Do your children want to cultivate the spirit of hard work and struggle, or do they want to cultivate a loose and gentle character?
Is it to let him know that chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea is not easy to come by, or to let him sprinkle his talents in the qinqi calligraphy, painting, poetry and hops? No matter which parenting model you choose, or which parenting style you can give your child, you must not be stingy about reading.
The People's Daily once published an article reminding parents to encourage their children to read a lot according to their interests. In fact, for primary and secondary schools, especially primary school students, "reading a lot" is not a matter of icing on the cake in school, but a real learning need!
Zhu Yongxin, vice president of the China Education Association, put forward the idea of "reading hunger period".
He believes that children's hunger for reading is formed before the age of 14, and whether parents often tell stories to children before the age of 5 affects the formation of children's future reading skills. At the same time, people's reading experience before the age of 14 is also crucial to the child's growth. The course of life is nothing more than the unfolding of what was read in the previous 14 years.
6-12 years old is a "reading hunger period" for children, and the most important thing is not grades but reading!
Then, in this 6-12-year-old primary school stage, whether the child can develop a better reading habit is the top priority.
Of course, the ability of 6-12-year-old children to choose books on their own is not mature enough, so what is more important is how parents choose books for their children that meet their reading interests and are beneficial to their physical and mental growth.
What kind of physiological characteristics and reading status do children at this stage reflect?
I don't know if you, as a parent, have you paid attention to whether you have observed it, when your child enters this stage, it is different from before.
Physiological characteristics: children in this period, personality, hobbies have been more prominent, have a strong desire for independence, will deliberately contradict the parents, or show heroic complex, but also very eager to integrate into a group, there is a certain herd psychology, the content of the book gradually from the love of pictures, language, to the role, events of the attention, will be full of rebellious spirit or humorous temperament of the characters to worship and imitate the psychology.
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Reading can be a little willful, and parents should encourage their children to read a lot according to their interests.
There are more books and fewer books
Now parents generally attach importance to cultivating children's reading habits, many children have their own small bookshelves, but if you ask a child whether the books on the shelves have been read, then the answer will disappoint parents nine times out of ten, from the beginning to the end of the book carefully read only a few, can read repeatedly even fewer.
In other words, the amount of children's reading and the amount of books they have are disproportionate, which means that parents have a serious misalignment when choosing books for their children.
Give the child the right to choose books
Books that parents think are good, children are not interested; books that children like, parents think are not worth reading. My view on this question is that the choice is left to the child, and the child likes to read what he likes to read.
In this regard, many friends are difficult to accept, they said: "What do children know? How can they be allowed to choose for themselves? What if I read a bad book? ”
In fact, the most powerful voice in the question of "what books to read" is the child himself.
No matter how good the books parents choose for their children, if the children don't like it, they can't read it, or it's useless. What's more, the so-called parents who choose books for their children have now become "followers" who buy books based on sales rankings and website reviews, which may not really be suitable for children.
Developing a focused reading habit is paramount
For the growth of children, the important thing is not what to read, but to develop a good habit of accompanying books, and this habit can only be cultivated through the cyclical process of reading one book from beginning to end.
Reading requires patience, and if the story in the book cannot grasp the child's heart, with the child's concentration, the book will soon be thrown aside and no longer read. So, our goal is to develop concentration and patience through reading, qualities that are worth much more than what a book conveys.
In fact, one of the most important qualities that determine a child's future life and career achievements is focus and patience.
Understanding this truth, parents no longer have to worry about what books their children read, but should focus on cultivating their children's concentration and patience. Only the books that the child is interested in can be read carefully and patiently. The sense of accomplishment brought about by reading a book in its entirety will also make children more confident and will not feel afraid because the book is too thick.
"Quantity" is more important than "quality"
For improving reading ability, sometimes "quantity" is more important than "quality", only when the quantity goes up, the reading ability will have a qualitative improvement. The so-called reading ability is essentially memory and comprehension.
