Yingchun is the daughter of Jia Shu of Rongguo Province and the second eldest of the 4,000 gold of Jia Province.
Yingchun's identity is not low, but among several young ladies, she is the one with the least sense of existence. In addition to Yuan Chun, who entered the palace as a concubine, Yingchun was the oldest lady, but Yingchun did not have the style of a sister, and even the demeanor of everyone's bridesmaids. She is cowardly, confused, kind but has no bottom line, can not stand on her own, so she got a nickname "two wood", which is described as a needle poke and does not know pain.
This is unbelievable, that is, those people under the ring, in order to fight for and protect their own interests, are not afraid to stand up and choose to fight. It can be seen that Yingchun has a lot of pockets, and it is not as comfortable as the days of Yahuan.
There is a saying in "Dream of the Red Chamber" that a slave is not like a slave, and the master is not like a master. A typical example is spring. If she can't compare with Tanchun, it's because her personal conditions are not as good as Tanchun, after all, the fragrant and red roses are not affordable to everyone. But in any case, Yingchun is also a serious lady, there is a saying called, people are expensive and self-reliant. But if you can stand up on your own, how can others easily bully you? Even the young Xi Chun knew how to express his wishes, and although he was fierce, he always knew how to protect himself. But Yingchun has no such thoughts.
Yingchun is indeed a poor girl. The birth mother died early, the father only knew how to drink with his wife, and the stepmother did not pay attention to her. As for the pair of brothers and sisters-in-law who love to join in the fun, they also turn a blind eye to this girl. Yingchun is a little transparent. This is the disadvantage of the growth environment, but it is Yingchun herself who makes this disadvantage even more unfavorable.
When Lady Xing rebuked Yingchun for conniving with the next person, she compared her with Tanchun, although it was piercing, but there was also some truth, "You are raised by the person in front of the old master, and the detective here is raised by the person in front of the second old master, the same origin, your mother is ten points stronger than Aunt Zhao, and you should also be stronger than the detective." Why are you a little less than him? But my childless life is clean, and I can't make people laugh! ”
Yingchun and Tanchun are two completely different people, and their biggest difference is not their origin, nor their environment, but their personality. Tanchun is to work hard and win praise and decency for herself, and what Yingchun is doing is not an external condition, but a self-awareness, tanchun torrents bravely advance, but she retreats again and again, until there is no way to retreat.
She thought that as long as she could endure everything, she would have a peaceful life. However, her thinking is wrong, and bad things will not disappear because of your withdrawal, on the contrary, most of the world is bullying, bullying the weak and afraid of hard. When you are so kind that there is no bottom line, your kindness is very cheap, it becomes meaningless, and it will become a powerful weapon for others to hurt you.
Yingchun's temperament of retreating, forbearance, and letting go is the root of her losses everywhere.
Yingchun is not an active person, which may be related to the fact that she has received too little love since she was a child, has never been valued, although she has parents and brothers, but she cannot be cared for, and her heart is bottomless and secure.
In fact, there are often such troubles, but she knows how to actively strive for it. In order to survive, she is close to Madame Wang, close to Jia Mu, and Baoyu, and has a close relationship. As for the gossip behind other people's backs, she only thought it was a fart. Who can help themselves, pull themselves, tanchun has a number.
More importantly, Tanchun herself has strength, talent, good writing, poetry, and temperament like the room she arranged. Moreover, Tanchun's management ability is even better, her Qiu Shuangzhai has never produced any moths, and the Ya ring under her is also well-trained, with both rules and the most protective master.
And Yingchun is more like a housewife. She will not take the initiative to get close to anyone, and the group activities are just a number of people, and she loves to go and not go. If you can not go, it is even better. You know, whether it is to build a poetry club or other activities, sisters together, not only simple entertainment, but also to enhance feelings, but also to broaden their horizons. In short, there is no harm.
Yingchun's gentle and amiable appearance and disposition are still very popular among the sisters, and Baoyu also likes her. Especially Tanchun, who lives close to Yingchun, is very good, and it is said that those who are close to Zhu are also close to ink, and if Yingchun is close to them, in a sense, it is also to pull popularity for themselves. Sometimes, when people with ulterior motives want to bully her, they have to measure whether someone will fight for her.
For example, Xing Xiuyan, who came from behind, was also treated coldly at the beginning. Who puts this girl with no background and no strength in her eyes? Sister Feng threw Xing Xiuyan at Yingchun and let him fend for himself, even if something happened, it had nothing to do with her. Xing Xiuyan's situation was much worse than Yingchun's. If you don't take care of it, you will be affected by the evil spirit of those people in the Spring House.
