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Don't know if you believe it or not?
For many people, people who feel that their careers are successful are because of good fate, and those who have not been favored by opportunities are easily attributed to fate.
In fact, these are some very one-sided statements.
After all, no one can predict the future, and what we can do is to grasp the present and see the reality.
Zhang Ailing said: "People always feel happy when they are close to happiness, but they suffer from gains and losses when happiness is carried out. ”
Deeply believe, do not feel that happiness is far away from yourself, those women with good fate, most of them see the truth of these three marriages.
1, no matter who you live with, in the end, you have to live with yourself
I don't know if in real life, you have ever encountered such a problem:
When ming and his lover first got married, they were very affectionate every day. However, over time, you will feel that choosing to marry the other party is a mistake.
This is not an isolated case, but we are accustomed to standing in our own shoes and using the standards of ideal conditions to demand our lovers.
In this way, if the other party cannot meet their expectations, then quarrels and contradictions are commonplace.
There is a saying that says, "Don't rely too much on anyone in this world, because when you struggle in the darkness, even your shadow will leave you." ”
Admittedly, dependence can make us lose ourselves and not have a future.
In the end, marriage is with yourself.
Just like Feng Xiaoqin in "Heart Residence".
She married from abroad to Shanghai in order to make a home in the big city. In order to make her life better, she let her husband keep examining and doing her best to pay for the family, but she did not know that in exchange for it, it was the exclusion of the Gu family.
Therefore, she can only use her own actions to win the approval of her family.
Even after Gu Lei's accidental death, she had to support the whole family alone.
Married women who have reached middle age are so busy that they can't improve themselves, it is very sad.
Therefore, the most popular Feng Xiaoqin proposed to open a nursing home, and she finally had her own career and realized her self-worth.
I have to say that a woman who lives as herself is really beautiful.
After all, only you have the ability, no matter what happens in the marriage, you can eventually retire.
2. Love others in moderation and love yourself unconditionally
There is a saying that says, "Love, do what you can." There is love with a weak heart, but it is just a dead end. ”
Deeply believed, love is too full, things will be reversed.
In marriage, it is necessary to maintain with love, but not only love to maintain, but also need to use responsibility to maintain.
A woman with a good fate never puts her fate in the hands of others.
Recently, after watching "Our Marriage", I was deeply impressed by the plot inside.
The play is mainly about the theme of stay-at-home mothers, reflecting the contradictions between married women in work and family today.
As a graduate student at a key university, Shen Huixing should have had a bright future, but after getting married and pregnant, she resolutely chose her career and returned to her family to take care of her children.
During her six years of caring for her family, she didn't have any work experience.
Until later, when she planned to go to work, the embarrassment of being rejected when recruiting made her suddenly understand: It turns out that if you over-pay your love for your family and ignore your own promotion, then society will also eliminate you.
Even though she later successfully entered the workplace, she started as an intern.
For a woman with a family, it has to be said, it is tragic.
It can be seen that we can pay for the family, but there is no need to give up the opportunity to grow up.
People are social animals, and when you are disconnected from society, you will also become less like yourself.
Loving yourself well is the best investment in yourself.
3, do not believe in men's mouth "I raise you"
Many marriages begin with the heart and end with betrayal.
When in love, many men may make promises to women, and women believe it.
However, when you really enter marriage, you know that marriage is just a chicken feather.
Someone said, "Since you are not the sun, don't take away her light, trust and then destroy it before it hurts the most." ”
Deeply believed, women trust men too much, and eventually lose badly.
In the drama "Our Marriage", Jiang Jing is willing to be a stay-at-home mother and regards her husband as her boss.
Wholeheartedly for the family, in the end found that the other party not only maintained ambiguity with other members of the opposite sex, betrayed himself, but also secretly transferred his own property, so that when the final divorce, Jiang Jing did not share anything.
The public thinks that women are very realistic, so why not men?
When a man's love for you always stays at the level of saying, women must be sober in time.
No man who can "raise you" in his life, raising himself is the best way to live.
Xiaoyuan's message: A woman with a good fate will never consume herself too much. I will not put all my energy into the family.
Marriage should not become a woman's shackles.
Happiness is always in your own hands, how you treat yourself, how life will give back to you.
For the rest of your life, love yourself. Share!
Topic: What do you think of a woman with a good fate?
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