Wen | Mu Mi
01.
Netizens ask:
In life, a heart-pounding opposite sex does not have any experience?
Someone answered:
"I feel that all the heartbeats stay in the middle school period, and I have never liked anyone again, and now I walk with the wind."
Is it that the more you grow up, the more you dare not expect someone to love you like a fire? Live realistically and soberly, making people only think that you are too cold and difficult to get along with.
Or, a person who is alone, has long been accustomed to the loneliness of life, does not want to share his emotions with others, and if someone wants to get close, he will be scared to hide away.
Or, pinning their feelings on those who are out of reach, not that they don't like to see sweet love, but also believe that there is true love in this world, but they may not have such good luck in this life.
Inexplicably, somewhat sentimental.
Decades of life, in addition to serious life, feelings can not be avoided, but how many people are after age, tell themselves again and again, forget it, find someone will be a moment, maybe you can see hope.
I don't want to be moved, the pain after the heartbeat, I don't want to experience it again, and I don't want to wait for the news of the mobile phone. Fear is the result of the other party's weighing the pros and cons, and over time, I feel that it is good to live alone.
02.
Xie Kehui said:
The truly mature concept of love is that each other has the firmness to be in love with each other, there is also the calmness of not disturbing each other, there is a vision of helping each other in the same boat, and there is also the courage to not rely on each other.
Looking at my marriage and the marriages of my peers around me, I find that most people don't really understand what the word "marriage" means when they get married.
Some people are because of a certain degree of feelings, it is difficult to end without marriage, some people are because of the problem of age, not getting married will become a worry of parents, compromise only to reassure their hearts, and some people are because the people around them have successively become a family, even if they have nothing, supporting themselves is a problem, or carrying a lot of debt, completed a major event in life.
It seems that as long as you get married, the problems that arise in life can be solved. Unfortunately, in the end, you will find that when you get married, the problem is not solved, but more.
At the end of the day, none of us understand what marriage is and what love is. The difference between them, no one tells us, can only rely on their own affection, slowly move forward.
If someone had asked me a few years ago, is it okay to get married? I would definitely answer that marriage is worth it. Now, I don't have that answer, I ask them, why get married? Is there a corresponding financial ability, and is there the courage to shoulder the responsibilities behind the marriage?
A person's real maturity is not his age, but his psychological age is how old, some people look at the 20s, but like a child, when things happen, they will only hide behind their parents, without any responsibility. However, some people have long taken the initiative to leave the protection of their parents and crawl and roll around alone.
Having experienced the pain and joy of life, I believe that this person can cherish the love you give more when he meets love, and will not abandon you at will after your deep affection.
03.
Love is late, and it will come after all.
Maybe now you, in life, don't have a person of the opposite sex who makes your heart move. Sometimes you feel relaxed, sometimes you feel empty in your heart, but whether you have a sincere and warm feeling, people always have to continue to move forward.
There is a passage in "May all the good in the world be just in time":
With someone who doesn't understand you, you suddenly feel like you're constantly injected with disappointment, constantly penetrating into your body, and then making your muscles atrophy and making you physically and mentally exhausted.
It is not a wise move to have a relationship, it is that you are using your happiness as a chip to win a smooth road ahead. I don't care about a person in my heart, and no matter how you comfort yourself, you can't get your heart. Why put yourself in such a predicament?
Man, greed, many things can not be too urgent, especially for love. This is a game of heart for heart, many people can not change the heart, in exchange for a body of pain.
Therefore, instead of pleasing each other in love, it is better to take out all your love to please yourself as soon as possible, and when someone comes to love you, you will not panic and take out all the good in a panic. If you love your neighbor as yourself, you will not be looked down upon.
When no one comes to love you, you can also stay quietly in your own small world and be at ease. Admittedly, it's easier to accept a relationship at the wrong time, but living with someone who doesn't understand you may not be as happy as you think, and more of a disappointment. Some people will choose to back down, but they don't know how to do it, giving others a reason to bully you.
In fact, love or not love, is your freedom. It's just that most people don't want to be alone, so they choose to be accompanied by someone early. If you have not met the person who makes your heart move, you may wish to slow down, first learn to love yourself, so that you not only have a colorful life, but also make your spiritual world full and abundant, so that you will not abandon yourself at any time and cover up your light.