"Kindergarten kids are so old? How can a man and a woman still have the same toilet? Will it have an impact on children? Recently, today's women's newspaper parent-child WeChat public account "Phoenix Network Hot Mom Alliance" received some parent messages, reflecting the problem that kindergarten men and women do not separate toilets. Parents are confused about why kindergarten toilets are not divided into men and women, and boys and girls have to "share the toilet". The reporter then visited a number of kindergartens in Changsha and found that only a very small number of kindergartens had divided the toilets for men and women. So kindergarten toilet, in the end, do you need it? Will not dividing the toilet affect the child's growth?
Only 1 of the 10 kindergartens has separate toilets for men and women
Toot is 4 and a half years old this year and attends a middle class in a mid-range kindergarten in Xingsha, Changsha. Recently, Toot's father left us a message saying that he had not cared before, and the last few times he went to kindergarten to pick up Toot Toot, he found that the boys and girls in the kindergarten went to the toilet collectively. Several times he saw Toot and a few little boys "booing" while curiously turning their heads to see how the little girl "booed", which made him feel a little embarrassed.
"Boys are curious about how girls go to the toilet, which shows that they are already sexually conscious, but I and other parents have found that most kindergartens are not separated from men and women, which I think will cause problems for the growth of children." Beep Dad said.
Today's Women's Daily/Fengwang reporter then visited 10 kindergartens in Changsha County, such as Little Red Riding Hood, Herez, Jin Fuwa, Golden Age, and Little Star, Apple Tree, Happy Baby in Furong District, Changsha City, and only in a kindergarten in Furong District did it find that a male and female toilet toilet was set up. Most kindergarten and nursery toilets use small toilets or squat pits, plus urinals for boys.
Today's women's newspaper / Fengwang reporter saw in a kindergarten in Xingsha that the male and female toilets are on the side of the classroom, one row is a small toilet for children, and there is a row of urinals for boys, and the top of the toilet is pasted with a girl's head, and the urinal is pasted with a boy's head, so as to distinguish the difference between male and female toilets. This is also the design of most kindergartens without toilets.
A kindergarten teacher at this kindergarten institution told reporters that the children in the nursery class are very young, and most of them do not go to the toilet by themselves, so the teacher takes several children to the toilet at the same time. If male and female students are required to separate toilets, it will increase the difficulty of teachers' work. However, she also said that after middle school, teachers will consciously let children go to the toilet separately, first women and then men, or first men and then women, and gradually cultivate children's gender awareness.
Why don't kindergartens have separate toilets for men and women
Mawangdui Kindergarten in Furong District, Changsha City, is the only kindergarten found in today's women's newspaper/Fengwang reporter's visit to set up male and female toilets. The reporter saw in the nursery classroom that the two toilets for men and women were distributed on both sides, the heads of baby boys and girls were posted on the door, several small toilets were set up in each of the two toilets, and there was a row of urinals in the baby boys' toilets.
Shen Yirou, deputy director of the kindergarten, told reporters that when the kindergarten was independently invested and built by the founder 5 years ago, it referred to the design concept of high-end kindergartens in large cities such as Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou at the beginning of the design. Therefore, all classes in the park have set up toilets for men and women.
On the question of why the vast majority of kindergartens do not separate men and women from toilets, Shen Yirou said, first of all, there was no such awareness in the past, most kindergartens, including some very high-end kindergartens, did not separate men and women when they built toilets, and some spaces were limited, and it was very troublesome to transform. In addition, there are some kindergartens that are leased venues with limited space funds and do not have the conditions to set up toilets for men and women.
The director of a kindergarten in Kaifu District also told reporters that changsha has kindergarten toilets, but there should not be many, most kindergartens are still not divided into male and female toilets, and the conditions may not be able to reach. However, she also said that in recent years, she has also received many parents' proposals to separate toilets for kindergarten boys and girls, and it should be the trend of the times for men and women to separate toilets in the future.
Kindergarten toilets, need or not
Should kindergartens be divided into toilets for men and women? Many experts, scholars and kindergarten directors have expressed different views on this issue. Yang Taoru, a child sex education researcher who has been engaged in children's sex education and Changsha virginity lecturer, believes that for children in small classes, it is also possible to distinguish between children, because it helps children to solve their curiosity about the bodies of men and women, 3 years old is the child's gender identity confirmation period, and children can help confirm their gender through mutual observation in the bathroom. However, she also suggested that when children grow up to 4 years old, parents and teachers should educate children to begin to establish physical boundaries and have the concept of protecting private parts, so if they can, children should be divided into male and female toilets when they enter middle class.
Yi Dahua, a national psychological counselor and parent-child expert, said that kindergartens should be divided into male and female toilets, because children from 3 to 5 years old have begun to have gender awareness, and if they grow up in a gender-chaotic and ambiguous environment for a long time, they may cause sexual psychological disorders, sexual distortions, sexual dysfunction, and even homosexuality and other sexual problems after adulthood. Men and women are separated from the toilet, as long as the conditions permit, she believes that it can still be implemented, which is conducive to the formation of children's gender awareness.
"3 to 6 years old is the embryonic stage of children's sexual awareness, and gender education should be carried out in time at this time." Shen Yirou said that kindergartens advocate that from the beginning of the kindergarten, children should often teach children the knowledge of gender differences between men and women, so that they can understand the different hygiene habits of boys and girls. "If this awareness is not developed, some girls will learn to go to the toilet while boys stand. Everyone wonders, why are others different from themselves?"
Do you think kindergartens should be divided between men and women on a single choice
0 people 0% should. Gender awareness should be grasped from an early age
0% of people 0% should not. Kindergarten is still small enough to vote
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Text: Today's Women's Daily/Fengwang reporter Zhang Qingqing
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