When the baby grows to about three years old, basically have to enter the kindergarten to learn, parents will also carefully choose the school before the child goes to school, after all, the child is exposed to the environment for the first time, and the kindergarten is also like a small society, if the environment is not good, the teacher's qualifications are very poor, then it is easy to affect the child's physical and mental health growth.
And children have to stay in kindergarten for a day, calculated to be longer than staying at home, so kindergarten life is very critical for children, which will affect the development of personality, communication, self-awareness and other aspects.
I once heard my colleague say that he was particularly attentive when his children were in kindergarten, and he heard a friend say that he must choose classes with a balanced ratio of men and women.
Colleagues asked the reason carefully to know that if the proportion of children in the class is unbalanced, it may affect their dating, especially girls, if there are many boys in the class, it is difficult for them to make friends, and they will often be bullied.
So the colleague inquired carefully before the child went to kindergarten, and finally he chose a kindergarten not far from home.
But I didn't expect that after the class, I found that the boys in the class reached 24, but there were only 4 girls, a total of 28 children in this class, and the serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women worried colleagues, so he resolutely dropped out of school for the child and chose another kindergarten again.
In fact, there are many more situations like colleagues, there is a mother on the Internet who reflects that her daughter goes to kindergarten, there are 20 boys, only 5 girls, she is hesitating whether to change the kindergarten for the child, because she watched the video sent by the teacher to the class group, the baby is alone in the corner every time.
Although children are also very sensible, do not cry or make trouble, but this kind of friends is likely to affect their communication, and the child's inner loneliness will also affect their physical and mental development. Of course, there is also a mother surnamed Zhang on the Internet who said that her baby especially does not like to go to kindergarten, because children do not like to play with boys.
But there are 18 boys in the class, only 6 girls, the little guy can't make friends, always feel that kindergarten is not interesting, so the child's separation anxiety is getting more and more serious, she even has no way. It can be seen from this that the imbalance between men and women in modern society, on the issue of children going to kindergarten, those families who have daughters really can't sit still.
Moreover, many kindergartens are basically co-ed toilets, boys and girls go to the toilet together, parents are also worried about whether it will affect the child's gender awareness, after all, three-year-old babies will have a strong curiosity, and this age stage is precisely the key period for the formation of children's gender awareness.
In addition, in kindergartens, children will take a nap, the beds are not separated, and boys and girls are sleeping, but parents feel that there is a difference between men and women, if there is a vague state in their gender awareness, how can it be conducive to their physical and mental growth?
In this regard, scientists have also studied that the gender awareness of three-year-old babies is getting stronger and stronger, and parents should better guide and educate them, so that children can better protect themselves and let them have a good gender awareness concept.
What should I pay attention to when choosing a kindergarten for my child?
First, let's see if we go to the toilet with men and women.
When children choose kindergartens, in addition to some hardware facilities to pay attention to, the qualifications of teachers are also very critical, after all, children have to stay with teachers for a day, if the teaching methods are not good, they cannot meet the basic requirements, and it is easy to affect all aspects of children.
But also to see if the toilet is shared, as we talked about earlier, it is best to let the child go to some kindergartens with different toilets for men and women, so that they can have a better gender awareness.
Second, see if the ratio of men to women is balanced
The ratio of men to women in the class is uneven, it is really easy to affect the child's interaction, there is no good friend in the kindergarten, how can the child learn and play with peace of mind? This is very critical and parents should pay attention to it.