Why is homeschooling important?
Zhu Yongxin
Almost all excellent children have the imprint of their parents. In all children in question, the reasons for their families can also be found. It is not right to blame the school for having problems, it is not right to have all the grades and credits to the school, and the role of the family is far more important than that of the school.
Family education is the foundation and key to our entire education chain.
Big Data Analytics: Ten Key Problems in Homeschooling
The China Academy of Educational Sciences once conducted a survey of 40,000 parents and children in China, which was conducted in 4 provinces in China, and finally released the results, serialized in the "China Education News", with about ten main conclusions:
1. What do Chinese parents care most about their children?
Most chinese parents are focused on becoming talented rather than adults, and they are more concerned about the present. But there are a few key issues that really determine a child's future, such as hobbies. In fact, people's interests and hobbies are a very important aspect of his understanding of this society, and only paying attention to academic performance is not conducive to the cultivation of children's curiosity and interest. Children's emotions, ability to handle interpersonal relationships, self-management, personality, personality traits, are in fact much more important than the issues that parents are most concerned about.
2. Is preschool important to children?
The survey results found that among children with poor academic performance, 10.89% more children have attended preschool than they have not attended preschool, which has subverted many people's past concepts. Many of our parents want not to let their children lose at the starting line, but to win at the starting line, so they must learn a little earlier than others and learn a little more than others. In fact, the child needs childhood, the child needs to play, to be happy, to discover on his own, and he will not be interested in what you force him to learn. Prematurely, the child has antagonistic emotions about learning, so that he is afraid of learning before he enters school.
3. What is the significance and effect of school choice?
Everyone needs to choose a school, and many parents want to send their children to the best schools. Big data analysis found that there was no difference between the best students who chose school and non-school students, the proportion was 29.95% and 28.48%, respectively. Of course, this is not to say that choosing a good school is meaningless for student development, frankly because schools are cultured, and children in schools influence each other. Children have a greater impact on each other than schools have on children. The key is why some school choice effect is not good, for those children with a relatively weak foundation, he may have a sense of security and self-confidence in other schools, but to the best school makes him feel that he has no hope in front of so many school bullies, and his academic performance will decline.
4. Can students effectively improve their grades when they go to and from extracurricular classes?
About 90% of Chinese children are in extracurricular classes, and after attending extracurricular classes, children's time and space are filled, and the possibility of independent learning is not enough. In this way, the ability to learn will shrink and development will be greatly limited. In addition, the extracurricular class is still relatively still a continuation of school life, still a continuation of textbooks, a continuation of the classroom, and students do not have an opportunity to broaden their horizons. A child who does not have a lot of time for extracurricular reading is unlikely to develop well.
5. Can material stimulation stimulate children's enthusiasm for learning?
Many families use bonuses and all kinds of temptations to encourage their children to learn. This survey found that the results are not as big as we thought, what is the greater effect? It is the consistency and coordination of parental education, which can stimulate children's learning. For example, when parents disagree on education, they can not quarrel in front of their children, but communicate, share, and negotiate privately. Material stimuli are far less effective than parents' positive effects on their children.
6. Investigate what parents are doing in their spare time?
Found that the most is the parents in reading the newspaper, parents themselves in learning, reading books to read the newspaper, their children's excellent performance is the highest proportion, accounting for 31.31%, followed by parents will also watch TV, play computers and look at mobile phones, their children have excellent grades The proportion of excellent grades is much less, 27.43%, and there are especially like friends to gather parents' children have excellent grades of only 24.90%. I believe that the gap between these data in real life is still a little larger, and personally I feel that the gap is not as large as I thought.
7. How much does a child's self-management ability affect learning?
In order to concentrate on their children's studies, many parents prepare all things for him, and all the work is not allowed to be done. As a result, only 3.17% of the children who thought that as long as they studied well and did not do housework, only 3.17% had excellent academic performance. And 86.92% of the excellent children who think they should do housework and should manage their own affairs. The ability to let the child manage his own affairs will eventually help him manage his own learning. Learning is a self-managing process, and this conclusion is very instructive for many parents.
