The mother and daughter of Tanchun and Aunt Zhao are really lamentable.
Obviously, blood is thicker than water, but their relationship is not harmonious, not necessarily how close. Because she was a concubine, the identity of Aunt Zhao was embarrassing, and the children she gave birth to could only recognize Madame Wang as a mother, calling her "aunt", and she could only be counted as half a master at most.
Because of Aunt Zhao's relationship, one of her children was dragged down. In ancient times, the identity of Shu out was a natural shortcoming, and there were dwarfs everywhere. The boy can still fight for his career and change the situation, and even if the daughter's family is excellent, it is difficult to perform, whether it is in the mother's family, or in the future to discuss relatives, to the in-laws' family, it is inevitable to be despised.
And Aunt Zhao herself is also indistinguishable, not only can not handle interpersonal relations, has repeatedly become a joke of everyone, and does not know how to educate their children, which makes them doubly embarrassed. Jia Huan, who followed Aunt Zhao's side, became a small frozen cat who could not get on the high platform, with a dark psychology, selfishness and distortion, and one mouth "bullied me not to be raised by my wife." Fortunately, Tanchun grew up around Madame Wang, and often accepted joy under the knees of Jia Mu, and became a good girl with both beauty and wisdom, with a dazzling light.
Of course, Mrs. Wang is willing to raise Tanchun, but also for the sake of family interests, after all, the daughter's family is to grow up and marry, and will not pose any threat to the concubine. If a woman marries well, she can also add glory to the family and have a helping effect. Not being raised by Aunt Zhao herself was both unfortunate and fortunate for Tanchun. How can a small child leave his birth mother prematurely? However, if you follow Aunt Zhao, Tanchun may not be able to figure out what kind of appearance he will be brought!
Without long-term intimate contact, the mother and daughter are naturally not intimate enough. Tanchun has been cultivated by the elite since childhood, and has grown into a big girl, she naturally looks at the problem from the perspective of opposing Aunt Zhao, she is rational, and she also recognizes the feudal etiquette and order. And Aunt Zhao represents the original family she can't get rid of, no matter how well she does, no matter how good she is, someone will always talk about it behind her back, just like Jia Huan, she is born of a concubine after all.
Even Wang Xifeng felt sorry for her, but unfortunately she did not give birth to her wife's belly. This is the place where Tanchun feels powerless, on the surface she does not value it, but in her heart, she is very sensitive, and it is her regret to come out. Anyone can step on it, anyone can laugh, which makes Miss Rose feel bad?
Tanchun is not a ruthless person, as long as Aunt Zhao is not too excessive, everyone can get by on the face, and it will not make Tanchun implicated, she will also be happy with Aunt Zhao and Yan. But Aunt Zhao, who has fewer roots, always has trouble, and whenever she has trouble, she has to explore the spring to solve it, or others look at the love side of the spring and turn a blind eye. Aunt Zhao was more worried, and Tanchun was definitely willing to be closer to her. But Aunt Zhao didn't have that awareness and habit, her daily life was to have trouble, to make trouble, otherwise she wouldn't be able to live.
Why did Aunt Zhao dare to cause trouble every three or five places? It's not that she's hopelessly stupid, in fact, she's pretty shrewd. She knew that her own little fights and small troubles were not paid any attention to at all, so if that was the case, then do it, maybe she would really fight for something. Why not pursue her? It is also to see the merits of her giving birth to a pair of children, Jia Huan is her reliance on the second half of her life, and Tanchun is the reliance in front of her, the more excellent Tanchun is, the more dare she dares to jump high, Tanchun feels humiliated, but she is not enough!
Aunt Zhao dared to make a mistake, and one thing to put it bluntly was that my daughter was very good. She was eager to take a loudspeaker and spread it. Although Tanchun is a teenage girl, she is talented, intelligent and sensitive, and loved by everyone. No wonder Tan Chunqi said: "Who doesn't know that I was raised by my aunt, I have to find out the beginning in two or three months, completely churning for a while, afraid that people don't know, deliberately confessing!" "No way, Aunt Zhao is fighting to have such a clever daughter."
Daughters are excellent, and mothers should be happy. Aunt Zhao should also be happy in her heart, but this happiness is more mixed with sour and slippery taste. No matter how good this daughter is, she is not close enough to herself, and she can't take care of herself. So she said without any barriers: "Don't just take care of pleasing your wife, but also pull and pull us." She felt that Tanchun could not just look at the top, but should look at her birth mother more and give herself more benefits and benefits. Otherwise, what is the use of this daughter?
To truly care for your children, you must think of each other everywhere, and you will not make them embarrassed and sad. And Aunt Zhao didn't have that kind of consideration at all, Tanchun was outstanding, and her birth mother wanted to get some benefits. Completely unaware of Tanchun's identity and position, he always creates problems for Tanchun and is also embarrassing himself.
To put it bluntly, Tanchun is outstanding, but what is the matter with your Aunt Zhao? In addition to giving birth to Tanchun, did Aunt Zhao have any help for the growth of Tanchun? No, not only not, but always dragging on. Besides, tanchun is also very difficult, she can have everything today, not out of thin air, born as a maid, she has to pay double the effort to get the blue eyes of others, those unknown loads, she can only bear silently. Aunt Zhao didn't feel sorry for her, but she shouldn't always add to her blockage.