Just as muscle growth must be promoted by repeatedly lifting heavy objects during fitness, only a lot of reading can stimulate the brain to master reading skills and process the input and output of information more efficiently.
Therefore, it is extremely important to read a lot during adolescence, so that memory and comprehension will lay a solid foundation. Therefore, parents should encourage their children to read a lot according to their own interests, without worrying too much about what to read.
The younger the child, the higher the requirements for the interest of reading materials, at this time, if parents blindly emphasize the need to read good books and read famous books, it is easy to make children think that reading is so boring, it is difficult to really establish reading habits. On the contrary, take the child to the bookstore or library, let the child choose at will, as long as the number of visits is enough, the child will eventually find out where his interests lie, and the momentum of reading will be greatly enhanced.
The Jews had a tradition of coating their children's first books with honey and making them think from an early age that reading was a sweet thing, and that was the purpose.
Reading, or a little willful.
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The focus of primary school is not on grades, but on reading.
Parents often ask me: My child's primary school results are very good, often test 100 points, why to junior high school, especially the second and third grades, suddenly left behind?
In fact, primary school grades are "deceptive", and the poor grades in junior high school are likely to be because when children are in primary school, parents ignore the cultivation of a kind of ability.
Cultivating reading skills requires two conditions
The primary and secondary school stage, especially the primary school stage, is a critical period for the formation of children's good habits, and it is also a golden period for the development of children's various abilities.
The most important of these is the development of learning ability, which seems to be complex learning ability, but it can be learned through the development of a ability, which is "reading ability".
In general, the ability to read requires two conditions to develop:
The first is continuity and coherence, that is, the cultivation of reading habits: we must have a fixed reading time every day, and we can not like to read, and if you don't like it, you will not read, so that there will be no good habit formation;
The second is the accumulation of reading, in general, the annual reading volume of children in the first and second grades can not be less than 1 million words (normal is between 1 million and 2 million words), the second and third grades can not be less than 2 million words per year (normal is between 200-3 million words), the fourth and fifth and sixth grades can not be less than 3 million words per year (normal is between 3 million and 5 million words, some children with large reading can reach more than 10 million words per year).
See how important reading is!
You know, no matter the boys and girls, no matter how poor or rich, please be willing to invest in the children's bookshelf.
The reading account owed by the primary school will be exposed sooner or later
A child's intelligence, like a seed, requires conditions to germinate and grow. This condition is the way to play with a lot of reading and using your brain.
If a child never reads a good book, or even a book of more than 100,000 words, but devotes a lot of time to school textbooks and a lot of homework, then the child's natural intelligence is starved to death.
Children in primary school, especially children, should not devote their main energy to textbooks and homework. Because the content of textbooks is relatively single, only by reading a large number of books, reading a large number of ancient and modern Chinese and foreign famous classics, and extensively dabbling in encyclopedic common sense books, wisdom can continue to grow and eventually form a strong development ability.
In fact, the grades at the primary school level are very deceptive and false, because children devote all their time to textbooks and homework, and naturally do not have time to read a lot, which is like losing a watermelon and picking sesame seeds. Even if such an investment is a high score or even a full score, it is a huge loss for the child's future.
Many parents attach great importance to their children's grades in their children's primary school stage, and they are reluctant to let their children spend more time reading and playing, thinking that it is a waste of time.
However, when children are as malnourished as seedlings and lack the strength to grow, and when they are weak in the middle school stage, parents will only complain about how their children are, but they do not know that it is they who have single-handedly caused the child's "short-lived high score" and "wisdom malnutrition".
Therefore, at the primary school stage, we must let children be calm and do not pursue the level of scores. For the sake of the long-term development of the child and the greater growth force in the future, please do not care too much about the child's achievements in the primary school stage, but should focus on the child's basic development and ability training, help the child develop good reading habits, in order to really do more with less and benefit the child for life.
Therefore, the child's "reading hunger period" must be well utilized to cultivate reading habits that benefit a lifetime.