Introduction to Emotional Counseling
Happiness is achieved by every small wish in life. You have to eat when you want to, and someone loves you when you want to be loved.
However, in love, many people feel confused, confused, suffering from gains and losses, and love and hate are intertwined.
In fact, when we are young, we want to fall in love many times, but as we grow older, we finally realize that loving someone, even if it takes a lifetime, it will not be enough, slowly understand this person, understand this person, until you fall in love, you need to have a very broad mind.
Emotional psychological counseling introduces you to the following mentalities that can make us comfortable in love and move in and out freely.
01
Believe in love, but not superstition
In front of yourself, there should always be a place, stay there alone, and then love. I don't know what, I don't know who, I don't know how to love, and I don't know how long I can love. Just wait for love once, maybe never one. However, this waiting is love itself.
- "Cold Mountain"
It is unrealistic to believe that true love exists, but expect it to transcend everything.
Love may change over time, and its demise does not necessarily mean betrayal, but most likely a natural decline. Such an understanding of love can make us not superstitious about love, and therefore less prone to injury and despair.
02
You can advance or retreat
I like and get used to keeping my distance from things that change so that I know what are the guidelines that will not be abandoned by time. For example, loving someone is full of variables, so I take a step back and watch quietly until I see sincere feelings.
- "Sleepless in Seattle"
In love, you can forget yourself when you are invested, and let reason stand up when the result appears, whether this result is the beginning of marriage or the end of love. In this way, we can grasp the initiative of love and not get lost in feelings.
The so-called "strike when it's time to shoot, let go when it's time to let go".
03
Active and open attitude
Waiting for love, you will miss a lot of opportunities, the modern rule is to seize the moment, actively pursue, and the person who despises the suitor We can despise him.
It is foolish to close ourselves, it is futile to close love, as long as we build self-confidence, openness will only make us have love, not bury love.
04
Have the ability to love
At least once in your life, you should forget yourself for someone, do not seek results, do not seek companionship, do not seek to have, and do not even ask you to love me. I just want to meet you in my most beautiful years.
- "Love Notebook"
The ability to give, understand, tolerate and self-bear.
Don't expect your lover to share everything for us, there are many things we still have to face alone; Giving is more beneficial to love than taking, and it also makes you happier; Tolerance has an unexpected effect on love, and tolerance may work when demands, accusations, and pleas do not achieve their goals.
05
There is a little bit of mental resilience
Enjoy the intimacy of love, accept the alienation of your lover, loose and tight can be mastered leisurely. Cherish it when you have it, turn quickly if you lose it, don't have to endlessly mourn the past, and believe that new love is ahead.
06
Learn a little about the psychology of love
The state of seemingly obtainable and unobtainable, the relationship is the easiest to heat up, and the use of this can strengthen the love atmosphere; Creating a small obstacle will make the lover's fighting spirit high; When a lover encounters setbacks, he needs comfort the most; Fresh tricks are always needed for love.
And so on, and so on, if used well, will form a benign mutual motivation situation.
07
There is a little economic basis
Although material and love are not necessarily proportional, a little material foundation is absolutely conducive to the healthy growth of love, and love that does not eat human fireworks is difficult to last.
"At the end of the day, love transcends success or failure. Love is the most beautiful dream in life, can you say that you have a successful dream or a failed dream? ”
This is the words of the philosopher Mr. Zhou Guoping, no matter what the situation of our love, it is wise to use this sentence to encourage and comfort ourselves.
Epilogue to emotional counseling
The lover will eventually fade his aura and become ordinary, the lover will eventually fade his armor and become soft, the lover will eventually lose his cover and become transparent, and the lover will eventually grow old and become slow.
Therefore, it is necessary to collect enough love and attachment at the beginning in order to resist time and renew it for a long time to come, as they did. Affection is precious.