Text | Rice grain mom
One of the topics that cannot be escaped in elementary school is the election class cadres. In the first and second grades, enthusiastic children who are competitive and feel good about their abilities have long been eager to try, such as the grains of rice that year.
I think that the grain of rice was only in the first grade. One afternoon he asked me, "Mom, what is the squad leader?" ”
I replied: "It is the teacher's little assistant, to help the teacher manage the classmates, when the teacher is not there, the students encounter any difficulties, you can find the class leader to solve." ”
So The rice grain asked me a question that hit my soul: "Then why didn't the teacher choose me to be the class leader?" ”
This question is not easy to answer, it is easy to hit the child's self-confidence, after my repeated consideration, I asked:
"Why do you want to be a squad leader?"
Rice grain said: "Because the teacher chose 2 class leaders, all girls, not a single boy, so I want to be the class leader, be the male class leader." ”
When I gave him a list of the conditions for becoming a class leader, he was like opening the second vein of Ren Dou and went straight to the teacher the next day:
"Teacher, I want to be the class leader!"
After "grinding" the teacher for half a year, The rice grain finally became the deputy head of the class.
This made me see that "those who have lofty ideals can achieve things"; it also made me see that "what you want must be fought for yourself", my son did a good job; and let me see that my son's face is really thick...
How the rice grain is to win the specific content of the deputy squad leader by yourself, you can see this article "Too exciting!" My son relied on "grinding" to become the head of the work.
That being said, I still support the rice grain to run. Regardless of whether the election can be successful, it is recommended that all children should try it if they have the opportunity.
Running for cadres is the first test of life
Speaking of which, the rice grain's obsession with the cadres on duty may still inherit me. The campaigns when I was in school were also quite worth mentioning.
When I was in the fourth grade, the teacher informed me to let the class run for class president. At that time, the concept of "election" was still very new, because the class cadres we understood before were basically directly assigned by the teacher.
This teacher was particularly young, so she came up with a whole new way of "campaigning."
At that time, three of my classmates were running for office, including me. Grandpa Rice also helped me revise the campaign draft repeatedly.
He also prompted me: "If you are elected, what benefits can you bring to everyone?" "Then I made a list of several.
For example, to establish a small animal horn in the class, to run a newspaper for the school, of course, the small animal horn is obviously not feasible, so it is not realized. But I actually ran the school newspaper later, and as the first school newspaper in the whole school, it was very successful!
But these campaign skills taught me by My Grandfather are really dry goods.
At that time, there was no printer at home, and My grandfather went to the company and helped me print two copies of my speech in imitation Song style.
On campaign day, I took a copy, gave one to our homeroom teacher, and I finished my speech fluently.
As I stood on the podium and talked, I saw a girl who was running with me, sitting in the second row, still scribbling and altering before she came on the stage, and she had scratched her homework book in a hurry.
Not to mention when I was talking, because I hadn't rehearsed it in advance, and I was stumbling and stumbling, and the words didn't meet my expectations.
And my speech has been rehearsed at home many times.
But our class teacher is still very good at dealing with it, the three of us who participated in the election have become the class president and deputy class leader, and the class teacher did not make everyone feel too faceless. To a certain extent, it also protects everyone's self-esteem.
In fact, Migrain's mother felt that it was an honor to serve as a class cadre. Children actually have a dream of a class leader in their hearts.
It's just that some students dare to fight, and some students are forced to be thin-skinned, afraid of failure, feel that their academic performance is not ahead of the curve, and other reasons, and they are discouraged from this dream.
I think we should all encourage our children to participate in the election of class cadres, whether they succeed or fail, it is a kind of exercise. After all, the top students who are excellent in all aspects are a minority, and those children who can stand out in the class win with bravery and self-confidence.
A few joys and a few sorrows
There are elections, there are elections, and there are also failures.
I have to say that not all teachers will be like my fourth-grade teacher, so that all the students who run the election will be elected.
In the article "Banned for 14 Years, This Elementary School Version of "House of Cards", Let Me See The Heart Burst", I wrote a documentary called "Please Vote for Me".
That's the elementary school version of House of Cards! Sun Tzu's art of war and 36 counts were all used, and the children used a variety of methods to form gangs, personal attacks, and digging pits to frame them.
The parents of the candidates have become the "military teachers" behind the scenes, and many adults have used all the means that are difficult to overcome.
The rice grain mother looked at the back and got cold, and the children who were embarrassed in the election were also quite distressing.
If in the face of failure, the child really has no face and can't walk out, I think we, as parents, also have to pull a hand.
