Love is plain, in fact, it is an emotional connection between two people who have a good feeling for each other, that is, two people need to keep in touch to achieve a good relationship.
Therefore, each other's hobbies, joys and sorrows, as well as their vision of the future and the requirements for the other half, have been gradually understood in this chat.
Just when two people think that love is almost breaking the window paper, they find that they don't know why, one of them has become inactive.
No longer take the initiative to find a topic, no longer take the initiative to contact themselves, even if they share a very interesting thing, the other party is also very perfunctory reply, in this case, we need to carefully distinguish the cause, and then find the root of the problem, the right medicine.
However, because women's way of thinking is mainly emotional, many times, when faced with men's involuntary contact, they will mess up.
Either please the other party, or treat each other well at any cost.
However, these actions will not achieve a good effect, because what is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored are fearless.
Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, when the other party does not take the initiative to contact, how will the smart woman handle it correctly?
First seriously consider whether the reason for not being active comes from yourself
A soldier fell in love with a princess, and the princess said that as long as the soldier was willing to stay under the city gate for ninety-nine days, then she would agree to his pursuit, and the soldier gladly accepted.
At that time, there were many people who thought that the soldier was delusional, that the toad wanted to eat swan meat, so they all came to laugh at the soldier, and even some people beat the soldier and threw him with rotten eggs, but the soldier did not flinch, still chose to insist, slowly, people were moved by his perseverance, and they stopped laughing at him and turned to support him.
On the ninety-eighth day, the princess also began to look forward to the soldiers, but strangely, the soldier left the city gate on the ninety-eighth day, which meant that he chose to give up, and everyone was puzzled, thinking that there was only one step away from success, how could he give up?
At this time, the soldier said that he had spent ninety-eight days to prove that he loved the princess, and the remaining day to prove that he loved himself, that he loved the princess, but that he did not get a response to the enthusiasm and did not have to insist, so in the end, he chose to maintain his self-esteem.
So, sometimes, men don't initiate perhaps because women don't respond to their enthusiasm, making them feel that their efforts are meaningless and choosing to give up when they are tired.
Therefore, when men do not take the initiative to contact themselves, smart women will first reflect on themselves, and then change them, and encourage them if they have none.
Then put the problem in the open and talk about it, and strengthen communication and coordination
The fundamental reason why some love is scattered as it walks and walks, and the fundamental reason why love is faded is that two people lack communication and communication.
They know where the problem is, they know why the problem is, but the two people just pretend to be blind, and neither of them will put the problem on the table to talk.
As a result, love gradually becomes a mess in such a mode.
The feelings of Chen Xiaochun and Ying Cai'er make many people feel envious, but their happiness is not born out of thin air, but is based on communication.
Chen Xiaochun once said his views on marriage, in his view, once he married, he will definitely not divorce, no matter what happens, the first thing he thinks of will be to find a way to solve it, so that the marriage can be maintained for a long time, even if the other party has an affair, he will only put things on the table to think about solving, rather than impulsively divorcing.
As a result, their feelings can be as sweet and beautiful as they have been for decades.
For us, the problems in our feelings must be spoken out to have a solution, and only by saying them can we prescribe the right medicine.
Finally, go with the flow, do nothing, and please yourself
01), a person still loves you, then he will take the initiative, even if it is because of our problems, after frankly announcing, will continue to take the initiative;
If a person does not love, even if we open the words, it is still useless, because the other party does not love, so what we do is meaningless.
At this time, we need to understand that the current relationship has no meaning to insist, because love is a matter of two people from beginning to end, one person wants to quit, then the other person can not change the ending no matter how hard he tries.
02), Yi Shu once said: "The love that truly belongs to you will not make you miserable, the person who loves you will not make you suffer from gain and loss, some people will win the jackpot with one vote, and some people will write a book and become famous." ”
Therefore, when facing this situation, what we need to do is not to be more useless, but to go with the flow, spend more time and energy on ourselves, and do what we like to do.
When we begin to please ourselves, we will get different happiness, even if there is really no lover, then treat ourselves as lovers and please ourselves well.