We all know that when a man loves you, there will be a physiological response and will become proactive.
For example, take the initiative to approach you, such as taking the initiative to contact you, such as taking the initiative to pay for you, even if it is clumsy.
Therefore, we will feel that loving a person is active, when a man takes the initiative, it can prove that he loves us, if not actively it is not love.
In the field of philosophy, nothing is absolute, everything has two sides, and under certain conditions some contradictions can be transformed into each other.
That is to say, the honey of A, the arsenic of B, some things are good in one environment, then in another environment may be bad.
In the same way, some things don't seem to be very good, but in a certain environment, they show much better positivity.
Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, sooner or later you will understand that the more deeply you love your man, the more there will be "three non-initiatives".
After an argument, there will never be "initiative" and cold violence with you
The love between Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yongyi is very enviable, and many loves in the entertainment industry are in the ups and downs, some falling apart, some looking like they are separated.
Only they are always stronger than gold, and their love is as solid as a rock.
And the most important thing about their love being so smooth is that they never sit idly by when dealing with quarrels.
Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yongyi's tempers are actually not too stoic, and contradictions must exist, but their quarrels have never affected their feelings.
It is because Zhang Zhilin, after every quarrel, will think about what would happen if he lost Yuan Yongyi.
Therefore, he cherishes this relationship very much, preferring to take the initiative to admit mistakes and take the initiative to reconcile, rather than use cold violence to hurt each other, Zhang Zhilin is very cherished every day with her.
This is the manner and attitude that a man who loves women deeply takes in the face of quarrels.
There is a saying in "Key Dialogues" that goes like this: "Most of the things that affect life, if you study carefully, will find that they are caused by poor communication." ”
If you think about things from the perspective of men, they don't love women and are not willing to spend time communicating.
Since they have chosen love, they will not make women sad, so they will not use cold violence, but communicate in time and solve problems in time.
When you are sad, you will never "take the initiative" to pour bitter water with you
Emotional contagion is a terrible thing, and when combined with language as a tool, you can easily transfer your inner feelings to others.
In life, we can see:
If a person shares a happy thing with us, we will also become happy;
If the other party and we pour bitter water, then we will also affect our mood because of these unhappy things.
Therefore, the men who love you will definitely understand this truth, so they will not take the initiative to talk to you when they are sad.
Because they love you, they don't want to make you unhappy because of their own things.
However, that doesn't mean we don't need to care about men's feelings anymore.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "I just hope that there is someone who knows that I am not really okay when we say that I am okay; that there can be someone who, when I force a smile, knows that I am not really happy." ”
We can observe men's emotions and send comfort and encouragement when we perceive that the other party is unhappy, so that the other party can also feel warm and cared for.
In difficult times, it will never "take the initiative" to borrow money from you
A reader fan consulted me: "Hello, my boyfriend has joined the work, recently he asked me to borrow money, I am a student, there is no money on me, he let me find a reason to find my parents to want, do I want to lend him, what should I do?" ”
The answer I gave was not to borrow, and suggested that she in this relationship, take advantage of the time when she is not too deeply invested, quickly stop the loss in time.
Because no man is willing to show weakness in front of his girlfriend, because it will make him lose the masculine dignity in his feelings.
As long as he really wants to go on, the man will not destroy his good image in the eyes of women.
Besides, a man has no parents or no friends, so why doesn't he ask these people for help, but instead opens his mouth to his girlfriend to borrow money?
It is because he and his girlfriend can borrow money without paying it back, or borrow it, and the girlfriend may be embarrassed to ask for it.
It can be seen that men will not show their powerlessness in front of women, and they prefer that women can rely on themselves.
So, from this point, it can be seen that the man who loves you will not borrow money from you, and the man who does not love you will be unscrupulous and unscrupulous.
Of course, women should not fall in love with their brains, and they should not flood the Virgin's heart.
As Meller Sain said, "Love is not who sacrifices for whom, who does what for whom, and once love becomes like this, it is not love." ”
Love is in peace and is based on a sincere foundation. Don't add to your losses for someone who doesn't deserve it, it's a piece of advice for all women.