The starting point of education is the mother

There are two of my most heartless cries in this life and in this life

Once at the beginning of my life

Once at the end of your life

The first time I won't remember/listen to you

The second time you won't know/I say it's useless

But in the middle of the two cries!

There was endless laughter/over and over again

Reverberated for a full thirty years / You know I remember

——Yu Guangzhong,"Mother's Day"

Mothers are not only the starting point of a child's life, but also their earliest, most important, and most influential educator. Meng's mother chose to live next door, her mother-in-law had a tattoo on her back, and her mother's education began in infancy and continued to adulthood. Many of the children's habits, qualities, and spirits come from childhood, from the subtle influence and education of their mothers!

Mother is the starting point of all education.

Today, Xiaobian has selected some famous writers to write about their mothers, which not only have meticulous love and care for their children, but also have simple but great educational wisdom.

Treat people in the world

Lao She

"My Mother":

I take a peaceful attitude towards all people and things, and take it for granted that I suffer losses. However, in terms of being a person, I have a certain purpose and basic law, and I can do everything, and I can't exceed the boundaries I have drawn. I was afraid to see people, to do chores, to show my face, but when I had to go, I had to go, just like my mother. From private school to elementary school to middle school, I have experienced at least twenty teachers, some of whom have a great influence on me and some who have no influence, but my real teacher, who passed on my character to me, is my mother. My mother was illiterate, and what she gave me was the education of life.

Hu shi

"My Mother":

I lived under my mother's teachings for nine years and was greatly and deeply influenced by her. I left her at the age of fourteen (actually only twelve hundred two or three months old), and I was alone in this vast sea of people for more than twenty years, and no one ever disciplined me. If I can learn the slightest bit of good temper, if I can learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive people and be considerate of people - I have to thank my loving mother.

Love and the concept of education

Zou Taofen

"My Mother":

At the end of the year, my father would "liquidate" my weekday homework, and personally listen to my endorsement at night, very strictly, with a two-finger-wide bamboo board on the table. My back was facing him, and when I couldn't recite it, he asked me to turn around and put my palm on the table, and he picked up the bamboo board and hit it very hard. I ate this pain, the pain was an unavoidable feeling of the flesh and blood body, of course, I cried silently, but I had to hold back the crying and turn back again. Unfortunately, there was another interruption, and I couldn't memorize it, so I mentioned it again and typed it again. Whimpering and carrying the "Mencius" of the previous life wrongdoer", "See King Hui of Liang"!

I myself whimpered, and at the same time I could hear my mother sitting next to me sewing, also crying tears.

I knew in my heart that she saw me being beaten, and she felt as if she was in a piercing pain, and she showed twelve points of sympathy to me, but she kept saying "well played" from the intermittent voice of whimpering! She sobbed and swallowed in order to love her son; she reluctantly said "well played" in order to hope that her son would be motivated. From now on, such an educational method is really barbaric! But I did not dare to blame my mother, for at that time there was only such a barbaric method of education; and now I think of my mother seeing me beaten and crying with me, and that kind of maternal love still makes me miss my loving mother. After memorizing half of the "Liang Huiwang", the palm of his right hand was swollen and half an inch high, and he stole a light into the light, bright, like a silkworm body with a full belly filled with mature silk. My mother carried me to bed with tears in her eyes, gently covered the quilt, and kissed me on the forehead.

Character and cultivation

Ice heart

"Remembering Mother":

I deeply felt that I loved her, not only because she was my mother, but because she was the most remarkable personality I had ever encountered in my life.

She was sick all her life, and physical illnesses did not affect the health of her mind. She has been quiet all her life, and she is often the initiator of all the laughter and hilarity around her. She never went to a private school or school, and she could appreciate old literature and accept new ideas, she had no extra property in her life, and she could be anxious to help the poor. She was a pampered and nurturing only daughter at home, and after marriage, in a large family of thirty or forty people, she could respect and pity and win the respect of everyone. In the home decoration, she likes to be neat and exquisite, and the exquisite does not show arrogance. In terms of family clothing, she likes to be plain and simple, and the simplicity does not show shabbiness. She never spoke harshly to her children and servants, and the family revered her words with great respect. Her whole life is among us, really as her father said, "the breeze is seated, the moon is the head", what a cultivated, tolerant and great personality!

