After being abducted for 14 years, Sun Zhuo still returned to his adoptive father and adoptive mother to go to school, which made many people not understand. In fact, on the way back, he had already made a decision to transfer to Shenzhen at the end of this semester to be with his biological parents.
As the saying goes: dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the sons of rats naturally love to punch holes! Sun Zhuo, who was abducted for 14 years, only studied in high school at the age of 18, which made many people puzzled.
The mother is a college student decades ago, the sister has gone abroad to study for a doctorate, and the younger brother is also a proper student bully, which shows that the cultural literacy and IQ of this family are not comparable to ordinary families, let alone the adoptive father and mother in the countryside.
Why did 18-year-old Sun Zhuocai study in his first year of high school? According to the normal reading process, at the age of 6, he began to read the first grade of primary school, the first grade of primary school 6 was 3 years old, and by the first year of high school, he should be 15 or 16 years old, and the 18-year-old Sun Zhuo was in high school, which was obviously 2 to 3 years older than his classmates.
There are usually two explanations for this age difference, one is that the school is late, the other person turns 6 years old to go to school and he turns 8 years old to go to school, and the other is that there has been a suspension or dropout at the primary and secondary school stage, and then continued to go to school.
After Sun Zhuo's father traced his roots back to his household registration, he solved this puzzle. It turned out that the adoptive father and adoptive mother had deliberately arranged, not only to leave Sun Zhuo's household registration in the northeast of his mother's family, but also to change his actual age by 2 years.
As the adoptive mother's lie that Sun Zhuo was born into a single-parent family was unable to support her, she was swept up in an infinite number of lies. Because as long as you tell one lie, you need thousands of lies to round it.
On the side of the biological parents, in order to find the lost son, they have been working hard for 14 years. Even if Sun Zhuo insisted on returning to Shandong after the recognition of his relatives, his parents did not have a strong man, but respected his wishes, and ran for nearly a thousand miles all night to send him safely to the classroom.
In order to protect their son from too much external interference, the parents have done the details to the extreme, and pleaded with the media not to expose their son. Even if they send their recovered sons back to Shandong to go to school, they still respect their children despite their reluctance.
After sending her son to school, although Sun's mother told her son to return to Shenzhen immediately, they hovered around her son for 3 days in order to understand her son's 14-year living environment, contact circles, and humanistic style.
On the one hand, there is exquisite egoistic purposeful love, on the other hand, there is unreserved and unrequited love, the nurturing grace of the adoptive father and adoptive mother for 14 years, and when it comes to the biological parents, the clear-eyed people know that they are vulnerable and will fall apart in an instant.
And in Sun Zhuo's heart, can the balance of love remain unskewed on both sides, or will the yang of the human heart tend to be inclined to the family that can nourish him?
In fact, between the parents on both sides, there are two heavyweight weights. That is, the sister who is studying for a doctorate at Nanyang Technological University, and the brother who can cute his heart, the blood is thicker than water, the family affection is irresistible, and what the sisters and brothers have today should also have a share of Sun Zhuo.
Although Sun Zhuo firmly returned to the classroom in Shandong after admitting his relatives, some netizens predicted that the reason why he temporarily returned to his adoptive father and adoptive mother was not because of how deep the grace of parenting was, after all, the truth had been revealed, and his adoptive father and adoptive mother raised him with a purpose first; but a sudden thing that smashed him into a daze and required a period of self-adjustment, if there is no accident, he will return to Shenzhen sooner or later. There are three reasons for this:
4＞14
As the saying goes: three years old to see the big, seven years old to see the old, this is a proverb handed down from ancient times, specifically describing the general law of children's psychological development. That is to say, from the psychological characteristics and personality tendencies of three-year-old children, we can see the general prototype of their psychology and personality when they grow up.
Sun Zhuo was abducted for more than 4 years, according to the famous educator Montessori: the first three years of life are better than the later stages of development, better than the sum of 3 years old until death. What he means is that from the perspective of the normal brain development of young children, the brain before the age of 3 is at a great peak of development.
Whether it is IQ or emotion, I believe that the impact of the original family on Sun Zhuo is far greater than the 14 years in the adoptive father's adoptive mother's family after being abducted. What's more, Sun Zhuo's parents, who have received higher education, live in the economically developed Shenzhen, and of course attach great importance to their children's education.
Their family education concept has long sown seeds in Sun Zhuo's small soul, and has even taken root. It was only in the 14 years of abduction that the family education concept of the adoptive father and adoptive mother was forcibly implanted and slowly buried deep in the lowest part of the heart. Nowadays, the successful recognition of relatives will be stimulated sooner or later.
Love, no need for reason
There is a kind of kinship called blood thicker than water; there is a kind of love that does not require any reason. If Sun Zhuo is still young, he may not be able to judge the importance of nurturing grace and affection for a while, but he is already an 18-year-old boy.
Although his outlook on life, values, and worldview has not yet been fixed, he has formed enough analytical power, judgment, and a certain rational thinking.
It is an illegal business over there, deliberately concealing it, and lying about its own unbearable behavior. Even if the facts are revealed and the truth is revealed, they will still make up one lie after another for their shameful behavior.
This kind of behavior of hurting others in order to achieve their own ends is unacceptable to a child who is in the midst of flesh and blood in adolescence. At this time, his worldview, black is black and white is white.
If the adoptive father and adoptive mother no longer argue for their own actions, but tell Sun Zhuo all the truth of the matter, perhaps he will take into account the kindness he has raised for 14 years and smile and take revenge. It was clear that they had missed the best time to get Sun Zhuo's forgiveness.
Sun Zhuo's decision to return to his biological parents in Shenzhen was a wise choice and the best choice. Logically speaking, it is natural to recognize his ancestors and return to the ancestors, not to mention that his biological parents have been searching for him for 14 years and finally looking forward to a reunion, which is the expectation of all; legally speaking, his household registration in Heilongjiang Province is illegal and can be cancelled at any time.
Also, if we have a dark belly, it can be understood that the economic conditions and family environment of the biological parents are obviously much superior to those of the adoptive father and adoptive mother. In today's real society, people have become realistic and utilitarian.
In a sense, Sun Zhuo's return to his original family is also a wake-up call for illegal adoption: the bamboo basket is empty, don't use your brain anymore. Finally, may the world be free and every child can grow up healthily around their parents!