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As the saying goes, having money can make ghosts grind, which is enough to prove the importance of money. To this day, this truth is still very realistic, which is not to say that people must drill into the eyes of money, but that they should not slack off when pursuing money, otherwise other aspects of life cannot be talked about.
As a friend said to me yesterday: "Recently because of physical discomfort and temporarily put down work, I live every day like a thin ice, although I know that I can continue to make money when I am sick, but I will be afraid, worried about what to do if I can't make money later, what if I eat the old book." ”
This kind of worry is a matter of mentality, and to put it bluntly, it is a problem of money. If he no longer needs to worry about making money, he can rest assured that he can recuperate and not consider so many things that are not there. Moreover, the problem he is worried about is only the tip of the iceberg, combined with life, combined with interpersonal relationships, there will be more problems without money.
Guo Degang said that "money is the most public thing in heaven and earth", which is also about the importance of money, the so-called "see people's hearts for a long time", many times are related to money, putting aside the entanglement of interests in money, many things will be very beautiful.
Including the fate of several families in "Dream of the Red Chamber" and the fate of specific characters, they are all related to money. If Jia Fu has no money and no power, there will not be so many grievances, they pursue the benefits of money at the same time, but also because the problem of money stimulates the ugly side of human nature, a variety of complex factors added together, so that the building overturned.
This shows that money has advantages and disadvantages, amplifying the "benefits" should also be amplified "disadvantages", only in this way, can you follow the good side of the side of making money, the direction you pursue is not wrong, and the life you live will not be bad.
02
Yesterday, my girlfriend Ah Wen said to me: "After having money, I found out that money is a woman's biggest confidence, and there is no one." Once my ex-husband and mother-in-law looked down on me, but now it is good, I heard that I made a fortune after the divorce, began to starve my money, pretended to be a mistake and changed the appearance of asking me to remarry. What they don't know is that the process of making money is a process of insight into human nature, what kind of wishful thinking they play, I know very well in my heart, I have hard to live a happy life on my own, of course, it is impossible to jump into the fire pit again! ”
Ah Wen said that she made a fortune after the divorce, not suddenly rich, nor made a lot of money, but compared to before, the conditions are much better, through her own efforts, she has become a better person than her ex-husband Ah Hong.
The reason why her ex-husband Ah Hong and her mother-in-law looked down on her before was because she had no money, and the family was very realistic, treating the daughter-in-law who had no money as cold as frost, but treating rich outsiders nodded their heads.
Ah Wen said that although she recognized this problem at that time, in line with the principle of being responsible for marriage, she did not dare to divorce easily, and felt that patience should be over.
What she didn't know at the time was that if you were looked down upon because you didn't have money, you would always be looked down upon if you didn't have any money. This reality will never change, because human nature is there, people who are poor and love the rich will always feel poor and love the rich, if you don't want to be looked down upon, either return to your own life and live in isolation, or make yourself strong and rich.
Ah Wen chose to divorce because she realized that staying in her in-laws' house had no chance to turn over, and felt that the only opportunity to make herself strong was divorce.
The in-laws gladly accepted the request for divorce at that time, and almost beat the gong and drum to celebrate, because in their view, they got rid of Ah Wen, a hot potato, and then they could marry the cash cow.
From the perspective of the difference in mentality between Ah Wen and Ah Hong, Ah Wen is destined to live better than her Ah Hong, the reason is very simple: although Ah Hong always thinks of himself as a phoenix man, he always binds himself to a fixed environment of nine to five, and Ah Wen is a state of flexible switching of various lifestyles after divorce, how to make money, once she is given a fulcrum, she will inevitably make a fortune.
Of course, the process of making money is not so easy, as she said, she has suffered a lot, seen all kinds of human nature, and it is precisely because she has made money through all the tribulations that it is more precious.
Before Ah Hong asked her to remarry, she did not consider the relationship between wealth and confidence, until she heard Ah Hong say, "You have today is because of me, if I don't divorce you, you will never be rich", she began to argue on the grounds, saying that she can have today only because of her own gifts, and has nothing to do with others.
The reason why she dared to refuse and dare to fight back at this time was because she had money to do the bottom line and was no longer afraid of what bad consequences would be brought about by rejecting the unreasonable demands of others.
03
Yukiho Karasawa in Keigo Higashino's book "White Night" is a woman with a persistent pursuit of money. Although all this is related to her tragic experience when she was young, although she is getting richer and richer related to Ryoji Kirihara's secret assistance, on the whole, she is obsessed, and her means of making money are all about accumulating "confidence" for herself to live.
Although she may never forget her tragic experience, the change of mentality and life changes after having money is enough for her to forget her own experience and continue to live with "money", and she will definitely not live in a rental house with her mother as before.
Including Wang Xifeng in "Dream of the Red Chamber", her confidence is largely derived from "money", in her view, only money can keep her life worry-free. Of course, her pursuit of money is beyond reasonableness, which makes the obsession with "money" become a weakness, and if you put aside the weakness part, it is not impossible for her to finally take money to protect herself for the second half of her life.
When it comes to money, many people will be associated with "greed", but in fact, it is not the same. Just looking at the money without moving to balance their own mentality, without thinking about whether they are greedy or not, they will often be greedy. But if you know how to balance your mentality, make money with your heart but not be greedy, and don't let the "pursuit of money" become your weakness, money will become your confidence, not only to help your life, but also to change the interpersonal relationships around you.