In a study, Lynn Vernon-Figan, a professor of educational psychology at North Carolina State University, found that when speaking to children, the words used by fathers and mothers have the same parts and different parts. That is, children with fathers involved in education hear richer and more diverse languages.
This system can be used entirely to describe other aspects of the father's behavior. The presence and commitment of the father gives children the opportunity to contact the diverse styles of adults. This is an indispensable condition for cultivating children's social ability.
A Yale university study also shows that children raised by men have high IQs, they tend to do better in school, and they are more likely to succeed in society in the future.
Nowadays, many fathers understand that their high-quality companionship is too important for their children, but they still lack patience and methods. Dads ask themselves a few questions:
○ Do you love children?
○ Have you ever expressed to your child that you enjoy spending time with him?
○ How to love and accompany children so that they can gain a sense of self-worth and growth?
The first question, I believe everyone's reply is positive. But the latter two problems are difficult for most fathers, whose introverted and implicit expression of emotions has led to a lack of interaction between parents and children.
According to a survey, 50.8% of fathers believe that they are busy at work and do not have time to spend with their children in terms of companionship time. More than 40% of dads think that their daily activities with their children are too monotonous and hate their children playing with themselves. It can be seen that in addition to not being able to express, the lack of companionship skills for Chinese fathers has also become the main difficulty encountered in parent-child companionship.
The child is a blank book that opens a new page every day. What is written on each page depends on what he does, and who does it. Dads, if you want your child to have themselves in this book, and if you want every page in the book to exude a unique brilliance, you can do this:
1. Keep it in mind
Busy fathers tend to work overtime and travel a lot, which will certainly reduce the time spent with their children. But if you have children in your heart, you can bring your father's love to the ends of the earth. For example, wherever you go, take time to video chat with your child, or come back from a business trip to bring your child a small local gift and tell your child that you always remember him.
2. Express love
In life, most fathers are serious, tenacious, and calm, and their love for their children is more restrained and lacks warm expression. But love is actually not "self-evident", the father will not express it, and the child cannot understand it. Fathers, hug and kiss your child every day, look at each other, and let love flow between you. Always remember that hugging is not only needed by small babies, but also by older children who need to feel your love in various ways.
3. Exercise together
Relatively speaking, Dad's motor nerves are more developed and he is more willing to sweat. Exercise is extremely beneficial to the bones, muscles, and cardiovascular system in the process of children's growth and development. Let the father take the child out to play ball, run, or do exercises at home, stretch his arms, stretch his legs, and fully enjoy the joy of sports.
4. Explore together
Many dads have a strong desire to explore and experiment, and with the characteristics of liking to do it, they will make dads qualified experiential learning instructors. Accompanying children to constantly try and make mistakes can teach children to adapt to changes and better adapt to this rapidly changing world
5. Adventure together
After the children are three years old, they especially need their fathers to take them into nature, to explore and adventure. The child is injured by a little skin and flesh, the father usually does not make a fuss, if the child encounters danger, the father can also react in time to provide a safe and adventurous environment.
6. Read together
Reading is not a simple process of acquiring knowledge, but also includes the construction of parent-child relationships, holding the child in your arms, picking up a picture book, and speaking out with your male voice, the effect must be very different from that of the mother.
To let children develop a sound personality, the role of the father cannot be ignored. Dear fathers, don't let your father's love stagnate in your heart, and put it into action at the right time! Let the child grow up healthy and strong under the bath of father's love and mother's love.