But how did Xing Xianyan turn the tables against the wind? Although she could not resist all kinds of unfair treatment, she did not feel ashamed of herself and hid herself. On the contrary, she walked out generously, even if she was wearing a simple cloth dress, even the Yahuan of Jia Fu was not comparable, but her indifferent temperament and unassuming attitude made her and the ladies of Jia Fu get closer and closer, and they began to notice her, make friends with her, and even the Golden Phoenix Baoyu also looked at her with admiration. When everyone looked at her differently, the direction of the wind changed, and the treatment she received was naturally different.
So hiding, like an ostrich, is the worst-case scenario. Moreover, the difficulties of life are not something you can hide from if you hide. Maybe at some point, you will feel that your world is peaceful, but that is just an illusion, and it should come, and it will not be less. Yingchun's original family is already unfortunate, and it should take the initiative to come out and actively face the world. But she never.
No matter how she hid, in the gate of the deep house, those right and wrong and the fight would not let her go. In the eyes of everyone, she is a wooden person, which can be ignored, not to mention her feelings. Even Bao Chao said that Yingchun was an angry dead man. Yingchun is a lot of failure. Later, even the people in her room blatantly bullied her.
In the Yingchun house, it was the most chaotic, and Yahuan became the deputy miss, and she became the air bag. Those ladies did not cause trouble for her, and did not take Yingchun in their eyes at all. Yingchun's grandmother even stole The Golden Phoenix as a gambling capital. After being discovered, Yingchun's yahuan embroidered orange and the grandmother's daughter-in-law quarreled, when Yingchun did not exist. The daughter-in-law even said that other people's mothers and grandmothers had benefited from the master, but their own family was still here to fill in the mess, and so on. Embroidered orange is anxious and angry, Yingchun is like no one, just care about the rest of the people, the phoenix is not going to want it, if others ask, they will say that they have lost. Later, Yingchun couldn't, so he had to take a copy of "Taishang Feeling Happy" and look at it.
At this moment, Tanchun and the others came, and Tanchun naturally wanted to help Yingchun, not only reprimanding the daughter-in-law, but also inviting Ping'er to come. This is the real way to govern the family. Finally, Ping'er asked Yingchun what he meant, and Yingchun still had an attitude of indifference, and the words he said made people angry and funny, "Ask me, I don't have any way." They are not, they are self-inflicted, I can't please, I don't blame, that's it. As for the things that I took privately, I sent them to me to accept, and I didn't want them if they didn't send them. The wives are going to come and ask me that it is his creation to conceal the past, and that I can't hide it, and I can't say it without a reason for them to deceive the wives. You must say that I am a good character, and there is no decision; if you have a good idea, you can be thorough, do not make the wives angry, and let you deal with it, and I will not care. This remark made everyone laugh. Or Dai Yu's description of her is the most accurate, the tiger and wolf are in the ranks, still talking about cause and effect.
Yes, from the perspective of Yingchun's words, she always thinks that the wind and waves are calm, but in real life, in the big back house, how can she go along with it! There should be a bottom line for people, not blindly avoiding, when something happens, we must think about how to deal with it, and put an end to such things in the future. Moreover, the reason why the Yingchun house is so chaotic and disorderly is not the consequence of Yingchun's connivance? She will only escape, she will only hide, but she does not know, this is just to make others worse.
In Jia Province, although Yingchun has a cowardly personality and has no opinion, he has the identity of a second lady, and then there are occasional cares from the upper echelons, and there are also various rules and disciplines in the house, and there are Tanchun, Baoyu and others who lend a helping hand, so Yingchun's days are not bad enough to go anywhere. Since this was the case, she was too lazy to fight, more was better than less, but could someone protect her for a lifetime? Those who do not have to rely on should be more energetic.
Ancient women are even more different after marriage, paying attention to the conditions of the mother's family, and their own strength cannot be underestimated. For example, Tanchun, although she is out of the house, but whoever marries her in the future is tantamount to picking up the treasure, and Yingchun, to look without appearance, to have no ability, even a few people in their own house can not be cured, let alone face the more strange and complex environment of the husband's family. A child like Yingchun, who only has to marry, may be able to live better.
Partial Jia Yu was a ruthless man, and for five thousand taels of silver, he married the Tiger and Wolf Family. In this way, Yingchun married Sun Shaozu, the wolf of Zhongshan, and was tortured and abused. You can imagine how pitiful Yingchun is, there is no powerful yahuan around, and he is weak and useless, and can only be slaughtered. When she returned to her mother's home, she could only cry and cry, and Jia Fu, who was in the autumn of troubles, really could not protect her, except for accompanying her to shed a few tears, who could help her?
Yingchun is an escapist person, but one day, she has nowhere to escape. In this life, she has lived without any sense of existence, even if she dies, she is unknown. Everyone yearns for a peaceful life, but if God does not give us such an opportunity, whether to cater to, to accept everything, or to strive for it, to get out of the circle that binds us, different choices will bring us different lives. If you don't try your best and admit defeat at the beginning, such a life will only be a failure. On that day, what is the use of regretting and resenting and being sad?
Author: Ah Wu, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.