouragement. When a child helps his parents do something valuable, parents can praise him with words such as "You have done a really good job and helped mom and dad so much" to make him feel that he can be recognized. From now on, children will naturally be motivated to help their families do things.
Third, lead by example and teach children to be responsible
We often say that parents are the first teachers of children, which is enough to prove how important the education of parents is to the growth of children, so in life parents should always lead by example to educate children. At this stage when children are curious, want to try everything, and values are wavering, it is also a good time for parents to educate their children.
Parents' education should always be implemented to the end, such as if you want to cultivate the habit of children's persistence, then parents must be persistent, can not be discouraged because of difficulties, and can not casually lose faith in their children, only when parents can keep their promises, can children understand the importance of fulfilling their promises;
For example, if you want to teach your children responsibility and responsibility, then parents must be responsible for their own work and family, and use their own sincere practice to set a model of responsibility for their children.
Children can bear different things in different ages, always have to be cultivated step by step, educational goals can be set, but the specific programs and implementation plans should be continuously improved and optimized with the changes of children, do not pull up seedlings to promote growth.
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