Carnegie said that I explored this indifferent world for more than 30 years before I realized that no matter what a person does wrong, 99 times out of 100 times he will not blame himself, this is human nature!
It is true that people are accustomed to shirking responsibility and accusations, accustomed to criticizing the faults of others, but rarely willing to reflect on their own faults.
Even if it is clear that he has done something wrong, he may not admit it. Although some people say that they are wrong, in fact, in their hearts, they will find a lot of reasons for themselves, thinking that what they have done is excusable and has a reason.
Even if a heinous person, even if he has committed a heinous crime, he will say that he is for Skywalker, or that he is forced to be helpless. In short, he will try his best to explain it in order to rationalize his behavior.
Some people will not admit it even if they know that they have done it wrong. Why is that? I think there are two reasons for this.
First, once you admit that you are wrong, it means that you are bad and flawed, or that you are mean mean that you are despicable and evil. This is a very difficult fact to accept, although we all know that we are not perfect, we are still unwilling to face our own flaws, dare not face the vile and evil in our hearts.
The second point is that once you admit that you are wrong, it means that you have to bear responsibility and consequences, which comes at a cost, even a very large price. Out of the psychology of seeking advantage and avoiding harm, the subconscious first reaction must be to shirk responsibility and refuse to admit their faults, so as to avoid paying a price.
This is human nature, something hidden deep in human nature, which is insurmountable.
So, don't criticize and blame others, don't try to solve problems by criticizing and blaming others, this will not solve the problem at all.
So, if you're used to criticizing and blaming others in your daily life, then the next step is to try to change and reduce this ineffective behavior. When you try to change, you will find unexpected effects.
The above content is compiled from Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature." If you have time, I highly recommend that you read this book. This is a book full of life wisdom, which provides a profound analysis and discussion of human nature, and has enlightening significance for our daily lives, business activities, and social activities.
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