For example, tell them that life is not satisfactory, it is lucky to be elected, it is a minority, and it is the majority that is not elected, which is the norm.
Why do I say that we should try our campaign regardless of success or failure? Because success can certainly exercise the child's abilities; if it fails, it is the anti-frustration mentality that is exercised.
Who hasn't failed? Rice grain mother may have no heart and no lungs, often willing to participate in the election, anyway, there is no loss if she loses haha!
In high school, because of such a challenge, I ran to become the president of the largest club in the school.
Especially in the United States, I know how good Americans are at campaigning.
You know, when I was studying abroad, I participated in the American student union election, and the American students who basically competed together were a blow to me, but I knew that it was difficult to go forward, and I would still participate.
The most popular thing american children can do from an early age is to speak in public, that kind of rhythm control, humorous language, so charming, the audience below sometimes thunderous applause, sometimes laughter, even I (as a competitor) are fascinated.
Despite this, I ran for one of the biggest clubs at our school.
▲Our school club recruits new students
We Asians are quite good at technology and academia, and American children are very willing to have players like us. But once it's a competitive relationship, they're not welcome because they don't want to be led by Asians.
This is a good example of the Head of the Asian-American English Department in the article "In this American drama, the female version of "Lin Yongjian" has brought the chicken feathers of the workplace and family to life".
When the first rice grain mother campaigned, there was no doubt, it failed.
In addition to speeches, we also have a debate session (similar to the US election), to be honest, this link, the other side does not need to play any careful machine, as long as the English as fast as possible, so that I can not understand, I really have no rut.
After the failure of this election, Mirimoto specially participated in a speech club in the school, practicing every day, pointing out where to fight, where to make up for the difference, and as a result, the position of minister was really elected by me the next time.
After the failure of the first ministerial campaign, I was not idle, and ran to bid for the general manager of the business of our school newspaper (with a salary, I still earn a lot of money haha).
Therefore, the cadres who like to be on duty are estimated to be with me.
And my own experience as a student has also strengthened my idea, that is, to run for office! Regardless of success or failure, participation is already growth.
Our role as parents
After watching the documentary "Please Vote for Me", you will know that it is terrible for parents to be overly involved in their children's elections.
Those palace fight plots are all used on primary school students, and the competition of positive energy and the exercise of ability have become deceitful and black-box operations, which is really obscene.
Excessive involvement of parents in rice mothers is certainly not advocated, but I think we cannot let it go. The role of parents is to guide and support, if done well, it will really be more effective with half the effort.
Take my fourth-year campaign, for example, Grandpa Rice played a very good guiding role.
He just said a few words and nodded at me, reminding me that if I could say what I could do for the class, wouldn't it be more competitive?
He helped me print the speech, and that was enough.
In the final analysis, the cadres of the election class are really the children's own affairs, just like the future life path, which needs to be taken by the children themselves.
Another role that parents can play is to support the bottom, and the father of a good friend of the rice grain mother "entrusted" her that year.
I remember that my friend was originally a squadron leader when he was a child, but because he did not do well in the exam several times, he was taken down by the teacher with "two bars".
This incident had a great influence on her, and she wanted to drill into it every day.
Friends have belonged to the kind of girls with particularly strong self-esteem since childhood, and their minds are more delicate. This incident made her unable to lift her head every day, and she was even on the verge of depression at one point.
Later, her father felt that this was not the way to go, so he went to the school behind her back and told the teacher about the situation of the children these days.
He told the teacher that the incident really hurt the child's self-esteem and hit it too hard. I hope the school can find a way to help the children together.
The class teacher later found another opportunity for her to work hard, saying that she could resume her position and restore her position in a short time.
It wasn't until she grew up that her father told her, and she was particularly surprised and touched when she found out.
Rice mothers feel that it is really good for parents to push in the back at the right time, and we sometimes have to escort the child's mental health.
When the child is really bruised and can't walk out, parents are to support the child. Although the child's heart falls, falls, and falls again, there will eventually be a pair of large hands that will catch her underneath, so that she will not fall into the abyss.
So back, the rice grain mother is absolutely in favor of whether the children want to participate in the selection of class cadres.
Because this is the first test of children's lives, after that, whether they want to or not, they will definitely be wrapped up in life to participate in the competition, and those children who have done simulation training when they are young will always be more calm and confident.
When the children are still young, we can still help and support them on the side, and when they really fullen their wings and fly to the sky that belongs to them, they can only rely on their own strength.
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