Don't always yell at your children, everyone needs respect, too harsh is certainly not good!

I often see friends yelling at their children, and I will persuade them. When parents look at problems, to find a way, you always yell, not only can not solve the problem, but also will make the child feel insecure. Especially some single-parent families, they should be encouraged and give their children self-confidence. Don't kill your child's confidence and sunshine. "Parents are too strict, children will be inferior, Xiaobian is an example, because from childhood to adulthood, parents are more blame." When I grew up, although I had endurance, I didn't have enough self-confidence. "Why can't parents yell at their children?

I hope that parents will study hard.

The following few words may not be unfamiliar to you, and I ask you to eat quickly. Eat a meal is grinding chirping, I talk to you, do you hear? How many times have I told you? Deaf in the ear? How can you be so stupid, your academic performance can't be improved. You see, you get it all over the place. Do you often teach your children this way? Maybe you will think, I don't want to yell, I'm not all for his good. But have you ever wondered how serious the consequences of yelling at your children so often in childhood can be? Have you thought about it? Some parents even feel that yelling at their children is harsh and a responsibility.

In fact, yelling at the child is wrong.

Psychological research has shown that when you yell at a child, there are often two situations when the child is behind. react. First, he would endure in silence and confess his mistakes. In fact, I just hope that this yelling will end quickly, rather than psychological recognition, which will make the child unconsciously become a flattering personality. I dare not say that any opinions are hidden in my heart, so that I may cause a cowardly character to the future growth of my child. In the face of difficulties, there will be evasion, and second, it will fight back angrily and appear to resist. Screaming with parents to the dry queen, and even crying for something too radical, will prematurely enter the rebellious period, and even develop an anti-social personality, impatient and impulsive on the road to future growth, and even violent tendencies.

Discipline needs to be civilized, and parents should know what they need – it should be respectful and encouraged. Some parents say that as their children get older, it becomes more and more difficult to regulate, do you think this is the end? When a child is attacked by language, the volume of the hippocampus in the brain decreases. The hippocampus is primarily responsible for memory and emotional control, which is why most parents feel like they've finished yelling at their child. Children's grades and habits will not change because of this, and even cause greater trouble to children, the original problems, you will find better for half a day. On the contrary, it will not be even simpler, with a good child to educate him, you may get a moment of peace of mind, in fact, this is not a fundamental solution. Therefore, instead of letting the child bear the irreversible harm of verbal violence, it is better to stand with the child and analyze the problem from the root. Help him solve the puzzle. If you really don't know how to communicate properly with your child, you can't help but yell at your child.

Xiaobian flashed marriage and divorced, and the child lived with me when he was less than one year old. But when he grew up, the child was not hostile to his mother, all because my kindness affected the child. In the beginning, the child cannot accept the fact of losing his mother, and he will be hostile to this mother. But when the father's family did not count down her mother, then the child could basically accept it. Some couples after divorce, will often say that the other party is not, and even feel that this is the oil bottle left by the other party, always shouting at the child, so that the child has no sense of security. In the future, marriage will even be treated that way.

Roaring is a sign of cowardice. It doesn't solve the problem and hurts the child's self-esteem. As parents, whether we interact with children or interact with colleagues and friends, when there are some contradictions, we must maintain reason and civilization, so as to get the understanding and respect of others. Our children will also do something wrong, as long as you think differently to educate, he will accept. If you are a bully, feel that you are a father or a mother, and have given a lot, you need your children to be right in everything, then you will be disappointed.

Don't yell at anyone. What do you think about that?

Source: I am from Poyang