Habits and wills

Jude

Remembering My Mother:

I owe a debt of gratitude to my mother, who taught me the experience of fighting difficulties. I have already experienced hardships in my family, and this has never again made me feel difficult in my military and revolutionary life for more than thirty years, and I have not been intimidated by difficulties. My mother gave me a strong body, a habit of hard work, that made me never feel tired.

I owe a debt of gratitude to my mother, who taught me the knowledge of production and the will of the revolution, and encouraged me to embark on the path of revolution in the future. On this road, I have come to know more and more day by day: only this knowledge, this will, is the most precious property in the world.

My mother is now gone from me, and I will never see her again, and this grief cannot be remedied. Mother was an ordinary person, she was only one of the millions of working people in China, but it was these millions of people who created and created China's history.

Literary enlightenment

Liang Xiaosheng

Mother:

My mother knew many of the characters and stories in the books from my grandfather, and had heard some old plays and was happy to tell us the characters and stories in the books or plays. When my mother was young, she had a strong memory, and as long as she had heard it once, she could remember it in detail. My mother is good at telling stories, and she has a strong personal emotional color. Since I was five or six years old, I have heard stories from my mother about "Bao Gong Biography", "Ji Gong Biography", "Yang Jia General", "Yue Jia General", and "Thirteen Sisters of the Heroic Girl". Mother is a very kind woman. Kind women mostly like tragedy. Mothers are especially willing and especially good at telling tragic stories: "Qin Xianglian", "Fengbo Pavilion", "Zhao Orphan", "Du Shiniang's Angry Sinking Treasure Chest"... My mother wept as she spoke, and we wept as we listened.

I believe that the direct or indirect influence of literature on the mental formation of a writer in childhood plays an "innate" and subconscious constraint on a writer's creative style at a certain period or stage.

Hope and meaning

Stetson

Acacia Tree:

At twenty years old, my legs were crippled. In addition to painting Easter eggs, I thought I should do something else, changed my mind a few times, and finally wanted to learn to write. My mother was not young at that time, and for the sake of my legs, she began to have gray hair on her head. The hospital has made it clear that there is no cure for my illness at this time. My mother's full mind was still on treating me, looking for doctors everywhere, inquiring about folk remedies, and spending a lot of money. She always found strange medicines for me to eat, for me to drink, or to wash, compress, smoke, or moxibustion. "Don't waste your time! It didn't work at all!" I say. I was preoccupied with writing novels, as if that thing could save a crippled man from his predicament. "Try again, how do you know it's going to be useless without trying?" Every time, she said, she held out hope reverently. However, for my legs, as many times as I hope, I am disappointed. The last time, my crotch was burned. The doctor at the hospital said that this was too much of a suspense, and for paralyzed patients, it was almost fatal. I wasn't too scared, I thought it was better to die, and it was painful to die. My mother panicked for several months, guarding me day and night, and as soon as she changed her medicine, she said, "How can it be hot?" I'm still paying attention!" Fortunately, the wound was getting better, otherwise she would have gone crazy.

Later she found out I was writing a novel. She said to me, "Then write well." "I heard that she was finally desperate to heal my leg." "When I was younger, I also liked literature the most," she said, "and when I was about the same age as you are now, I also thought about writing," she said. She reminded me. We both tried our best to forget my legs. She went everywhere to borrow books from me, pushed me to the movies against the rain or snow, and held out hopes as she used to find me a doctor and inquire about folk remedies.

In recent years, the unique and great role of family education, especially mothers, in education has received more and more attention.

Education is a complex project, and no country in the world has an education system that is perfect enough to solve the individual problems of each student. Every child is a unique world, and their growth depends on the "educational environment" that the parents and teachers who come into contact with them create for them and directly surround them. The ecological status of this small environment is the decisive factor that really affects the growth of children.

As the earliest and longest key figure in contact with children, parents are the main creators of the "education environment" - how parents guide their children in every little thing in their daily lives, how to deal with the relationship with children, almost every detail contains some kind of educational opportunity.

If a person does not have a good family education, school education is mostly difficult to achieve normally in them - in this sense, "mother" is more important than the teacher.

Times have changed, and the nature of love and education has not changed. Mother's love, companionship, protection, character, cultivation, receiving people and things, and dealing with people in the world all interpret the most original face of education.

May this set of articles bring us more enlightenment.

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Source | Comprehensive collation

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