Having twins is very enviable. However, some twins came at the wrong time, not only did not bring surprises to mom and dad, but also put their lives in trouble.
Xiaoying has an 8-year-old son, and her mother-in-law advises her to have a second child every day. After all, a child is too lonely, there will be no relatives in the future, after giving birth to a child she can help with the child, you still go to work.
Under the persuasion of her family, Xiaoying, who was already thirty-three years old, finally became pregnant with her second child. When she went to the hospital for a check-up, the doctor told her, "Congratulations, you're pregnant with twins this time." ”
Twins are a surprise for many parents, but from the perspective of the economic conditions of the small shadow family, this has become a three-child family, which is really a little too much economic pressure. So the couple prayed every day that they could have twin daughters. In the months of pregnancy, the mother's belly is much larger than that of the average pregnant woman, and she is admitted to the hospital before the due date.
Hoping for the stars, hoping for the moon, finally arrived at the day of the caesarean section. When the nurse told Xiaoying: "4 pounds 6 two, the eldest son, 3 pounds 8 two, the younger son", Xiaoying suddenly felt that the world in front of him was shaking. Both children were sons, and with the addition of the eldest son, she became the mother of three sons.
The twins were discharged from the hospital, with the older children drinking formula and the younger sons breastfeeding. Xiaoying and her mother-in-law are at home to take care of their children, and it is far from time to go out to work. The husband's salary alone to support the family's three children, milk powder money is almost out of reach.
Xiaoying discussed with her mother whether she could help with the child and go out to work to make money. However, her mother is not willing to come to her daughter's house to take the child, her blood pressure is already high, and her physical fatigue is even more unbearable.
Xiaoying said, "You don't come to help with the children, I really don't have the money to raise these three children." Mom was also very angry, she said: "You know that you don't have money, why do you have to have three sons, this is really a deserved fate." Xiao Ying was dumbfounded, and he had no money and gave birth to three sons, was this the guilt he was looking for?
Whether to have a son or a daughter, no one can predict, even if the twins are girls, they also need to drink milk powder, need the care of their parents, and need education funds. Therefore, the birth of a second child has little to do with boys and girls, but should be prepared for acceptance by both boys and girls.
The state encourages mothers to have a second child and a third child, but mothers still have plans to have children. Economic conditions are a hard standard, and when giving birth to a second child and a third child, there will be many advantages that we cannot compare.
In families with financial means, mothers can accompany their children at home.
Mothers need the company and care of their children, and in many families, if the father earns enough money and the mother has the conditions to be a full-time mother at home, most of them are willing to have a second or third child. Because the mother does not have to worry about her pregnancy and childbirth and delay work, after giving birth, she can also have time to take care of and accompany the child.
Compared with the reasons why some mothers are reluctant to have children, raising children requires money, and there is no time to accompany children when working to make money, and such contradictions are also what many mothers need to face. Therefore, money is not omnipotent, and without money there will be many problems that cannot be solved.
Mom and Dad have the financial base to provide better living conditions for their children.
Mom and Dad give birth to their children, of course, for a happier, better life. If parents are living on a shoestring, having one more child means that the quality of life will be worse. No one wants to suffer, much less their children to suffer along with them.
Therefore, if you can't give your child a good life, it is also the idea of many mothers to prefer not to have children. If it is a mother with better family conditions, the mother will not be very hard, the child can grow up happily, and the family is more harmonious and happy.
Children can enjoy good educational resources, and children are more likely to excel.
It is difficult to produce noble children in the cold door, the growth of children, and the quality of educational resources are very critical. Some people see other people's children, who are already world champions in their teens, but what you can't see is that it costs a lot of money for parents to cultivate such a child to learn.
If the child is born in a relatively wealthy family, his education will be more advanced, and the chances of success will certainly be greater.
Of course, money is not a panacea, and it is not enough to have money to solve all problems. We as parents, in addition to creating better living conditions and educational resources for our children, mothers who plan to have two or three children, there are many other factors to consider together.
To have a second or third child, it is best to have a child at the optimal age.
The best age for a woman to have children is a few years. If you miss the optimal age to have a child and have another child, there are risks to both the child and the mother's physical health. Therefore, if the mother has plans to have a second child, it is best not to exceed 35 years old, and it is wise to have a child as soon as possible.
The family is harmonious and someone can help take care of the children.
In families with children, the mother will always be the most tired person. If the family is relatively harmonious and someone in the family is willing to help with the child, it is the happiest thing for the mother. The mother is more relaxed, and the child will also reap more happiness.
Parents really like their children, and have a second and third child.
I have seen that some families have many daughters in order to have sons, but they are not concerned about their daughters' growth and education. Parents no matter how many children they have, they should take loving their children as the initial goal, not parents who really love their children, it is best not to have children, this is irresponsible for children.
Parents like children can not be afraid of hard work, we take children, pay for children are happy.