Wen | a good pregnant sister
When I heard the news, I was shocked that Wen Wen, an old classmate who had known her for many years, was detained because she stabbed her husband in a husband and wife argument, which put her in prison. Although the man finally signed the letter of understanding on the child's face, the text after it came out was in a decadent state, not at all like the vibrant woman I knew before.
What the hell is going on? Doubtful, I chose to visit. Today's Wenwen has long moved out of the once warm and happy home, rented a city village in the old city, went to bypass multiple market vendors, no elevator, climbed to the seventh floor, I finally saw the pale, sleepy Wenwen.
The first half of a life of a full-time wife being rejected
"You're a waste, and you don't deserve to be with me for the rest of your life."
Husband's words are like a sharp knife into Wenwen's heart, with the baby for seven years, she took care of the entire rear area to compromise and stability, but received ambiguous news from her husband and female colleagues, in order to save the family, she couldn't bear to beg her husband, who wanted the other party to throw out such a sentence, the words were all looked down upon.
Wenwen used to have a job, and although his income was not high, it was enough for a person to feed himself. After getting married and having children, the mother-in-law was not in good health and could not afford to take the baby, Wen Wen chose to resign under the begging of her husband, and since then she has taught her husband to teach her son, and she has reached the age of 34 when she stays at home, and her husband's attitude has also changed, and from time to time he will stimulate her with words and suppress her.
"What kind of waste, spicy chicken, no self-esteem, ask for food, have been scolded, and have also moved their hands." Seven years with a baby is like a nightmare that can't wake up. ”
Wen Wen recalled seven years of marriage, the whole person is a little confused, from the love of husband and wife to today, nothing more than because she believed in her husband's commitment, do not know that men are heavy profits, when found that she can not bring income to the family, men will turn their faces.
How do you have both work and family? Men don't care
"You just don't recognize the value of a housewife's job!"
This is the misunderstanding of most women about men, in reality, men are acknowledging the contribution of housewives, but they have not experienced the pain and tediousness of raising children, do not know that the growth and learning of children requires a lot of time and energy, and the difficulty is more than going to work. So, they feel that it is not enough for a woman to just take the child and go to work.
"If you think about it, a woman's work income is so low, it can't be compared with my son, then it must make up for it in terms of taking a baby, what is there that can't be understood?" Why do you have to choose one or the other? Women who choose one of the two are covetous! ”
Mother Wenwen's words made me very speechless, but I can't blame her, in their time, women were called as coolies, without status and dignity. Therefore, in the marriage of her son, the old lady is also the last straw that drives Wenwen crazy, and from time to time she uses her own words to criticize Wenwen too squeamish.
In this environment, Wenwen finally became angry and resisted, but the end result was the loss of the child and the family - because it was the wrong party, the custody of the child was awarded to the husband. The mother's family favors sons over daughters, Wenwen can only rely on his meager savings to rent a village in the city, ten years of marriage, Huang Liang a dream, to this student era recognized as a good wife and mother to teach a lesson.
Finally, I can't evaluate the right and wrong of Wenwen's behavior, I only hope that the majority of men can understand women's efforts in child-rearing, it is really not easier than going to work, psychological transposition, in order to understand each other, what do you think?
Senior nursery teacher, psychological counselor, author of original parenting comic articles, welcome to pay attention to [good pregnancy], you want to know about scientific parenting, maternity care, baby health, child growth and development, you can find the answer here!