I don't know where I heard a sentence, and I was impressed: it's not that I don't love, it's just that I don't love it so much.
In the relationship, this feeling is often understood, but we just don't want to admit it, try our best to pretend, and in the end it is just our own wishful thinking.
Some people say that there are three things in life that cannot be hidden: cough, poverty, and love, and you want to hide it, but you want to cover it. We are always full of expectations for love, imagining it beautifully, even treating it as a very sacred thing, and when it collides with reality, the dream will fall apart.
So, when a guy abandons you, don't imagine how affectionate he was for you. You just have to understand that he doesn't love you, he just doesn't love you so much, and as a spare tire we have to have this realization.
01
Love can not try, cold and warm self-knowledge
There was a girl who had been dating a boy for 5 years, and the two had reached the age of talking about marriage, and in her heart she always thought that he loved her. Suddenly one day she wanted the boy to confess a second time, so she sent him a sentence on WeChat: "I don't want to be your girlfriend." Before the next sentence could be uttered, she wanted to say, "I want to be your wife." But the boy quickly replied: "I don't love you anymore." Then she was blacked out, and the girl seemed to understand something, so she looked at the phone and cried sadly.
In the end, we don't have to think about it, some people say that girls "do" and break up this sensitive word on their lips; some people say that the boy has always treated her as a spare tire, just found an excuse; and some people say that she has always thought that he has always loved her, but reality gives her a big mouth.
Many times, we love a person, are willing to go to the soup for him, burn ourselves, but it is really not until he is responsible that we know that our love is not as beautiful as imagined. People will always seek advantages and avoid harms, and when we can't face reality, we will always choose to escape. Many people think that escape is temporary, but sometimes it is a lifetime.
02
You think she understands you, but he doesn't want to understand you
F: You don't understand me at all. (Sad)
M: You don't say how do I understand you? (A little annoyed)
F: I really don't need to say. (with a little temper)
M: Didn't I understand what you said? (A little angry, accentuated tone)
F: What does it mean to say it, I don't say you should understand it. (Accentuated tone, already on the verge of eruption)
M: I'm not a fortune teller, how much do I know you mean? (Completely angry, accentuated tone)
F: I don't mean anything? (If you want to concede defeat, you can't get off the stage with face)
M: Really not interesting? (very tired tone)
F: Now that I'm talking, you don't think it's interesting, aren't you? (Utterly furious)
M: Am I saying it doesn't make sense? (Rebuttal, say it out loud)
F: So I said it's not interesting, is it not interesting? (Weak Rebuttal)
M: Then you tell me, what do you mean? (Utterly furious)
F: Okay, then I'll tell you what I mean by that. (Dead to him)
After reading this dialogue, many people's first sigh is that girls are so unreasonable to make trouble, it is so difficult to be a man, but is this really the case? Love in this world is the most grinding thing, but a woman's heart is the most difficult thing to understand.
You think that after spending so long together, he will understand you and understand your love, but he actually doesn't want to understand you at all, and what you think is always just what you think. Although the two people are together, no matter what you do, it is good to him like crazy, it is more important to him than yourself, and he acts that he does not care. The heart is sad and helpless, but pretends to be beautiful, just like the quarrel above, it looks so pale and weak, and the kind of cold heart can be felt across the screen.
03
Your love is the root of his boredom
You never think: Is this kind of love of mine what he needs? You think give him the best love and he will reciprocate it with the same love. And his sudden disregard for people, is his heart already tired of it? You obviously understand, but why don't you want to admit it?
Ah Xiu and her boyfriend have been in love for two years, and it was because she took a look at the street that she happily talked about love. In order to chase him, she gave up her superior and comfortable job and moved to less than 300 meters from him to work as a waiter in a restaurant. In order to make his stay better, she asked the family for money to buy a house. In order to let him go out and have face, she used her years of savings to buy him a scooter. In short, we have never seen such a stupid woman in our opinion.
But such a stupid girl always defended his goodness in front of us, but she forgot who accompanied her in the women's and children's hospital, miscarried to sterilization, but she still thought that he loved her. She did everything for him, and gradually he got used to it. But forget, she sent a message, he did not return until the next day, always said busy on the phone, obviously separated by less than 300 meters, but he could not even see each other for a day.
We all tried to persuade her, but she said: I love him, be good to him, and don't want anything.
Is it? Really don't want anything in return? So why are you so choked up when you speak, with tears in your eyes, do you think your love is great? All you do is touch yourself, but he feels that it is a kind of pressure, but he is more tired of you and away from you.
Emotional Message:
Don't think that the love of your moth to the fire, he will like, that is what you think, not what he thinks. If you really want to ask him whether he loves or not, he will say, not that he does not love, but he does not love so much.
You simply don't understand that you're not the person he wants, and no matter how perfect you are and how deeply you love, he won't be satisfied. Because human nature is inherently lowly, the easier it is to get things, they will not be cherished, and as a spare tire, you must be enlightened.
If you really love him, then you silently endure all unfair treatment, and even if you let him know, he won't care. If you can, give everything to time, put this feeling in the corner of your heart, and forget it, then be a good memory of your own.