Author/Pond Fish
Between people, there always needs to be a certain sense of distance, and so does home.
If there is a distance, you can maintain a sense of mystery, and with a sense of mystery, others will respect you, and in the same way, they will respect your family.
In daily life, you can only say what you should say, and don't go around saying what you can't say. The so-called curse comes out of the mouth, and it is not uncommon. To put it bluntly, the real sadness of a family is not that there is no money, but that the 4 secrets of the family are casually revealed to outsiders.
01. The property situation of the family
The property situation in your family should be absolutely private, just understand it yourself, don't go to outsiders to say, even if others ask, you can blur it, this is your family's business, you don't have to tell others.
Money has always been a more sensitive thing, and it is also the most likely to cause a subtle change in the heart between people. As a person around you, if one day you find that your friend, who has always been similar to yourself, is suddenly better than you, in fact, anyone may subconsciously not be a taste.
It's just that some people can use reason to balance their own jealousy, while some people really don't, they will only let jealousy take root in their hearts, and even give birth to slander.
Let's take a heart-wrenching example.
I have a classmate who got married to a husband who was relatively well off financially, and after marriage, her husband directly handed over the economic power to her, which led to a lot of money in her hand. She told a good friend of hers the total amount. And her good friend married, looking for a husband who met in college, the family conditions are not good, the down payment of the married house is borrowed money to buy, the decoration is also borrowed money, after marriage, the two of them have been thrifty in debt repayment, and there is no savings.
Originally, they had a good relationship, but since then, her friend has often connotated her, saying that it is better to marry a rich person, unlike herself, a lifetime is a hard life, and she often quarrels with her husband when she goes back. Her good friend thinks that her conditions are not worse than hers, why is her life so bad? Even ask her directly.
She didn't know how to answer, the relationship between the two people became particularly awkward after that, and her good friend said anything to her, basically three sentences without leaving the money, which was obviously not the case before.
Moreover, if you let outsiders know the financial situation of your family, it will inevitably attract the worries of some people with hearts, such as looking for you to borrow money, in short, it is thankless.
02. The "ugly thing" at home
As the old saying goes, the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, and some things that the two of you understand on your own, don't go around saying it, even the closest friends.
First of all, everyone has their own life, no one really cares about the chai rice oil and salt in your home, all kinds of details and contradictions, you talk too much, have been chattering, outsiders do not feel empathy, maybe only think that you are more annoyed; secondly, the ugly family outside, may not be the person who sat in front of you a second ago to comfort you, turn around and tell your business as a talking point to other people, but also demean you; finally, people are separated from the stomach, that is, some people have a bad heart, see that you are not doing well, Maybe someone is quietly enjoying it behind their backs.
I know a girl who is actually the kinder person, but she has a problem: it is easy to pour out her heart and lungs for people. Maybe the friend who has just known each other for a long time, the two people just sat together and ate a meal, she said some of the contradictions between herself and her husband, said it all, when it comes to emotional places, it is always easy to cry.
Of course, her intention was to talk and be comforted, because her marriage was not so happy.
But really, talking also has to be divided into people, occasions, and states, and this kind of crazy complaint about catching a person will only make outsiders think that you are like a Xianglin sister-in-law, and it is easy to be a little contemptible from the heart, because she is too easy to expose her vulnerability and vulnerability. And this part should have been hidden in the heart. After all, the essence of man is Mu Qiang.
Once, I found a friend we knew together complaining about her, saying that she didn't speak at all, and she couldn't distinguish the pros and cons, so it was no wonder that the marriage was not happy.
03. Family connections
Don't go to anyone and emphasize your connections. No matter who you know, there's no good in overemphasizing it. First of all, sometimes knowing is just knowing, you only know the person you know, does not mean that you are strong, emphasizing this point will not really raise the evaluation of others.
Moreover, awareness does not mean that connections, and the premise that connections can play a role is that the value between you must be at least maintained at the same level.
Sometimes, you say too much, in case others have something to do next time, really come to you to help solve it, this time to help or not to help is easy to offend people. And in itself, you go to others to help, but also a way to consume personal value, anyway, in general, in the end, most of the disadvantages outweigh the benefits.
In the end, this point is actually the same as the economy of your family, you have said too much, maybe you are sharing normally, but you feel that you know a very strong person and want to talk about it. But in the eyes of others, it is possible to think that you are just showing off, and maybe behind your back, you may say that you love to show off.
Anyway, try to keep a low profile, and do no harm.
04. Your private affairs
The private affairs of two people not only include the contradictions and ugly things in your relationship mentioned earlier, but also some good things, and even some situations about your relationship itself, such as showing affection in front of friends, saying how much the other party loves you, what kind of things you have done, and so on.
Once or twice, others may listen from the heart and express envy.
But after talking too much, outsiders may think that you are deliberately telling him. Moreover, about your pillow person, people's hearts are unpredictable, and sometimes outsiders may know more comprehensively than you know, but they just don't tell you.
When I went online last night, I also saw a woman complaining that one of her friends' husband had actually been cheating on them for more than a year, and her friends often showed affection in front of them, saying how good her husband was, which was a joke in their eyes.
All in all, you have to remember one sentence: it is always right to be a person and do things, be careful in words and deeds.
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