Unlike the fathers who preferred their sons in the past, more young fathers now want to have a daughter, not only because the daughter is cute and "intimate little cotton jacket", but also because the pressure is easy after raising a daughter.
Now it is said that the son is a "construction bank", parents desperately try to make money to save money for their son, and the daughter is a "China Merchants Bank", after the daughter gets married without buying a car and buying a house, parents can not be so worried.
But in fact, for the education of their daughters, there are many things that parents need to worry about, especially for fathers, there are more problems that need to be paid attention to in the growth and education of their daughters.
"Children avoid mothers, and daughters avoid fathers", fathers must know not to cross the line
When the son is older, the mother should avoid suspicion, and the father of the daughter should also pay attention not to cross the line, even if the father is a "daughter slave", but in the process of the daughter growing up slowly, the father and the daughter should also pay attention to the measure.
Especially physical contact, when the child grows up, has germinated gender awareness, parents should know how to avoid suspicion. If parents ignore the gender of their children, it will bring great confusion to the growth of their children.
In fact, many fathers are more likely to ignore this problem, even stars have stepped on this minefield. As a famous football star, Beckham was once filmed by reporters kissing his daughter Xiaoqi mouth-to-mouth at the scene of the game.
This move has suffered great criticism, because the daughter is not a year or two old, the age is not too young, this kind of cross-border behavior will inevitably be criticized by everyone.
In addition, domestic male stars Hu Jun and Huo Jianhua have also been photographed kissing their daughters. In this regard, Xiaoxue's mother wants to say that the father's love for his daughter is completely understandable, but at different stages of the child's growth, the father should change the way to express his love, and these details are also very important for the child's growth.
What will be the result of the female eldest not avoiding the father?
First, there is a heavy dependence on Dad
When the father's love in the daughter's heart is significantly higher than the mother's love, the father will become a special existence in the child's heart, and may even produce a "father-in-law" plot, which will cause trouble to the child's future emotions, the daughter is heavily dependent on the father, and the future mate selection concept will also be affected.
Dad becomes the only benchmark, and some expressions of love are not coddling, just like between couples and couples, it is more of a mutual respect than a unilateral payment.
Second, there is not enough awareness of privacy protection
When the child reaches a certain age, parents should clearly explain to the child some problems that need to be paid attention to and get along with the opposite sex. For example, the daughter needs to know which parts of her body need to be protected, make "discrimination" on some actions of the opposite sex, have a sense of self-protection, and how to protect her own interests in the face of danger.
Third, there is a lack of autonomy and privacy awareness
When the daughter is older, the father will leave in some of the daughter's growth activities, such as bathing and changing clothes, which should be handed over to the same-sex parents. The same father should also pay attention to the behavior in front of his daughter, try not to be bare-chested at home, do not change clothes in front of his daughter, and grasp the boundaries of getting along with his daughter, which is also a way of educating his daughter to grow.
How can a father get along better with his daughter and show the charm that a father should have?
First, give enough security, but not coddling
In the education of parents, the love of mothers belongs to gentle and delicate, and mothers can do better in many details; and fathers are that kind of strength, courage, and security.
The charm of the father lies in providing a safe harbor for the daughter, chatting with the daughter more, going out to play together, which can make the daughter understand that the father is the pillar of the family and the support, and can also let the daughter understand what is the sense of responsibility.
Second, praise more and don't be confused, give enough confidence to children
Most of the child's confidence comes from the encouragement and praise of parents, and the father can often encourage and praise the daughter's behavior to help the daughter build self-confidence. But also to avoid perfunctory and foolish, this encouragement needs to be from the heart, sincere, so that the child will be stronger in the future, and will not fall in love early because of insecurity, hoping to get from other members of the opposite sex.
Third, teach your daughter the right way to get along with the opposite sex
Dads are the most important males in a daughter's life and have a big influence on the way she gets along with the opposite sex. It can be said that some of the daily patterns of father and daughter will also evolve into a template for daughters to get along with others.
The same father's responsibility and responsibility will also make the daughter understand the criteria for finding a partner in the future, polish her daughter's eyes, and find the right person, without being deceived by a momentary lie.