Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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The love of a thousand years and a lifetime of keeping each other is the most ideal dream of people involved in feelings. If you can, this dream can not wake up forever, and this life is also the fulfillment with the right temperature.
It's just a pity that in the world of love and changeable love, no matter how many sea oaths and mountain alliances there are between people, they can't withstand the fickleness of people's hearts when the bland strikes.
In feelings, women are very easy to regard men as the whole of their lives, is deep love, habits, is dependence... In short, after being deeply involved in feelings, women begin to say goodbye to the long journey of reason...
Many women, deeply aware of the need to manage feelings, but never know the scale of management, and finally when they are still full of enthusiasm, they find that men have long decided to withdraw from their own world.
Even, some women, for a man to turn themselves into a "gyroscope" around the man all the time, from opening their eyes and contacting men for the first time because of their thoughts to the countless messages sent out before going to bed and countless phone calls...
These, which seem to be manifestations of love, have long become a burden in men's hearts!
In men's hearts, the passion period will feel that women are clinging to themselves, which is a sense of accomplishment that shows their own charm. But after a long time, it will feel very boring. I even think that women are really wordy and troublesome...
The longer the days go on, the more a rebellious psychology, enthusiasm for women, fear, burden and disgust will arise.
Therefore, we often see some women, obviously very good to men, always overloaded with men as the center, and finally confused and broken up.
See, there is nothing wrong with loving someone, but loving too much is a mistake of self-harm.
What are you doing, have you eaten, what have I done, what I bought...
In these words, every word and sentence hides the deep affection and longing of women for men. According to common sense, men should be more affectionate with such women.
But in fact, women's strong affection is like "a person knows that some nutritional products are good for themselves, but because of the excess supplement, tired, it is good for themselves and do not want to eat" is a truth.
In the relationship, the excessive clinginess of women, for men, is only a foolish act of increasing the burden of thought.
Women who interact with men and women, and who do not "take the initiative and warmly contact men every day", are very smart!
Because she has a good grasp of the right temperature in the process of getting along, so that they need each other at the healthiest distance and are independent! Thus, getting along becomes comfortable and affectionate with each other!
In the relationship, if you want to be a wise woman to gain the heart of a man, just do it:
First: cool down your own heat appropriately
When a woman over-gives her passion in her relationship, her ending is nothing more than the following:
Being broken up because she was too inappropriate for herself;
Cultivate scumbags, because of her initiative and enthusiasm, let men feel deeply deserved;
Even if the relationship continues, it will be bored by men...
In short, women who are overly enthusiastic in their feelings often leave blank space for their feelings to love themselves, so they will be full of holes after going all out.
Emotional management is like an electrocardiogram, which requires ups and downs to keep life active. This also requires women to understand that it is necessary to treat men with both hot and cold in order to make men and themselves comfortable.
Like in the cycle of four seasons, the clear temperature can make people have a deep feeling for each season!
When a woman is too active in contacting men every day and is too enthusiastic about giving to men in her daily life, she gradually falls into a deadlock.
The management of feelings should be relaxed and measured. Man, after all, is interested in some difficult to conquer people or things, you let him lose the desire to challenge and conquer, he is naturally not interested in you.
Second: Try to enrich your own spiritual world
In the world of feelings, why do some women get overly enthusiastic and proactive? There is only one answer:
Their self-imposed safety is not enough!
In real life, if a person's sense of self-security is not established enough, he will definitely pin all his hopes and dependence on others. In the relationship, the overly enthusiastic woman is just doing the work of pleasing the form of love in the name of love.
There are two kinds of love: seeking inward and seeking outward. People who are not safe enough will be accustomed to asking outward, because they expect to get the ideal response, so they will have a great deviation in the degree.
When a person can feel safe and self-sufficient, she will always be rational about any relationship, including facing the person she loves.
Although love is an unavoidable approach, when the sense of self-security is abundant, she will operate rationally, rather than blindly and enthusiastically approaching.
Women's appropriate passivity can teach men to be appropriately active. Women blindly take the initiative, so that men "lose" the ability to take the initiative, and finally the weight of women in men's hearts is getting lighter and lighter.
Those marriage relationships that are overly enthusiastic and actively won back by women are never a state of balance. Therefore, in the relationship, smart women will have their own healthy circles, plump interests and hobbies, and the time is so tight that every time they contact men, they make men feel sad and grateful.
When men look for themselves, they should respond enthusiastically, and when men snubble themselves, they can also concentrate on getting along with "loneliness". Occasional concern and greetings to men are what men feel happy and look forward to.
For the rest of your life, be a smart woman who knows how to set herself up a sense of security and moderately grasp the enthusiasm, and has the instinct of self-appreciation and the ability of men to appreciate themselves.
In this way, the big winner of the relationship is none other than you!
Finally, admonish women:
In the world of feelings, it is never that the more you give, the more you can be rewarded, and the more relaxed and maintain a healthy distance, you can grasp the man's heart better.
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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