Today's interpretation for you is to give children the best chance to grow, the characteristics of preschool children in learning, and how adults should deal with the problems that arise in children's development. Every child is a small artist in early childhood, but without the right educational methods and tools, such characteristics are difficult to maintain into adulthood, and in our actual way of education, we often ignore the child's original strong learning ability. Not only does it forcibly fragment their time, but it also places high demands on their emotional management, logical thinking, and so on.
This leads to the child's original strengths can not be fully utilized, and often expose the shortcomings. As a result, there is a sense of boredom. In fact, in the education of preschool children, the most important thing we should do is to give children full freedom. Guide them with an equal attitude, and don't forget to maintain a good parent-child relationship with your children. For children, love and growth are two complementary concepts, and loving each other with children is much more important and effective than simply asking children.
Below I will explain the contents of the book in detail for you, you will hear the characteristics of preschool children in learning, second, our misunderstandings in the education of preschool children, and how three adults should accompany and educate preschoolers. Well, let's see now, the first focus is on the characteristics of preschoolers in terms of learning. When people think of preschoolers, words like small, cute or naughty are generally thought of.
We tacitly accept that although they are cute but do not understand anything, whether it is life or learning, they need adults to teach little by little, especially in learning, many people think that the brain of preschoolers is not yet fully developed. Understanding is relatively weak, requiring adults to choose a quieter environment. For example, in the classroom, and then the knowledge is broken open and kneaded, and little by little, it is poured into it, but in fact, this concept is not right.
Children's comprehension is relatively weak compared to adults, but that doesn't mean they won't learn. In fact, they have much more powerful learning abilities than adults can imagine, and their learning does not require sitting properly in a classroom. On the contrary, any environment they are in can be a classroom, and as long as we help them find the best learning area, they will show the ability to learn to make adults lean, in this book that gives children the best growth.
In the book, Erica once recorded a transcript of Teacher Winnie's class, the teacher asked a question, do fish have bones, children talk about it, when someone said no, immediately someone gave an example of opposition. Others followed up with questions, asking the female teachers what they didn't say, but let the children go through their own discussions.
Look up relevant books and conclude that it's not that hard. Children get enough knowledge like chatting, which is obviously much better than sitting in class and reading the book, but then there is a problem, since the child's learning ability is so strong, then why do some children do not do anything well in kindergarten, always take it slowly. On the one hand, this may not be the best learning area for children, on the other hand, children's cognitive abilities are stronger than we think.
But a child's ability to manage emotions and switch between different environments is much lower than we usually require. Usually adults arrange classes for children more closely, and children need to sort out their things in a few minutes. Moving quickly to the next step, but it's clear that whether it's Abby observing birds or Trevor's study of dinosaurs. Even children searching the park for flowers of different colors need an environment that is as free as possible. And plenty of time, which is never possible to be completed in a matter of minutes, when the child is not ready, forced to face a new content, and this content is often not presented in the way they like.
For example, if they sit in class instead of in the park to recognize various colors, they have poor emotional management skills. It will appear at this time, that is, the temper tantrum we see is good. That's the first focus of the book.
Children's comprehension and emotional management skills are relatively poor, and it is difficult to quickly switch from one environment to another, which is why some children are particularly resistant to kindergarten. Doing things is particularly grinding because he is not ready, let's look at the second point.
In the previous topic, we mentioned some of the characteristics of preschool children in learning, and the main misunderstanding in our education now is that we have not paid attention to these characteristics. The first is the neglect of children's cognitive abilities, which leads us to use a kind of fanatical standardized learning, fragmenting the child's childhood, and we always believe that children have strong learning ability. Do not believe that they can acquire a lot of knowledge and develop their own observation skills in the game, driven by curiosity.
So we shut them in the classroom, breaking down the content that can be understood as a whole in life into small and small links, forcing them to understand and remember. For example, children can obviously master the use of question sentences through normal interactions, and they can easily say, Mom, when are you going to work today, or tomorrow we will go to the park to play? Such sentences, but we force them to answer questions like when to use question marks in class.
They also let them read all the punctuation when reading the sentence, but at the same time ignored the meaning of the sentence itself, and when they could easily figure out how many pieces of candy you should divide and how many pieces of candy I should divide in the play, we expressed these in mathematical terms. Force them to recite, and evaluate and rate them with uniform standards. We thus ignore the child's super high cognitive ability, the children can grasp the interesting intellectual activities as a whole, decomposed into a small and boring knowledge point, the result is that the child loses the curiosity about learning, so they begin to be bored with learning, at the same time, when we ignore the child's strengths, and put forward too high requirements for the child's shortcomings, such as their situational transformation and emotional management ability, in the previous part, we mentioned, Children need a lot of freedom and plenty of time to study in the optimal area.
