Many people think that whether boys and girls can come together depends on fate.
"It's yours sooner or later, it's yours, it's useless not your demands." It sounds like there is some truth, but it is too negative and obliterates people's initiative.
In fact, when boys and girls get along, there are many important time nodes, if you can master some small skills, it is of great help for the deepening of the relationship and the heating up of feelings.
The technique is not to say that the girl is routine, but it uses some psychological effects on the basis of sincerity, which is more in line with human nature and easier for girls to accept.
When many boys pursue girls, they always rampage, either too strong or too humble, which is easy to backfire.
The "decoy effect" is one of the common effects in the psychology of love, the name is easy to make people have bad associations, it also has a more neutral name, the asymmetric dominance effect.
Simply put, when people choose two equal options, the addition of a third new option (bait) makes an old option more attractive.
For example, in the relationship, when boys confess to girls, most people ask girls: "Are you willing to be my girlfriend?" Girls face this problem, there will only be two answers, "good" or "bad", if it is the former of course, everyone can be happy, but if it is the latter, it seems to cut off the possibility of the development of the relationship between the two people.
The girl who answers "yes" must be very sure that the boy is the person she is looking for, and will immediately agree to it.
Otherwise, even if girls have a little affection for boys, but they are not very sure, they will mostly refuse to face this problem.
If the boy had been able to take advantage of the "decoy effect" when he confessed, the results might have been very different.
The same is to confess to the girl, the boy will say: "I like you, want to be with you, you don't have to answer me right away, I don't want you to have pressure, we can start with friends, get to know each other, and then you make a decision, can you?" ”
Such an expression gives girls a buffer zone, unless girls especially hate you, they will not refuse.
The bait effect in love is a way to give a compromise and give the relationship one more possibility.
This compromise is easier for the other person to accept than to ask the other party to make a decision right away.
In the development of the relationship between men and women, as long as the girl is willing to contact you, you have an advantage, and then try to show your advantages, be good to her, make her happy, and she will be moved sooner or later.
Boys and girls have different rules in relationships, boys enter a relationship is a process of 100 points to 0 points of enthusiasm decreasing, while girls are just the opposite, from 0-100 to increase the process.
When boys see the girl they like, it is easy to have the impulse to fall in love at first sight and immediately want her to become his girlfriend.
But girls are different, girls to determine that boys can become their boyfriends, is a plus process, rarely all at once to the boy has a great enthusiasm for the state, even if there is, most girls will use reason to tell themselves, can not be in a hurry, to first determine whether the boy is the trustworthy person.
Using the bait effect to confess to the girl is actually a process for the girl to test you, which will make the girl feel that the boy is both sincere and for the sake of understanding myself, which is very intimate.
In this process, if the boy can make the girl think that your price is very good, she will naturally take the initiative to choose you.
If in the process of testing you, there are other boys pursuing her, then as long as you have a little more advantage than that boy, it will also promote her to choose you faster, which is also the "bait effect".
Many times when people make choices, they are not entangled in making the right choice, but to choose a reasonable statement for themselves, and the appearance of bait plays this role.
Boys also use the "decoy effect" to amplify their strengths, highlight their special, can introduce your good friends to girls, and let friends become your god assists.
For example, friends are also excellent in all aspects, but he is very careful, or a straight man does not understand the mind of girls at all, relatively speaking, the characteristics of your body will be highlighted, especially some details that girls have not paid special attention to, which will attract her attention and think you are excellent.
Girls will find you more attractive and want to be close to you.
But be careful, be sure to tell your friends in advance about your relationship with the girl, try to let him cooperate with you, rather than deliberately dismantling your stage.
And don't go to friends who are obviously better than you, too deliberately highlight yourself, but will be significantly more false.
In love, sometimes a person struggles with his choices, in fact, it is not to struggle with whether to choose the right person, but to find a reasonable explanation for himself, and the appearance of the bait has played a role in fueling the waves.
If you don't know how to pursue your goddess, try the "bait effect" to make her choose faster, or even approach you.