Just as the so-called "do not write homework mother kindness and filial piety, a homework chicken flying dog jump", in recent years, students' learning tasks have become more and more heavy, and parents have gradually stepped onto the "stage" of tutoring homework.
It sounds like a warm and harmonious scene, but only parents who have really tutored their children to write homework know in their hearts that they would rather work overtime to be criticized by their boss than go home to face their children's homework.
Dad tutoring daughter homework results were angry to "chin dislocation"
Many people who have not experienced it do not understand how difficult it is to tutor homework. However, parents who have really experienced it understand in their hearts that tutoring homework not only ruins their children's happy childhood, but also seriously affects the parent-child relationship, which can be called the "first killer" of parent-child relationship.
Recently, when a father in Hunan was tutoring his daughter to know the "YuanJiaofen", because his daughter still could not learn it many times, the tone of the father who gradually lost patience became higher and higher.
Just when Dad was about to growl and shout, his jaw suddenly closed, and he finally went to the hospital for 150 yuan for treatment.
When he walked out of the hospital, his father still muttered "150 yuan is not good to do something", and it can be seen that tutoring children to write homework is really a "labor and money" thing.
This matter was filmed as a video and sent to the Internet, which triggered a large number of parents to resonate, have left messages "empathy", sometimes tutoring children to write homework will really "blood pressure soar", the key is that children can not be scolded, parents can only go online to complain.
In the face of the rain that is getting heavier and heavier, parents do not understand why children can always have such strange creativity, and children certainly do not understand why they are criticized by their parents for just letting the rain fall a little heavier.
This northeastern parent is even more impatient, directly to his daughter to release harsh words "I have long wanted to hug you", this is also the voice of all parents, if not biological, I don't know how many times to start.
Help children write homework, use the right skills to achieve "motherly kindness and filial piety"
When tutoring homework, chickens fly and jump, which is already the status quo that most parents have to face, parents often do not understand why their children are so "stupid", especially many parents with high education are even more difficult to understand, why children do not inherit their own high IQ.
In fact, parents should not ask children with adult thinking and ideas, after all, parents are very familiar with many simple problems, but for children, those simple topics are unfamiliar knowledge, they need time to slowly understand, but under the "high pressure" of parents, it will be more nervous, and it is difficult to understand the topic smoothly.
Therefore, while tutoring homework, parents must also understand their children and let themselves go, and self-cultivation is a major prerequisite.
In fact, parents do not have to look forward to cultivating their children from an early age to cultivate talents with achievements and achievements, because the vast majority of people in this world are ordinary people.
Especially those parents who have significant achievements, they must learn to accept that their children are ordinary people. The British biologist Galton proposed a concept called "mean reversion".
Roughly speaking, whether it is the height of the child or the future achievements compared with the parents, it will gradually return to the mean, which is what we often call the normal state and average.
Every child has its own life trajectory, and parents must learn to recognize the child's difference, but also to recognize the child's ordinary.
There is no need to ask children to become jackie chan, as long as they are true to themselves, work hard, even if there is no great deed, they can truly express and feel the world. This is the pursuit of children, and it should also be the expectation of parents.
Of course, it is not to encourage parents to completely give up tutoring their children, and parents still have to do a good job of tutoring and supervision before the children do not have the ability to complete homework alone.
Good habits are important for children
For lower grade students, good habits when writing homework are very important, but it is also difficult to develop, so the key for parents to tutor lower grade children to write homework is to urge them to develop good habits.
Children with good habits can concentrate on completing homework, and as they age, good habits can also help improve academic performance.
Parents should give more encouragement
When children enter puberty, let alone tutoring homework, is normal communication, and it is easy to "chicken fly dog jump".
When communicating with their children, parents should not question and deny, say more words of encouragement, enhance their children's self-confidence in learning, and give their children benign guidance.