There are always some women who can become strong in life, laughing at the wind and rain and the heat; there are always some women who can use their unparalleled beauty to cross a hundred years of wind and rain.
But most women are ordinary and real, as Mr. Bingxin said:
I don't dare say pity for women, but women are really pitiful, and for forty years I have discovered a truth — men live for careers, and women live for love.
How can a man, who is busy with his career, love a woman with the same strength?
When women love and can't, when women are very pitiful, women need to use some beautiful souls to obtain a different state of mind, not to be hurt by the love that ends without illness, not to be hysterical about family trivia, and despite all kinds of tribulations, they must also be stunning and gentle.
Cai Kangyong once described his mother like this:
Get up at 12 o'clock every day to wash your hair and make your hair. The cheongsam is worn very tightly, and when the mood is good, I draw my own paper pattern to design clothes. Tulle pajama neckline, with fur, slippers worn at home, with peacock feathers... Like a spectator, Cai Kangyong watched his mother leaning against the wall smoking a cigarette and looking out onto the balcony—he used a "gorgeous" to describe it.
But Cai Kangyong's mother is not yet a leader of Shanghai celebrities.
What about the most leading celebrities?
She has been beautiful all her life and is a bellwether of Shanghai's modern world;
She can say: women who are more beautiful than me, women who are not as smart as me, women who are smarter than me, not as beautiful as me;
Her life is full of glory, she is Tang Ying, the social queen of Shanghai, and she is the beautiful soul I want to say.
Born in Shanghai in 1903, Tang Ying lived freely. His father was the first chinese student to study Western medicine, and his mother was a first graduate of Jinling University.
Her parents were deeply influenced by Western culture and attached great importance to Tang Ying's family education and cultural education.
At home, Tang Ying practiced English, dance, and opera, while studying food, clothing, shelter, and transportation.
In terms of learning, Tang Ying studied at the Chinese and Western Girls' Academy, which is the alma mater of the three sisters of the Song family, and learned the noble and dignified manners of western ladies.
Tang Ying's life, like the appearance of a rich daughter in a fairy tale, lives exquisitely and luxuriously.
As soon as Tang Ying appeared in the Shanghai social circle, it caused a sensation, and lu Xiaoman was called "Southern Tang and Northern Land", which was extremely dazzling.
Once, the British royal family visited China, and Tang Ying performed piano and Kunqu opera, which overshadowed the royal family.
In 1935, at the Calden Grand Theatre, Tang Ying, together with the director of Wen Wei Po and the president of Hujiang University, performed "Wang Baojun" in English, which caused a sensation in China.
There is a magazine called Linglong that encourages Chinese women to learn to socialize and sets Tang Ying as an example.
Lu Xiaoman came to Shanghai, and the two women who felt sorry for each other soon became friends.
In 1927, Tang Ying and Lu Xiaoman performed "Calling Paintings" and "Picking Paintings" at the Central Theater. The picture below is a photo of the two people playing, Lu Xiaoman gently shaking the folding fan, playful and cute, Tang Ying's back hand bowed, heroic and elegant, both of them are drama.
But Tang Ying and Lu Xiaoman live differently, Lu Xiaoman's treatment of love is a bit extreme, and even a little neurotic willful, destined to put himself in trouble.
And Tang Ying has the shrewdness of a Shanghai woman, always loves herself a little more, treats love calmly and elegantly, but lives a glorious life.
A woman with such a personality is destined to love without ups and downs.
The dazzling Tang Ying made men flock to him, even the richest Song Ziwen at that time.
Song Ziwen chased after Tang Ying fiercely, and more than two dozen love letters continued to tell about fiery love.
However, the two exchanged friendships, which were opposed by Tang Ying's father.
Tang Ying's father believes that the relationship with politics is not an honor, but will bring unpredictable trouble to the family, so Tang Ying cut off the love thread.
She knows that without the support of her relatives, no matter how beautiful love is, we can't all rejoice.
After breaking up with Song Ziwen, Tang Ying married Li Zufa, the son of Shanghai's rich man Li Yunshu.
Tang Ying has a lively personality and is happy to communicate. Li Zufa, on the other hand, is introverted and conservative.
The two have very different personalities and constant contradictions. When Tang Ying was very popular, the family atmosphere was gloomy and dim.
In the end, Tang Ying chose not to wronged herself, and simply ran to her own things, looking for the next spring.
Tang Ying's final destination was Rong Xianlin, the nephew of Rong Hong, the father of Chinese students. He looks average, but he is humorous and cheerful, loves to dance, loves to party, and the two can be described as complementary.
In 1948, Tang Ying went to Hong Kong with her husband, and then moved to the United States, where she continued to be her beauty on the other side of the ocean.
In the 1970s, Tang Ying, who was in his 60s, returned to China to visit his relatives, and he wore a green cheongsam, like a young girl, and his hands and feet were full of quiet and elegant charm. Can't help but sigh, it's really beautiful for a lifetime!
It is not difficult to be a beauty for a lifetime, and Tang Ying's life is telling us a simple truth: a woman who loves herself is a beauty for a lifetime.
Some people may say that there are very few women like Tang Ying, and most of them are pitiful.
But ordinary women are born pitiful?
The unattainable career, the children who will always have to be taken care of, the tasteless marriage, the elusive future, the youth that never returns, all make the woman feel like this before being photographed on the beach, and the trepidation can not lose her soul and lose the most important thing - herself.
In a woman's life, the most important relationship is the relationship with herself, and the person who should be loved most is also herself.
Therefore, women are not pitiful, as long as you are a little more confident and love yourself a little more.
I want to be a woman like the wind, where my heart is, and I am brave enough to move forward.
Women are like the wind, how agile.
I don't look at the results, I only ask about the state of mind, not because I am blindly confident and childish, but because I am independent and self-loving and very assertive.
Wherever I go, I have dear friends and sincere lovers around me.
I want to be a woman like a flower, the fragrance of flowers floating, the dark incense coming.
Women are like flowers, how beautiful.
I don't allow myself to be rough-dressed, shameless and faceless.
I want delicate makeup, beautiful clothes, and let men have the self-discipline of being a gentleman.
I want to be a woman like snow, white and elegant, pure and noble.
Women are like snow, how cold.
I don't go into love easily, but once it melts, it's tender like water.
I want a colorful life, pure but not simple, pure but not childish.
I want to be a woman like the moon, the moon is as bright as water, clear and bright.
Women are like the moon, how elegant.
I may be a little lonely in the crowd, but Yujie's style makes people dare not pay attention.
I'll get older, too, but I'll always find grace that suits my age.
Woman, may you be stunning.
About author:@Psychological Counselor Buji, Master of Developmental and Educational Psychology, National Second-level Psychological Counselor, Focus on Emotional Counseling and Adolescent Psychological Counseling.