Aunt Zhao also has her own pitiful and difficult place, her brother died, only to give twenty-two pieces of silver, even the raiders are not comparable, which door is this? Her anger was not entirely unreasonable. But if you do things according to the rules, you can't change the rules for her, right? Besides, it was her own daughter who was judged, and she should understand.
Aunt Zhao couldn't think of exploring the spring temporary housekeeping, it was a bunch of difficulties, she only thought of her own difficulties and grievances. So, she rushed into the council chamber, and in full view of everyone, she embarrassed Tanchun, and had to add twenty-two pieces of silver to Tanchun, and verbally stimulated Tanchun. Tanchun was also angry, tearing up with his mother in public, saying that he would not add a son, and even said that my uncle had only been promoted to the nine provinces inspection point in the next year, where did an uncle run out?
This is said very seriously, not recognizing uncle, that is, not recognizing Aunt Zhao. The reason why Tanchun was so angry was also to blame Aunt Zhao for not choosing words. She holds Tanchun hostage with affection everywhere, and her anger is accompanied by moral kidnapping. It is said that Tanchun climbs high branches, forgets the original, and makes Tanchun unable to get off the stage. Li Yi asked Tanchun to also give aunt Zhao the example of the attacker, but Tanchun refused.
It seems that TanChun is ruthless, but who knows the bitterness in Tanchun's heart? She had a hard time getting a chance to be a housekeeper and wanted to do a good job, but her mother came to smash the field, which made her extremely sad. What's more, she has always been upright and refuses to abuse her power. If she sets a precedent, how will she serve the public in the future? If she favored Aunt Zhao in public, how would she face Madame Wang? In doing so, she is also the best protection for herself and Aunt Zhao.
As the old saying goes: Mother is kind and filial. If a mother is not kind, and if she is filial to her children regardless of right or wrong, it is foolish filial piety, and she cannot stand up herself. From Aunt Zhao's point of view, she was cold-hearted, and the daughter she gave birth to did not recognize herself, did not kiss herself, and had a feeling of being on top, and she did not listen to anything she said. But if she herself is more respectful, why should she be so! Even if the other party is a biological daughter, you can't act arbitrarily. She was not surprised by Tanchun's rebuttal.
Aunt Zhao undoubtedly had a sense of frustration in front of Tanchun. Even Jia Huan said that you are not afraid of the third sister, you go! No matter how much Aunt Zhao made trouble, she was still a little jealous of exploring the spring. Tanchun will not be disturbed by her, and will even criticize and teach her, where is a mother and daughter, it is clear that it should be transferred.
Mother and daughter, there is a difference between cloud and mud, Tanchun has won the respect and high regard of everyone, while Aunt Zhao has been ridiculed by everyone, and even the little girl ring little drama can't look at her. The contrast between Aunt Zhao and Tanchun is so great that she wants to use the light of Tanchun, but she does not know that everyone, including Tanchun herself, regards her as a burden. When others talk about exploring spring, they can't forget to add a sentence, but unfortunately it is not raised by the wife. And Tanchun himself, although he could not sever his relationship with Aunt Zhao, he was also repeatedly bothered and mad about this mother.
This is Aunt Zhao's sorrow. I thought that after making a concubine and giving birth to a son and a half daughter, my life would be comfortable, but I couldn't imagine that I would still live a chicken feather, and my sons and daughters would dislike themselves. She was not willing, she always had to jump up and down, always had to let others see, she was here, as long as she lived, she would toss and turn.
Tanchun can't get rid of Aunt Zhao, she cares about the identity of Shu out, even if she doesn't recognize Aunt Zhao, but it is always a mother-in-law, and life always has to come and go, always have to get along. Even if she was sometimes angry, she still had to clean up the mess for her, again and again, to see her dancing and refusing to give up. Between her and Aunt Zhao, there is the deepest blood relationship, but there is also the most difficult gap to cross.
Aunt Zhao was angry at TanChun's ruthlessness, and Tanchun was helpless to Aunt Zhao's brainlessness and demonism. Aunt Zhao couldn't go up to the sky, couldn't get down to the ground, and pulled Tanchun down by the way. This kind of family affection is still a family affection, but it has long been deformed, and it also makes people feel sad.
It wasn't until Tan Chunyuan got married that Aunt Zhao suddenly woke up and her daughter could never come back. Whether Tan Chunyou is excellent or not, it has nothing to do with her at all. She was crying, this was the second time she had lost her daughter. The first time was when Tanchun was carried to Madame Wang's side, and this time, it was really impossible to see. She had too many regrets, and more worries, but they all turned into tears on her face. Tanchun was also emotional, hugging Aunt Zhao and shouting, "Mother! "All the barriers disappeared in this instant, leaving only pure affection.
Unfortunately, this scene came late. From then on, between them, there will only be thoughts, and even the quarrel will not have a chance again. If Aunt Zhao caused trouble again, no one would clean up the mess for her, and no one would persuade her bitterly. And Tanchun, who married into a foreign country, may gradually understand the helplessness of her birth mother in the future difficult career, after all, she is only a side concubine, not a proper wife. When they understand each other, it will only make people feel more sad.
Author: Ah Wu, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.