But look at what we're asking our kids to ask for now, 20 minutes to get dressed and wash, 15 minutes to eat, 40 minutes to speak, 40 minutes to math. Children are always in a state of rapid transformation, they do not have the opportunity to stay alone, there is not enough time to deal with their favorite subjects, in the constant forced to learn in a way they do not like at the same time, the children's physiological characteristics lead to them can not be so rapid conversion of the situation, so they are always constantly urged, faster, do not rub how old you are in a daze, how do you have so many small actions, so the child is very unhappy, the adult is also very unhappy, and because the emotional management is not in place, Children can easily lose their temper.
Some of these children move a little slower than others, or have more small movements, and most of the time, this situation will gradually disappear with age, but the uniform standard is that we can't stand this slowness. This has led to a dramatic increase in the number of children identified as ADHD in recent years, and we do not deny that some of them are truly ADHD.
Treatment is needed, but there are other parts of the child who have been really wronged, not that the traditional way of learning is not beneficial. In fact, he is very important in basic education, but at the age of four, we force our children to spend a lot of time learning content. By the age of six, he can grasp very simply, so there is really no point in rushing him, well, the above is the second focus of this book to give children the best chance to grow.
The third focus of the book: how adults should accompany and educate preschoolers, elika once mentions a little girl named Stella in the book, whose parents are anxious because the way kindergarten teachers teach is very outdated. But they changed their minds when they got up close and personal with the teacher, who clearly liked their daughter. He gushed about Stella's interesting performances in class, admiring his cleverness and cuteness, and Stella obviously liked the teacher very much, and their relationship was very harmonious. And that was enough to counteract his outdated teaching methods. Yes, maintaining a good relationship with your child is much more important than a new teaching method.
The authors have discovered the fact in years of research that in a child's mind, love and learning are two mutually reinforcing concepts As long as the relationship is close enough, the child can learn a lot of useful knowledge from the interaction of interpersonal relationships, and such interaction requires adults to observe the child with an uncritical eye. Accompany them as an equal and soon they will invite you to join their world. Tell you about their findings with a gesture of trust, and you can quietly know them while observing.
Please dedicate at least an hour a day to spending time with your child, observing your child, and talking to him about interesting things in school. Tell him a few interesting stories, but of course that doesn't mean that just love and companionship are enough, and no other tools are needed. In fact, there are plenty of tools that play a very important role in developing children's interests and developing their own thinking, but the problem is that the tools we now provide to children are too many, whether it is a fun tablet or a kindergarten flower, we think children will like these.
But in fact, these foods will only constantly interfere with the child, so that the child's brain is more and more accustomed to the stimulation of new things. However, it is difficult to concentrate, and when the child goes to primary school, there will be inattention in class, and there will be a lot of small movements. So what kind of tools do children need, the simpler the less likely to have accidents, the better, such as books, brushes and other tools, it is difficult to have accidents in the use of children. He's not like a computer, and he can have an unexpected event at any time, such as a key failure or a game notification popping up to interrupt the child's learning progress.
At the same time, parents should ensure that their children have sufficient sleep and a regular lifestyle as much as possible, and do not often interrupt in the process of children's play and learning, which can ensure the child's learning efficiency. Helping to develop good behavior habits, there is also a problem that often occurs in the interaction with preschool children, that is, children are very prone to tantrums, which makes adults have headaches, and the root cause of this problem is that children's emotional management ability is very weak. However, we often ignore this problem, thinking that children should also be able to manage their emotions like adults.
According to the authors' research, young children are very similar to adults in terms of emotional feelings, they have a variety of strong emotions such as joy, anger, jealousy, etc., and because of their age and experience, the events that trigger these emotions may be very small. For example, the damage of a toy, the loss of a piece of sugar, these trivial things in the eyes of adults may trigger the same emotional reaction as the child falling to the ground, but in the eyes of adults, this is unreasonable, so parents and children are very unhappy. Children will not express their emotions correctly, and parents will not respond correctly.
The third important point is here. Let's summarize that for children, love and learning are two complementary concepts. It is more important to maintain a harmonious relationship with your child than to advanced teaching methods, as long as you observe without judgment and treat them equally, your child will take the initiative to invite you into his world. In life, we should also pay attention to providing children with simple tools that are not prone to accidents, such as books, paintbrushes, computers, mobile phones and other electronic products. At the same time, do not easily disturb and interfere with the child's attention when learning and playing, and finally the child also has a strong emotional need, and the child's emotions should be handled as a big thing.
We need to maintain a rapport with our children, observe them without judgment, and participate in their lives. At the same time, try to keep a certain regularity in your child's life, give them plenty of time, don't easily disturb them, try to avoid electronic products in the choice of tools, and face their feelings when children have emotions. Comfort them, tolerate them, don't suppress them, don't ignore their emotional needs.