The other day, I was chatting with a friend and found her child eating her fingers with relish, looking intoxicated.
My friend is very worried, what if the disease comes through the mouth? What if I get into the problem of eating my hands all the time?
Looking at the baby who loves to eat hands, Mom and Dad will be very anxious and worried! After all, we all want our children, healthy and healthy, to be hygienic from elementary school.
When Bo Mom gave birth to her first baby, like most parents, she was very anxious in the face of her son eating her fingers, and she also went to the doctor.
Later, after looking up information and listening to the doctor's professional answers, Bo's mother was no longer anxious about the "baby eating fingers".
After giving birth to the second treasure, when he ate his hands, he was no longer entangled.
Now share it with you:
The appetite period of infants and young children has arrived
Psychologically speaking, eating hands is a very healthy thing for babies. It is a manifestation of the baby becoming smarter.
The famous psychologist Freud proposed a famous theory of "oral period". It is also one of the sensitive periods of children.
The oral phase occurs around 0 to 1 year of age after the baby is born.
When the baby is in the mother's womb, he begins to eat. The baby eats his hands, and it is he who explores and understands this beautiful and warm world with his mouth.
The baby's sucking of fingers is also a sign of the child's intellectual development, which is a dual need of psychology and physiology.
Sucking fingers is a kind of learning and play, children like to perceive things in the outside world through the mouth, and the hand is the only organ of the child's body that can control this age, indicating that the child is growing up healthily.
British psychoanalyst Winnicott believes that before the baby is 3 months old, it will bite, which is an important psychological process that helps to form the cognition of me and non-self.
At this time, what parents have to do is not to interfere with the child's eating hands and keep the baby's small hands clean.
As long as the baby does not break his fingers, under the premise of cleanliness and safety, parents can safely let the child eat his hands happily and let him explore his own sea of stars.
Fully satisfy the child's appetite period, do not interfere, do not force, do not block!
Satisfy your child's sense of security
Before the age of 3, children need to build a sense of security, but children's sense of security is not innate.
When the child is relishing the hand, the mother can feel that the baby is very satisfied.
In fact, the baby is self-soothing, providing a sense of security for himself by eating his fingers.
In the face of children eating fingers, there are usually 2 results:
Parent A: Children are not allowed to eat fingers
Some parents, influenced by traditional concepts, especially the elderly at home, think that children eat hands is a "bad problem", as the saying goes, the disease comes from the mouth, the child is young, the resistance is not good, it is easy to eat bacteria, thus affecting health, so when the child eats the hand, it will be resolutely prevented.
The matter of eating fingers is interfered with by parents for a long time, the need for security is not met, and when the child grows up, he will become learned helpless, and even become inferior and cowardly.
Furthermore, if parents stop their babies from eating in the first place, it can backfire. There is a pop singer in Europe and the United States, because he often eats his fingers, he was photographed by reporters, which caused discussion among netizens.
Parent B: Allow the child to eat finger to get it
There are also some parents who know that their children will eat their hands in their mother's belly, which is an instinctive reaction and an inevitable process of their children's growth. Not only can children enjoy the pleasure of eating hands, but also make children's sense of security greatly satisfied.
Children who are allowed to eat fingers from an early age tend to have better psychological development, especially those who are satisfied during the oral period, and after weaning and going to school, children are more confident and more adaptable.
After the age of 3, to a certain extent, intervention is recommended
Why do many children get so old that they eat their fingers so often?
In large part, because the child eats his hands before the age of 3, the parents choose to stop it.
This leads to a more prolonged "period of appetite".
When children grow up, they still like to eat their fingers, which will not only affect the development of teeth and bones, but even affect the development of children's language.
Some children's upper and lower teeth cannot bite together, forming a commonly known as "earth bag heaven". Not only will it affect the upper and lower jaws, but it will also lower the value of the face.
Studies have found that these babies may not be able to pronounce clear tongue-tip sounds, such as C.
How do parents intervene in their children eating their fingers?
Some parents will roar loudly as soon as they see their children eating their fingers and not listening to two sentences, and even hit their children's hands to achieve the effect of quickly stopping.
Children are not only sad, but adults are also very heartbroken.
Forced abstinence is not feasible.
Learn to lead positively
When the child eats the finger, the parent may tell the child a lot of truth, for example, there are bacteria on the hand, the baby may get sick when he eats it, or the baby may eat the finger, and may shed red blood.
Some children are smarter, and when their parents are there, they pretend to be obedient and will not eat their fingers. When the parents are not there, they secretly nibble their fingers.
Parents can prepare some fun toys or food in advance, and when the child is eating his fingers, try to say to the child, "Baby, come and let's play together!" "Baby, let's eat something delicious together."
By diverting the child's attention and making the child forget about "eating fingers", the desired effect is achieved.
We must find a way to make the child's hand 'busy", take the child to play with water, play with blocks, play with sand, etc. when we have time, and do some finger games with the child. The child has no free hands.
Get your baby's hands "busy"
If the child encounters something, is reprimanded by adults, and is in a very nervous mood, it will be easy to eat.
Once the children of the next door family went out to play, the mother saw the acquaintance, she asked the child to say hello, the child was not very happy, the mother began to criticize, "Why are you so rude, see the aunt to take the initiative to say hello." ”
The child began to feel a little overwhelmed, so he put his hand in his mouth to relieve his anxiety.
Mom would shout loudly again: "You don't lose people, you are so old that you still eat your hands, don't you let your aunt laugh at you?" Lost S people. ”
At this time, in addition to anxiety, the child will become irritable, and even "fight" with his mother!
Therefore, the incorrect guidance of adults is likely to aggravate the child's behavior of eating hands and prolong the child's eating time.
For the baby to eat fingers, before the child is 3 years old, parents do not have to worry too much, let the child wash their hands frequently, eat as much as they want.
Eating fingers is a very easy thing for adults, but it is not a simple thing for babies.
Babies who love to eat fingers from an early age can not only exercise the child's hand, eye and brain coordination ability, but also help the development of children's refined movements.
High-quality companionship of parents
Children grow up to eat hands frequently, many times, because of pressure in their hearts. No sense of security was built.
In addition to preventing children from eating hands, parents can also tell their children that if they want to eat their hands, they should eat for a while, and do not use forced methods.
First learn to accept the child's emotions, and the child's anxiety will be alleviated.
In addition, parents should often take their children out to outdoor activities, take their children to do some big sports, and let the children fully release their psychological pressure.
Try to have more high-quality companionship for your child, and your child's sense of uneasiness will naturally weaken.
What is low-quality companionship?
When people are absent-minded, fake accompaniment, and playing with children, they are brushing their mobile phones there.
Unconditional acceptance, sensitive feedback, children's reasonable needs should be met in time, interact with children more, and do games that children like.
More hugs, kissing children, etc., physical contact is the most direct way to express love, as long as the child feels the love of his parents, the mood will gradually improve, and the probability of eating hands will be reduced.
The cold model of family parenting is the most detrimental to children's sense of security.
Some people say,
Baby comes out of the womb,
I had four or two sugars on my hands,
After eating these four or two sugars,
Just "let it go"!
Today's Topic:
Will you stop your child from eating his fingers?