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"The age difference between the two children is too small, and sleeping at night is a problem."
My friend said this to me with a sad face. Her eldest had just turned 2 years old, and she had a second eldest. Because I have to get up at night to feed the second brother and change the diapers, I am afraid of delaying the boss's sleep. Just discuss let the boss and grandma sleep or dad sleep, originally pregnant when afraid of the boss kicking the stomach, the boss has already slept with the grandmother.
But after the second was born, the eldest was determined not to sleep with his grandmother anymore, nor did he sleep with his father. And the temper has become particularly grumpy, love to cry, at night to find the mother to sleep, how to coax can not do, friends at night to manage the second, but also to coax the boss, almost collapsed.
After listening to my friends' vomiting, I can fully imagine their chickens and dogs jumping at night, and my friends' hearts are exhausted. Hey, it's not easy to be a mom. The age gap between the two children is too small, and there are indeed many problems. So if the boss has not yet slept in a separate room, and there is a second brother, how to sleep? A friend's choice is wise. After giving birth to the second eldest, who does your eldest sleep with? Smart mom's choices benefit the family immensely.
Let the second brother sleep with his father and play the value of his father
This friend said that the eldest is not yet three years old when he needs his mother, and he can't let the boss leave him at night because he has the second eldest, which is unfair to the boss. Her approach was to let her father sleep in another room with her second brother, go over at night when she needed to breastfeed, and sleep with her in her arms.
This approach is that although the first two years of having the second eldest are very hard, the two children are particularly well-behaved. Now the eldest has slept in separate rooms, the second is two years old, I slept with my husband and the second, the second is very close to the father. And because the husband personally sleeps with the second eldest, he has a special sense of accomplishment, and now the sense of family responsibility is particularly strong.
The advantages of sleeping in this way are: on the one hand, because of the birth of the second eldest, they neglect to snub the boss, resulting in the lack of security of the boss and affecting the physical and mental health of the boss. At the same time, it also allows Dad to actively participate in it. Many times it is not that the father can't do it, but many mothers are not at ease to let the father take care of the newborn child, the child was just born without arousing the father's sense of responsibility, and later many fathers no longer participate in the baby, which caused a series of family conflicts.
When a child is just born, it is a good time for the father to quickly participate in parenting and awaken his father's identity. Letting the father sleep with the second son can quickly cultivate the father's parenting skills, and also give play to the value of the father, so that he can exchange a sense of achievement for the child's efforts. At the same time, the father can also better appreciate the hard work of the mother with the baby, and the more understanding and consideration for the mother, the man's sense of family responsibility will be enhanced. More importantly, when men take their babies at night, men do not have the energy to think wildly and come nonsense, which is more conducive to the feelings of husband and wife and family harmony.
【Topic discussion: After your family has the second eldest, who does the eldest sleep with? 】
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