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There is a saying that a child is bullied, just like a village that has been plundered by an iron horse, and the wounds in the heart are full of holes, and I am afraid that I will not be able to repair it in my lifetime.
School bullying begins in kindergarten
I have seen such a documentary that records the kindergarten life of children. There was a scene in it that made it difficult for me to calm down.
Several children sat at the table, one of the little boys with glasses obediently lying on the table, the boy next to him kept slapping his head with his hands, and the boy with glasses kept laughing awkwardly, letting others hit him like this, and did not know how to react, but the other party was more and more excited.
It is hard to imagine how this beaten child feels at this time.
Also in the documentary "Kindergarten", there is a little boy who is murdering a girl "You don't sit with me", and another boy next to him hears it and imitates it: "You don't sit next to me and hear no!" The little girl was stunned and overwhelmed.
It is conceivable that the little girl's situation is so embarrassing, and other children look at the little girl without resistance, will they all learn to bully her?
I used to think that school bullying mainly appeared in adolescent children, but since watching this documentary, I found that there was already school bullying in kindergartens!
What to do if your child is bullied
Due to the young age, little cognition, limited language expression ability of kindergarten children, etc., if they encounter bullying, there is no way to resist, and when physical injuries occur between children, parents and teachers usually attribute their behavior to jokes, and children do not understand things and blur.
If the child is bullied and there is no one to help the child, then his heart will be tormented.
When a child is bullied, most people will say, let the child fight back. But can countering violence with violence solve the problem? Other children will feel that they can't afford to hide away, which is worse, because soft persimmons will always be bullied.
What exactly should be done? In the movie "American Sniper", the words of the father's son who teaches the fight may give you the answer. He said there are three types of people in the world, sheep, wolves and sheepdogs. We cannot be lambs to be slaughtered, nor can we be wolves that kill fiercely, but sheepdogs with good nature and sharp edge.
Parents should teach their children 4 tricks, let the children not be soft persimmons, and become people who can't afford to be annoyed
In addition to physical bullying, there are many "hidden bullying", such as giving children insulting nicknames, arbitrarily saying bad things or rumors about others, forcing others to do certain things, and uniting with others to exclude children. These are all hidden bullying, compared to the physical bullying that is directly started, hidden bullying is more difficult for parents to detect, but it is more harmful to the child's psychology.
If you want your child to grow up physically and mentally, parents must teach their children 4 tricks, so that children have a sense of anti-bullying from an early age, do not make soft persimmons, and become people who cannot afford to be provoked.
1. Have a strong physique
Physical strength is a necessary condition for resisting bullying by others. Exercise more, have a strong physique, and others will think that you are not particularly annoying.
Take your child to exercise regularly, run, swim, etc., so that children have a healthy body and a better physique. At least when encountering bullying, when "if you can't win the fight, run" or "if the situation is not good, turn your head and run", you can still have the physical strength to "escape".
2, brave to say "no"
When others hit you for the first time, count you down, and make you feel uncomfortable, look at him with your eyes and loudly tell him that "you can't hit people casually" and "you can't give people nicknames at will", and at the same time let the people around you feel: You are not a good bully.
If you don't say "no" the first time, there's a good chance there's a next. Know that a lot of bullying starts with "jokes".
Sometimes a person's momentum will bring a sense of oppression to others. When you look at him with a sense of justice in your eyes and say "no" to him with righteous words, he will back down and dare not bully you.
3, know how to ask others for help
When you encounter a situation that you can't handle, you know how to ask your parents, teachers, and others for help, remember your parents' phone numbers, and learn to dial 110.
When encountering bullying from classmates, first push away the other party and quickly find a way to escape, and then tell the teacher at the first time; you can also ask for help from the security guard and the uniformed person; and tell your parents in time when the bullying occurs.
Parents must tell their children: maybe the bad guys or even the teachers will tell you not to tell the parents, but this is all fake, be sure to tell the parents as soon as possible, we will always be your backing.
Parents should give their children enough trust and security, do not care, do not care about the child's appeal. In fact, as long as parents love their children, trust their children, give their children enough warmth, love from the family, let the children know that their parents love him and are his most solid backing, children will hardly be bullied in school.
4. Make friends
Enter kindergarten, make as many friends as possible, and with friends, others will not dare to bully you at will. Children without friends are easily isolated, and when you have friends, people who want to bully you will weigh them.
Many people say that it is too early for a child to tell him about the "darkness of society" at such a young age? In fact, teach children to protect themselves, the sooner the better. Even if many things have not yet been encountered, at least they can play a preventive role.
Thanks for reading!
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