At night, the neighbor came to visit my house and just saw my husband reading for the baby. The husband read and talked, and the two people laughed together from time to time. Neighbors' children also rushed over to see it, and it was more interesting for an adult to take two children to read.
Neighbors said with special envy that their family read books for their mothers, and never when their fathers read them. Originally, she also thought that her mother read well, but now when she listens to my husband reading books, she finds that my parents read books for their children is really different.
I absolutely agree, my husband has not read to the children before, this half year to cultivate, the process is not difficult, it is not simple. But by raising him to be able to read with his children, I can have a lot of free time.
Many mothers struggle with whether parent-child reading is accompanied by mother or father, in fact, parent-child reading is parent-child reading for children, and there is no need to worry about whether it must be mother or father.
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What is parent-child reading?
The main point of the online induction and summary is that parent-child reading, also known as parent-child co-reading, is to use books as a medium and reading as a link to let children and parents share a variety of forms of reading process, which plays an important role in students' extracurricular reading, and is one of the best ways to make children fall in love with reading. When parents and children read a book together, it is easy for children to feel that reading is a very happy thing, and they are more willing to read spontaneously.
The first parent-child reading is picture books, all kinds of domestic and foreign picture books, and the children's older lives can be slowly transitioned to literary works such as novellas.
Many parents are more accompanied by mothers, and the voice and tone of the mother are also very suitable for reading for their children, but there are many benefits for fathers to read to their children.
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What are the benefits of a father reading to his child?
First of all, reading to children by fathers can make children develop their language skills better.
Experts at the University of North Carolina surveyed nearly a hundred families and concluded that dads played a greater role than moms in the channels through which young children initially acquired language proficiency. Although children are most exposed to their mothers in life and communicate more with their mothers in life, children can master more vocabulary by imitating their father's language.
Secondly, reading books for children by fathers can broaden their children's knowledge.
In fact, reading to children is to let children understand the world they have never known, and to cultivate children's reading habits and aesthetic ability. Dad's knowledge is very extensive, such as physical and chemical aspects, martial arts, reasoning, science fiction and military, automobile and other aspects, when reading, dad is easy to extend to the child to talk about his familiar field, on the one hand, to make the child more understanding, on the other hand, it is also to let the child admire himself.
For example, the "Magic School Bus" series, and then the "Revealed Book" series, dads can explain the knowledge here very interestingly.
Again, the father has a strong divergent mind, and reading to the child can guide the child's imagination.
Many fathers will talk about other things when they read, and their mothers feel that their fathers are off topic, in fact, this time can guide children to imagine, it turns out that this thing can be understood in this way and can think like this. It's also a great way to keep your child focused. The child may suddenly find out, hey, how did the father talk about where to go?
Finally, reading to children by fathers can enhance parent-child relationships.
Parent-child reading is the process of parent-child communication, when the father reads to the child, the two people are communicating through language and action, and the thoughts of the two people are also communicating, which is a good communication process, especially when the child grows up, this communication is more important.
Since there are so many benefits for fathers to read to their children, how to guide fathers to read to their children?
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Guide dads to participate in parent-child reading
The neighbor said that sometimes she wanted her husband to read a book to her children, and when she saw it, she pushed her to read it herself.
In fact, it is very important for dads to participate in parent-child reading, and it is important to choose the right book.
First, we must correctly choose the books that Dad is suitable for reading.
When I first let my husband read to my children, I chose "Unique You", a very good and classic picture book, but he looked at the cover and refused, the reason is that there is no such fish, if the child asks what kind of fish is this, how to answer, can not always give a name one by one, right?
After a while, he asked his husband to read to the child, this time the book was "Little Mouse Alexander", he took it to the child to read, read to the end did not understand, what is the book written, what is the relationship between the mouse and the cat in the end? How does the child understand this?
Later, I gradually explored and found a book suitable for my father to talk about.
On the one hand, there are dad-like books, books related to dads.
For example, "My Dad", "Dad and Me", "Kiss to Dad", "Dad Take Me to See the Universe", "The Best Dad in the World", etc., this kind of book is related to Dad, and Dad also likes to read to his children, so that children can see the place where Dad is particularly excellent and attractive, and deepen the feelings between father and son.
Another aspect is the slightly more complex book.
For example, "The Magic School Bus", such as "Robinson Crusoe" and some novels.
My husband started from "Magic School Bus", read "Revealed", read "The Great Monster in the Forbidden City", some books Mothers may be worried that children will be afraid, in fact, when dad reads it is also when he gives his children strength, dad's strength, strength, bravery and self-confidence will also be passed on to the children.
Second, give Dad a chance.
How do you give Dad the chance to get Him to read?
At that time, I was very tired every day, there were many classes, my throat could not stand it, and I could not tell my children at night, so I let my husband read to my children, and then I began the life of my father reading with my baby.
A colleague had a second child and was unwell, so every night the parent-child reading task was given to his father.
The simplest way is to divide the daily work with the husband, such as who washes the dishes after dinner, who cleans up, who accompanies the baby to read. Let the husband also participate in the parent-child reading.
It should be noted that if the father reads to the baby, then the mother will no longer participate, nor does it mean that reading to the child is the mother's business alone. Parent-child reading is a family affair. Many parents have realized the benefits of parent-child reading, so they can continue to stick to it and let their fathers join in.
Do your dads read to their children? What kind of books did you read?