Many mothers have heard the saying: "Lazy mother is diligent and fast", in the eyes of most traditional parenting mothers, such parenting methods will make mothers worry: Can children be raised well? Will the child be able to become a talent in the future? As a mother, you have the responsibility and obligation to raise your child, give your child the greatest care and the most delicate care, but if you raise your child in a way that does everything, there will inevitably be a lot of bad habits, in fact, the mother's "laziness" is sometimes a kind of luck for the child, and the child's future growth will bring surprises to parents that have no impact! Why? And listen to me for all the mothers.
First of all, let me tell you where the gap between "lazy" mothers and "diligent" mothers is.
"Lazy" Mom VS "Diligent" Mom
Let's start with "diligent" moms, which are the majority in real life. After the birth of the child, the mother gave the child all the care is very loving, the child is hungry, there will be a steady stream of food, wait until the child grows up, the mother is still the child as the center, afraid of the child bumping, all things are done well before the child, help the child to balance anything, help the child clear the obstacles on the way forward, under the meticulous care, the child and the mother's feelings are close, but they have lost the child's ability to be independent, invisibly also cultivated the child's "nest horizontal, outside" character. It is extremely detrimental to the child's future growth.
Let's talk about "lazy" mothers, this kind of mother generally likes to throw some things to the child to do, such as the parent's dishes and chopsticks do not want to wash, let the child wash, the child's room does not want to tidy up, just throw it to the child to tidy up, parents do not want to do housework, push the child to sweep and mop the floor, such a mother is not really "lazy", this "lazy" contains a kind of wisdom, which will invisibly cultivate the child's ability to cultivate the child's independence, let the child develop their own things to do, learn to share for the parents, learn to be one" Little adults "take responsibility, children will become diligent and sensible when they grow up, and they will also get along well with people and harvest friendship and love."
Sometimes, "lazy" can not be simply defined as a pejorative term, "lazy" can also be a kind of parenting wisdom, as long as the mother "lazy" way to choose the right way, will have a positive impact on the growth of children.
Mother these several "lazy" ways, you can learn
Family chores, too lazy to do
In family life, there are large and small chores and chores that cannot be done, and some mothers give their children a chance to let their children try to do some chores of the family, such as tidying up the room, sweeping the floor, washing dishes and other small things. However, children do not do things as clean and sharp as mothers, sometimes even hairy, mess up small things, some mothers even look at children who are slow to do housework will be very anxious, simply do it themselves, and gradually the mother does more and more trivial things, and the body and mind will become more and more tired. Want the child to change, the mother in some small trivial matters appropriately "lazy", while the mother to the child to have more trust, more patience, more support, more encouragement, I believe that the child will be able to do these things well. In the process of doing trivial things, children can cultivate children's independent personality, but also exercise children's hearts, and cultivate children's good behavior habits.
Children learn and are too lazy to nag
For school-age children, the most annoying type is the mother's broken thoughts, what did they learn in school today? Have you memorized today's Language Lessons? Did the assignment complete? The child has finished all the homework, the child can finally watch his favorite cartoon, but the mother is nagging at the side, previewing the new text? Are tomorrow's stationery ready? Did you pack your school bag? When the child is full of joy to prepare to watch the mood of the cartoon by the mother's nagging plan, instantly become tasteless, the mother's nagging will not only make the child feel bored, and even produce rebellious emotions, so the smart mother in the child's learning and education issues, important issues will only be repeated again, and the child has agreed to do things by the child consciously completed, unconsciously, the mother can click on the side, lazy to nag, I believe that the child under the supervision of the mother can become very excellent and self-disciplined.
Children grow up and are too lazy to be anxious
After the birth of the child, many mothers began to pave the way for the child, in order not to let their children lag behind other children, to arrange a lot of learning tutoring classes for the child, the child's academic performance declined, the mother will appear very anxious, afraid of learning performance affects the development of the child, sometimes it is the mother's excessive anxiety but not conducive to the growth of the child, for the child, the best growth state of the child is to give the child a free space, give the child more encouragement and companionship, put down the anxiety in the heart, I believe that children will strive hard for the goals they have set for themselves and become an excellent person in the future.
Sometimes the mother is appropriately "lazy", which has certain benefits for the child, and these kinds of "laziness" have been learned by everyone
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