As the saying goes, a dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and the son of a mouse will punch a hole. Roughly speaking, it means that your future life is most likely determined by your parents.
Genetically, there's nothing wrong with that statement, because there are some things that you're born with that you really can't change. However, it is not so absolute, because no one can guarantee that they will grow up under the influence of their parents all their lives, whether the influence is good or bad.
Congenital inheritance, many can not be changed, such as we often say, when I grow up, I will become you, the influence brought to us by my parents is often engraved in the bones, can not be shaken off, this is the gene.
However, the growth environment and educational resources of the day after tomorrow cannot be ignored, and it is also a key factor that determines a person's life and failure. Even, the sooner you get out of the bad growth environment controlled by your parents, the easier it is to jump out of a different successful life.
Jia Tanchun, Xing Xiuyan in the dream of the Red Chamber, and the growth of these two young ladies illustrate this point very well. In the roots, they are all young ladies with low births, but their ability to reverse their lives later in the case of bad cards has a lot to do with their later growth environment and personal efforts.
Tan Chun is the daughter of Aunt Zhao, and like Yingchun, she is a lady of Shu Chu, which is in the past of her birth, and this label is labeled from the moment Tan Chun was born, no matter how she draws a line with her birth mother, it is useless.
What kind of role Aunt Zhao is, we all know, it is not that she is from a humble background and drags down her children, this is also something she cannot change, no wonder she. Rather, the insight she brought from this was despicable, rude, and always afraid of the world,those inferior factions who could not be on the table and tossed around everywhere, and "created" a bad environment for their children to grow up.
Let's look at Jia Huan to know, Wang Xifeng is talking about jealousy, reprimanding Jia Huan's words are not bad at all, he said Jia Huan: You don't listen to my words, but instead call these people the crooked intentions of the religion, the fox is domineering. They don't respect themselves, they have to go down, they have a bad heart, and they just complain about the eccentricity of others.
Sister Feng's words were obviously borrowed from Jia Huan to scold Aunt Zhao. Because at this time, Jia Huan had already been taught by Aunt Zhao to be a little frozen cat full of anger, love to take advantage of small profits, full of hatred, and everyone did not want to see.
At the beginning of man, nature is good, can we say that all this is Jia Huan's fault? Can we say that Aunt Zhao is blind and tossing, and the child born must be a bad boy? None of them, but a series of too despicable means by Aunt Zhao, and even unbearably vulgar words and deeds, brought a good son badly.
Born of the same mother, why did Tanchun live into a thorny rose and become a miss that everyone in Jia Province fears for three points? Because she left her birth mother very early, she was not raised by Aunt Zhao.
For Tanchun, since she can't get rid of her innate genetics, she can't choose her own origin, but she can make herself better through hard work, and let herself jump out of the smoky miasma growth environment.
Some people say that Tanchun is still lucky to meet such truly educated and cultivated noble ladies as Jia Mu and Madame Wang, and under their positive teaching and influence, they can naturally become a sunny and confident Miss Qianjin who is extremely talented.
If you just jump out of the original bad growth environment and enter a very good growth environment, without your own acquired efforts, you may not necessarily become a miss like Tanchun. Yingchun is a good example,
She was just as out of the woods as Tanchun, and grew up around Madame Wang, but can we say that her life is a counterattack? Not. Because she just jumped out of the original more harsh growth environment of the Rongguo Mansion Changfang, after arriving at the side of The Second House Wang,She did not seize the opportunity to stand on her own, and did not take this opportunity to turn over, but was still content with the status quo and was bullied everywhere.
Therefore, we say that the acquired growth environment has a huge impact on a person's life and is indispensable, but personal efforts and character development are equally important, and both are indispensable. Tanchun not only jumped out of the bad original family, but after going to Madame Wang's side, she worked hard enough, knew how to win glory for herself, fight for her mother-in-law, and always strictly demanded herself, which led to a new life.
For Tanchun, everyone says that it is "a phoenix in the old bird's nest", but what many people don't know is that the cultivation of this phoenix has nothing to do with the old bird's nest. If I had to say that there was, that is, if it were not for the reverse spur of the original family, there would be no three young ladies who would later be handsome and eyebrow-raising and looking forward to shenfei.
The same is true of Xing Xiuyan's life. Look at her aunt, Mrs. Xing, and look at her parents, what kind of people they are. It's either a miserly person who amasses wealth or who is drunk.
We can imagine that Xing Xianyan, who was born in such a native environment, if it were not for a chance encounter with the noble miaoyu in her life, what kind of girl would she grow into in the future?
Jia Mu once said that those slaves in Jia Province, everyone is two decent eyes, a rich heart, most of them take people by their appearance and take people by their origins. In fact, why is this not the case with these master classes represented by Jia Mu?
You only have to look at the attitude of Jia Mu after Baoqin, Li Wen, Li Qi, and XiuYan entered the house together. For Baoqin, it is a favorite, for Li Wen, Li Qi, there is also a fairly good courtesy, and for Xing Xiuyan, it is a completely neglected attitude.
Everyone looks at a poor girl like Xing Xiuyan with colored glasses, she is Lady Xing's niece, Lady Xing is an embarrassing role in Jia Province, how good can this niece of Jingchao skirt cloth be?
If Xing Xiuyan hadn't met Miao Yu on the way to growth, could she have become a character with a calm disposition and a transcendent nature like an idle cloud and wild crane? This probability can be said to be very small, or even impossible.
When she met Miao Yu, her family's livelihood became a problem, and the house had to be rented in the temple, which can be said to be very difficult. At this time, Xing Xiuyan, with his parents' insight and time and energy, where would he think of teaching his children to read and write culture in order to cultivate his daughter's missing temperament?
It should be said that the appearance of Miao Yu broke Xing Xiuyan's habitual life, and also changed the trajectory of her destiny, her original possible vulgar and ordinary life, because of the appearance of Miao Yu, the lady of the official eunuch family, and there was a new turning point.
Xing Xiuyan lived in the temple where Miao Yu was ordained for ten years, she often went to the temple to be with Miao Yu, and instead of being a neighbor for ten years, the words she recognized were all taught by Miao Yu. This is equivalent to a girl from a poor family, taught for ten years by a rich lady with knowledge and upbringing, who opens a small stove for free!
We know that Miao Yu was eighteen years old when she appeared, pushed forward ten years, she was eight years old, at that time Xing Xiuyan, about the same, a seven- or eight-year-old poor family girl, and a rich woman of the same age as a neighbor for ten years, and this decade is the most critical decade in a person's life, especially the cultivation of personality temperament, the change of life attitude, the accumulation of learning in the abdomen, etc. If there is no such life opportunity, without the infiltration influence of this growth environment that flies from the sky, how can there be Xing Xiuyan, who is admired by everyone later?
Of course, in addition to the objective changes in the growth environment, which have a profound impact on a person's life, personal efforts cannot be ignored. If that Xing Xianyan didn't think much of it when she met Miao Yu, when Miao Yu wanted to teach her to read, she also instinctively resisted, and when she failed to grasp the light that changed her destiny, how could there be a counterattack life that was later valued by Aunt Xue and even became the daughter-in-law of the scholar?
In fact, whether it is Tanchun or Xiuyan, their later enviable lives did not appear out of thin air, without the driving force of personal efforts, no matter how good the environment, it is futile. With this diligent and studious driving force, coupled with their own some understanding, even in the face of a harsh growth environment, they can also play a bad hand of cards in the king of life.
Author: Xi Si Shao, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.