When things are big, they are big, and when they are small, they are small.
Ten thousand yuan a table of meals, but also inseparable from two dollars a bag of salt; a dollar to buy a lighter, can also burn a house.
The world is uncertain, pick up a thousand pounds, put down two or two, but we have not seen through.
The hardest thing in life is not to understand, but to pretend to be confused.
If you see it clearly, but it's too real, then you lose in the first place.
01
Too real life: the pattern becomes smaller.
Lin Yutang said: "The reason why people are sad is because they don't see far enough, and before the future comes, how to know the so-called predicament now is not a good thing." ”
Reality shows that a person likes to be more true than "what", and his pattern is so big as "what".
For example, a person who enters the workplace always wants to become the leader of the unit. What he tried his best to get was the pattern of "one hand". If the level of the first leader of this unit is the level of the main department, then the pattern is positioned at the "level of the main department", and no matter how hard you try, it will not change.
Smart people know how to "jump out of the circle and see the circle". As an outsider, then the pattern is big. He does not fix himself in any circle, but lives happily.
Although the people in the besieged city are safer, they do not have the sea and sky outside the walls. This is the difference between the frog at the bottom of the well and the big fish on the bottom of the sea.
As the saying goes: "The sea is wide with fish leaping, and the sky is high for birds to fly." ”
A person who does things as a person needs to be more true, but to the point where he cannot be changed by being more true, he should let go. In the dead end, there is no way out, but back, is the exit.
02
Too real couples: Marriage is so difficult.
"Chinese-style divorce" said: "Treat life, do not need to be too true, thick, tolerant, confused, better than anything." ”
Many couples live the enviable days of others, but they are divorced, which is lamentable.
People who get too close to each other can see each other's appearance, and they will also find freckles on each other's faces, and they will also see wrinkles in the corners of their eyes and dirt on their teeth.
A colleague of mine used to blame his wife for not knowing how to take care of her skin. The wife responded, "If you hate me for not looking good, go find someone else." ”
Contradictions have since erupted, and the usual grievances have become the "capital" of the war of words.
Smart men think, "If your wife doesn't care for her skin, it means she's confident, frugal, and will live her life steadily." ”
A writer once said: "Live a marriage in the way of love, there is no one who does not fail, and you must eat marriage as a meal and love as a snack." ”
A good marriage is a dragonfly model. That is to say, couples also have days of separation, there are also times when they play dumb puzzles, and there are times when they are silent and smile with their heads down.
Look at each other with eyes that are not far away, and the height of the distance is different, which is also unique. You see through the shortcomings of marriage, but don't remember it, otherwise as soon as you go home, you will be "blowing your beard and staring".
03
Too real affection: brotherhood and brotherhood.
There is a saying in the Cai Gen Tan: "Speaking in the true state, no matter the parents and brothers, that is, all things are one." ”
From the perspective of the realm of being a human being, leaving aside material things, then brothers, sisters, parents and other flesh and blood relatives belong to the same as "me".
The palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are all meat, and the children are the flesh of the parents' hearts, and there is no distinction between inside and outside.
If you are generous, then your money is in the hands of your parents, as if it were in your own right hand; the money is in the hands of your brothers and sisters, just as it is in your own left hand.
If you are very competitive, you have to compete with your relatives for property, and you have to quantify your feelings and money, and your family will not be at peace.
In the "Cautionary Tale", there is a woman named Zhao Jingniang, who is very beautiful and has a home in Puzhou. One day, she was caught by a group of bandits and caught thousands of miles away from Qingyouguan.
A man named Zhao Dalang drew his sword to help him, snatched Zhao Jingniang out of the bandits' hands, and sent her back to her hometown.
Zhao Jingniang's family believes that how can this Zhao Dalang save people for no reason, there must be a mystery in it, it is uncertain, what he covets is beauty.
No matter how Zhao Jingniang explained, her family did not believe her, and insisted that Zhao Dalang was such a person.
In desperation, Zhao Jingniang used her death to prove her innocence.
The tragedy that could have been avoided happened because of the stubbornness of the family.
In a family, whether it is calculating feelings or property, as long as it is "not letting go", it must be a disaster.
04
Too real rule: there is no way back.
If you can't, you will be limited by rules and regulations, and finally you will be cornered.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, the Chu people attacked the Song State. Song Xianggong had already lined up and waited by the Hongshui River. Gongsun Gu, the minister next to him, said, "Let's start as soon as possible, don't wait for the Chu people to come ashore." ”
Song Xianggong did not listen, believing that a gentleman could not attack the weak and small in a war, and could not win without force.
As a result, after the Chu people came ashore, they beat the Song army to the ground, and Song Xianggong was also injured.
For the fierce enemy, how can we pay attention to "benevolence"? Only when encountering noble people can we use the principle of "gentlemen do not move their hands" and pay attention to "hoeing the strong to help the weak".
There is a kind of mistake called "admitting death.". Put some truths, copy them raw and rigid, and stick to the end.
Dare to be more truthful with the truth, there is no mistake, but if you do not use it flexibly, you will make the mistake of "carving a boat and seeking a sword", and you will only lose yourself.
05
People who are not more real are the big winners in life.
There are two sides to everything, you can turn left, you can also turn right, you can also move forward and backward, you really can't hold back, you can give up.
The ancients said: "Change is the general, the general is long." ”
There are many ways to reach the goal, and it is too much of a competition and completely unnecessary. At a certain point, it should be let go; at a certain height, it should go downhill.
Winding paths, more steps, although time-consuming and labor-intensive, but also to see different scenery, it is not a good thing. As long as you win in the end, all the things you have lost before will come back to your life in another way.
A lot of things, without results, are the best results. For example, when you meet someone you love but can't love, you don't have a relationship, you are free, and there is no emotional crisis between each other.
Hold the rose tightly and you will be stabbed; look at it from a distance and you will smell the flowers. Different ways of doing things, different endings, not having, can be beautiful.
For the rest of my life, half pick up and half put down.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.