8. What is the role of fathers in the growth of children?
In many families in China, the father is invisible, the so-called "shadow father". The real role of fathers in family education is far from being played, and this survey found that in 90% of Chinese families, fathers do not take on the responsibility of education. Most of the things that families teach their children are borne by mothers, and we know that the lack of father's education has a clear limitation on children, especially for children's character development. Gender identity will be weakened, easy to be overly cared for by the mother, over-protected, lack of opportunities for independent exercise, lack of manhood. So the lack of a father's role in homeschooling can lead to all sorts of bad behaviors.
9. Do Chinese parents understand their children?
Through the investigation of parents, it was found that parents first knew how many good friends their children had, followed by which teacher the child liked and what class the child liked. Parents do not go into the child's heart, do not understand what the child really wants, do not understand what the child is not willing to say to the parents, who does the child worship? It shows that our parents have not understood the needs of the child and the real situation of the child's heart.
10. Is there a relationship between a child's academic performance and the parenting style of the parents?
Where parents adopt a positive parenting style, the child's academic performance is relatively high. Parenting styles are relatively negative, and children's academic performance is relatively poor. It shows that the child's academic performance is still very closely related to the parenting style of the parents.
Three key words in family education
1. Companionship
Children come to the family and you become a community, this is the fate of life, how can you cherish the time with your children? In fact, we know that when a child actually leaves you, it's hard for you to want to be with him. So the time to really be together is very limited, and being together is education in itself. I think this is very critical, why?
Because you and your child eat together, talk together, communicate together, communicate and learn all the time, Western psychology has an interesting study, they found that there is a direct positive correlation between the vocabulary of children and the vocabulary of parents communicating at home, especially at the dinner table.
You're talking about politics, and the child may be interested in politics in the future; if you're complaining, the child may be full of complaining emotions. Everything that happens to you in the family will have a direct impact on the child. Why do we say that there should be parent-child reading, and there should be sufficient communication between parents and children? Many of our parents think that there is no point in not talking to their children too much, but in fact everything you say, even if he doesn't understand it today, will become an important part of the structure of his brain.
More importantly, companionship and living together will determine whether the whole family has a common destiny, and we put forward a proposition: read together, write together, and live together. The tone is companionship, and the impact of companionship on children is very important.
2. Read
The seeds of reading are sown in the family. The Reading Manual introduces a poem, "You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and chests of gold." But you'll never be richer than I am, and I have a mom who reads to me. "Reading is an important source for children to have a rich spiritual life, and the cultivation of reading ability, the cultivation of reading interest, and the cultivation of reading habits begin from the family."
For children, childhood reading is associated with education, and a family that does not read will never have a real education.
After reading these books, children begin to enjoy reading. Why is early childhood reading important? I have always believed that those children's books are indeed different from the books read by adults, and children's books will quietly hide the best things of human beings through the fate of individuals and animals, and build your values.
3. Habits
Habits, to a large extent, education is the cultivation of habits. Mr. Ye Shengtao said that education is to cultivate habits, and it is also right to think about it, and whether education is successful is to measure whether he has formed good habits. How does he treat people and how do he do things? Sports is not to see how high you jump, how fast you run, how good you are at playing, in fact, the most important thing in sports is to see if you have developed good fitness habits. If you have excellent sports performance, eat and drink and do not exercise, and your health is also very bad, this is not called sports success.
Psychological research points out that a good habit formation requires 21 consecutive days of continuous training, and we aim at how to help students develop good behavior habits for a habit, whether it is exercise or reading, which I think is very much needed in the family. For example, going to bed early and getting up early is a habit. For a child, a good habit can affect a lifetime. In family education, it is good to do these three things well.
Author | Zhu Yongxin (Deputy Secretary-General of the CPPCC National Committee and Vice Chairman of the Central Committee of the China Association for Promoting Democracy)
Source | "Teacher Boya" WeChat (with abridgements)